I am getting married to my boyfriend whom I love so much. I know i have a lot of bad habits and I know I have an attitude and he has a lot of bad habits too. When we get married, how can I I make it work? How can we tolerate each other? How ca we make this work?
2007-10-27 14:19:44 · 9 answers · asked by Little Older, Much Wiser 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
communication is key! You both have your bad habits and some of them you can't help. Everyone has them! You love them or ignore them, that's the best thing you can do.
If you really need to get down to the core of some stuff you two do that drive each other crazy, talk to someone professional. It is such a good idea to do this while in the beginning of you marriage because those can be the hardest times of your relationship. Think about it and see if it would help your situation.
Good luck and congratulations!
2007-10-27 19:47:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get counseling before the marriage and decide how to work together to eliminate the bad habits of each other. If you can't do that, it is better not to get married or it will only hurt one of you eventually, but love can overcome everything if you let it and do not hold it back. you might be able to do things to help each other get over bad habits by such things as a jar you have to put a dollar in each time you allow one of your bad habit so occur. Get the counseling first or you probably won't make it as a couple and just get on each other's nerves.
2007-10-27 21:32:49 · answer #2 · answered by Al B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first you need to understand that getting married doesn't solve any problems. It really just magnafies the problems that already exist. So you guys should really focus on the problems NOW! and if you can't resolve them totally or at least compromise that don't do it. Try premarital counseling. Also, its great that you have acknowledge that you have issues too, that is the first step. Now, the next step is even harder than the second. You have to take action to change those issues, when you know better you MUST do better, if you want real happiness.
2007-10-27 21:26:58 · answer #3 · answered by Mrs.G-unit 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you thought about counseling? Is he willing to make this work? Couple's counseling? As long as the effort are coming from both of you and you both are for this, by all means, work it out. Don't wait until you get married, do it NOW. At least you'll get an early start on trying to make the rest of your lives turn out to be for the better....and getting married is just a reward for your hard work that you both put into making the relationship work and leading to a marriage.
Good luck to the both of you.
2007-10-27 21:26:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Pick your battles wisely. Both of you write down your 'Must Have's and discuss them. put up with the rest. And always tell each other you love each other.
2007-10-27 22:04:36 · answer #5 · answered by GoodGuy53 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you have to ask, you haven't been together long enough to find out and probably should not be getting married so quick.
The rat
2007-10-27 21:24:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just as long as you both recognise and accept each others faults (and it sounds like you do) you have nothing to worry about babe...good luck :)
2007-10-27 21:30:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just realize that whose right and whose wrong means absolutely nothing
2007-10-27 21:24:39 · answer #8 · answered by SteelRain 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't try to change him and he shouldnt try to change you. accept each other for who you are. it should come naturally to please and respect each other
2007-10-27 21:26:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋