What has made Ur marriage so good?

Question

What has made ur marriage good. tips that i should know.

Answer 1

Dear,

Loving, understand and caring each other. Husband and wife as a piece. One half of the body is the wife and the other half is you yourself.

Answer 2

We celebrated our 15th wedding anniversary this year.
This is how we keep it together.
We support one another, emotionally and intellectually.
We take a shower together before bedtime.
We never let our kids divide us. It has always been - "What did your father say - what did your mother say - and honey, did you tell Brian he could go to the mall with Katie, just wanted to confirm before I gave an answer".
When we have to discipline the kids, we discuss and agree upon what we are going to do first, then punish so there is no arguing after about - I thought you were too hard on them.
We send the kids to grandma's at least twice a year to get away for some alone time.
Our kids are not allowed in our room, ever. It is a no kid zone.
We openly hug and cuddle in front of our children to make them feel secure. Our kids unfortunately have a lot of friends that have parents that are divorced.
The loveseat is ours, no kid zone.
We hold hands.
We hold hands when we sleep (true).
I do not sit across from him at the table, I sit next to him. He sits at the head of the table.
He wears the pants in the family, but he is also a great cook and he helps me clean up after dinner.
We talk about everything.
We listen to one another.
I love college football and he loves me for it.
I tell him he is wonderful and I love him everyday.
He tells me I am too good for him and he is blessed that I chose to marry him.

I know it sounds too good to be true, and we have had some hard times. But, we had each other and we never knocked each other down. We survived the loss of our first born, a major move to save his job only to have him laid off eight months later, having to move in with his parents for six months until he found another job while I was four months pregnant with our second child, the diagnosis of autism in our third child, the unexpected loss of my husband's younger brother - he was killed by a drunk driver.

So, a good marriage, stick to the vows.
To have and to hold, from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and health, until death do us part.

Answer 3

Gripe session. Periodically we have a open discussion. We can say what ever is on our minds, we yell, we cry, we get it all out and leave it. It's very healthy. When you talk about the little things that upset you (like not picking up after yourself, or playing too much golf) they don't evolve into big problems that are harder to resolve.

Hope this helps

Answer 4

The ability to accept responsibility when we're wrong and not being afraid to say sorry when it's necessary. Having an open mind and caring about the other persons feelings. Selflessness, maturity, communication and of course good lovin'!

Answer 5

Wow..No one has mentioned trust. Without that you have nothing. Someone said great sex but they had nothing else. How sad..
Friendship, respect, same core values, communication and of course love. If you have all those things in your marriage, then the great sex will definitely be there.
We have survived the Army, on our 3rd Iraq deployment, and still going strong.
Proud Army Wife!! HOOAH!!

Answer 6

I have been with my husband 30 years this year. I love him more today than our wedding day. He stands beside me in bad times and I do the same for him. And let me tell you we have been through some tough times. We have two adult kids. We are both very romantic and love spur of the moment private times, so don't let the clock rule your private moments either. Love is good anytime, anywhere! It also helps to have goals some things in common. Finding your soul mate isn't but when you do, fireworks!
Good Luck

Answer 7

Well, my hubby and I are friends....we listen to each other (not all the time, but most of the time!!). We try not to 'sweat the small stuff'. We try to overlook the little things that cause us to aggravate each other. He takes care of my elderly parents, and I welcome his mom once a week to dinner.
We send an email to each other each day at work to see how the other is doing. He cooks, I clean up after him.
Sooooo....I guess we're doing okay because we try to be patient and understanding, and show that we care about each other. We forgive quickly, and never go to bed upset with each other.

Answer 8

I think my marriage is good because my husband and I are so similar - our values and core beliefs are the same and he is just a good person with a heart of gold.

Answer 9

before i met my husband, i always tried to make sure that my life had balance. now with my husband, i still have balance, possibly more balanced than ever. however i don't beleive that there is any one thing, its a combination of things, feelings, material stuff, sharing, caring, accepting, changing, listening, not listening even, so much!!! a good marriage is what you make it together. i like to assess things & ask questions, my hubby sometimes gets impatient with me & sometimes says that i think too much, but mostly he understands & accepts that thats a part of who i am & how im made. im glad that he listens to me & as frustrated as i gat at the time i am glad that he doesn't always listen to me. if he was a pushover i wouldnt respect him & i wouldn't have married him either, i prob would've tossed him out after a couple of months.
for me my husband is everything i didn't know i was looking for. i discovering that i loved him was like a sledgehammer hitting me, sudden, shocking & i didn't see it coming at all.
i think time & situations also can give one an incite to not only the individuals but the 'couple' as well. i recently had a miscarriage, i was surprised at how much i was looking forward to a baby, our baby. i was also shocked at how devasted i was at losing that baby & all that i had imagined. my husband doesn't show excitement as readily as many people, though i know he was looking forward to having a baby too, mostly by things that he said, little comments here & there. but i was really shocked by his reaction at finding out not this time, he was very sensitive & supportive of me (that bit i didn't doubt) but more just something about the way he was that showed his depth of emotion, he held me for himself as much as for me. he also realised how important having our baby is to me & reassured me that we can try again, i think too that in actually being pregnant he realised that he too wants our child. when we'd talked about children, (i have one already, going on 17y, i'm 35y, hubby doesn't have any, he's 42y), i guess for hubby it was a somewhat unimaginable concept, hubby was well not as into the idea as i was. he felt that if it happened it happened, if it didn't it didn't, but now i think that concept & his feelings have changed, & its more about funny little things than anything i can actually put my finger on. do you understand that?
anyway ultimately, i'm glad he chose me!!!

Answer 10

We are a team to be reckoned with! We stick by each other through thick and thin and only get stronger from it. And we laugh ALOT-especially at our goofy kids.