My wife hates going to Las Vegas. Whenever the chance comes up for the two of us to go, she reluctantly goes and complains about it the entire time. 3 months ago, I was activated and deployed to the Middle East. My wife recently decided to go to Las Vegas with friends for a bachelorette party. She even took 1/2 day off work to do it. Should I be worried? I can't stop thinking about what is going on and how I can keep myself sane!!! HELP!!!!
2007-10-27 13:39:11 · 16 answers · asked by Worried in Middle East 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Just take a deep breath, chief. As a military wife AND an Army Vet (OIF III) I just want to tell you to keep your head in the game. It's important to know what's going on at home, but it is IMPERATIVE that you concentrate on the task at hand (which happens to be watching your own and the backs of your battle buddies.) Have faith in your wife. Perhaps she just needed something to keep herself busy and Vegas seemed like a good escape from the reality of being alone due to Deployment. Trust me when I say this, it is defintiely lonely. My husband is also currently deployed and I deal with it in different ways. Keeping busy is key though. Don't freak out unless the next time you check the bank it's looking a bit bare. Take care out there, keep your head down and come home safely.
2007-10-27 13:53:33 · answer #1 · answered by BlackSparrow 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry - if she hasn't enjoyed being in Vegas before, then she isn't going to have any sort of great time now. She's probably just wanting to spend some time with her friends.
She needs her girlfriends more than ever now with you gone - so she's trying to make sure that the connection she has with her friends is solid by going out to the bachelorette party - even though she doesn't like the town it's being held in.
Don't worry - she still loves you and won't do anything you wouldn't do.
2007-10-27 20:47:30 · answer #2 · answered by Mirage 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sir, thanks for your service!
If you feel worry be open and say it to her regardless of how she can react. And second if you feel resentments that she don't use to go out with you as you wish, then you should say that before. She probably won't know and can't read your mind that is a bother-issue for you. Do you know some of her friends? You say that she hate Las Vegas, why caused that she hated it before? Does she always has been a person that like to go out more with friends than with you? By your question, looks like she does not want to go out with you that often but she prefers to go with her friends. IF she at least time to time go with you out, I wouldn't worry. In someway she told you that she was going to Las Vegas...she could say nothing about it. Being in the military is not an easy task for each side. good luck and take care.
2007-10-27 20:50:53 · answer #3 · answered by yada yada 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure with you gone, she's trying to do ANYTHING to keep her mind off you, and where you are, and what you're doing. Going to Vegas with girlfriends, while maybe not her cup of tea, will at least get her out of the house, involved with some of her friends, and doing something else. While you're worried about her, she's just as worried about you, if not more so. This is probably a time when you're both going to do things you wouldn't ordinarily do, but then, it's not an ordinary time in your marriage. It's going to take alot of work and alot of trust to keep your marriage through this trying time.
I honestly wouldn't worry about her. She's probably fine. Talk with the chaplain if it will make you feel better. Just please keep yourself safe over there, and come home soon!
God bless you and your family!
2007-10-27 20:46:07 · answer #4 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
In all probability the only reason your wife wants to go to Las Vegas is to be part of the bachelorette party with her friends. If she wanted to cheat she wouldn't be doing it in front of all those people.Don't worry about it.She will be fine.
P.S. Thank you for serving your country.This nation supports its troops in Iraq.
2007-10-27 21:36:02 · answer #5 · answered by Julius C 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, THANK YOU for fighting for our country and my freedom. I truly appreciate it. Second of all, your wife is probably just really missing you and if its a bachelorette party its a girls thing and she just wants to feel involved in something. Don't worry! I am sure it is just for fun, after all you are gone and she has just the girlfriends. She deserves some fun, I am sure she loves you and wishes it was you she was with instead.
2007-10-27 20:46:53 · answer #6 · answered by Badkitty 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Look, she doesn't have to go all the way to Vegas if she was up to no good.
Maybe she knows how much you seem to like it there, and it's going to make her feel closer to you if she's there.
Maybe she just feels obligated to go because they're friends and she doesn't want to disappoint them.
I think you should just stop worrying, that's the last thing you need right now :)
I just want to thank you for everything you're doing to keep us safe. We appreciate it!
2007-10-27 21:54:05 · answer #7 · answered by Roland'sMommy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First things first. Thank you for your service as you fight for every single American! My entire family thanks you, sir!
Don't worry about your wife. It's just a girl thing and it's really all about the bride's bach party, I'm sure. She just wants to have some fun and I'm sure she wouldn't want you to worry either. So don't!
2007-10-27 21:04:48 · answer #8 · answered by butterflylover 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you shouldn't be,... .She needs time for herself too. You should trust her, Maybe it's hard because you know how the service members are when they're deployed,..... you get to travel, what does she do? I say don't worry, just love her.
2007-10-28 00:25:56 · answer #9 · answered by so_delicious79 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she was going to cheat on you, she wouldn't need to go to Vegas to do it.
Relax. You know your wife, stop being crazy.
2007-10-27 20:43:50 · answer #10 · answered by von_meat_helmet 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋