2007-10-27 13:25:58 · 22 answers · asked by saptiva4 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
cheating is unacceptable.. forget about him, he's scum
2007-10-27 13:32:29 · answer #1 · answered by MagNifiCent 1 · 3⤊ 4⤋
First of all only you can make this decision. His actions will help you decide what to do. If he is extremely and truly remorseful and sorry and ashamed of what he has done, you may decide to make a go of it. The important thing is if you can forgive him for this and the two of your work together to make a new start. He will have to earn your trust back; which takes much time. You two need to sit down and really have a heart-to-heart talk about it all. Tell him exactly how you feel and you will not stay in a relationship with someone you cannot trust; that you may be willing to work on it until he has earned your trust back, but it will take time and patience and understanding on both your parts.
No one deserves to be cheated on and let him know it is not acceptable and you will not be here if he continues on this way. He must take responsibility for his actions and take everything you dish out; he is the one who created this mess.
Hope you make it as there are too many divorces without people working through their problems. You can trust a 'cheater' again; if this was only one time and he doesn't do it again. Some men do this and feel stupid and foolish and selfish and never would have done so if they knew how hurt their wives would be. They just figure you would never find out. Good luck no matter which course you wish to take. I know it hurts; ;I've been there and am still with him and will be as long as he is true to me.
2007-10-27 16:47:41 · answer #2 · answered by pussycat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to make a choice. Do you love him enough to want to forgive him and go on with your marriage? I mean real forgiveness, the kind where you make yourself forget and never bring it up to him again no matter how angry you get. If you say you are forgiving him then you have to give him the benefit of the doubt and trust him again and let him prove his love and trust to you again.
If you don't think you can totally forgive then you should leave him. Saying you forgive him and then secretly harbor ill feelings and a grudge, will eat at you and poison any chance you have of a happy relationship with him. You would never trust him again.
It has to be your choice. Of course this depends on if he asks for forgiveness and wants to come back. If he does not then divorce him and find someone who won't cheat on you
Good Luck
2007-10-27 13:41:16 · answer #3 · answered by mn lady 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on your relationship. Can you forgive him if he claims it was a mistake and promises it won't happen again and would you be able to trust him? People cheat, people break up, and some stay together, it is a sign there is something seriously wrong in the relationship and it could be worked out, if both parties are willing to. Sometimes it is meant to be, sometimes it isn't. Only you have the answer to that. Good luck.
2007-10-27 13:35:44 · answer #4 · answered by babidollishere 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Honestly that's up to you! Can you live with him knowing that he cheated on you and that he might do it again? Can you forgive him for doing that to you??? Did you ask him why???
Me personally, I couldn't live with that! I would go crazy every day thinking is he doing it now, where is he and who is he with? I know some couples that have survive infidelity. They said it made their relationship stronger....But I can't see it! I'm the type of person who holds on to crap like that for a long time and might even end up hating him for it. See everyone is different...You do what you feel is right in your heart.
2007-10-27 13:39:18 · answer #5 · answered by irishpr 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
first decide if the relationship is worth saving. counseling would be a great start.
i have been there. counseling is a great thing. i have been there you can overcome this. if you want to.
if the relationship is worth saving get counseling to get to the root of why he cheated
if not move out and file for divorce
2007-10-27 15:37:34 · answer #6 · answered by kleighs mommy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's so easy to say divorce him, but it's not easy 2 do it, so think of yourself and if you can live with what he did if it's the only time he did it, but if it is a constant act...u might want 2 consider the divorce b/c you would be in a marriage that's not truly a marriage and you will be miserable and that's no way for anyone 2 live.
2007-10-27 13:33:56 · answer #7 · answered by puffy2step 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Decide whether or not you could trust them again. If so, take time before deciding to forgive them. Don't pretend it's okay when it's not. Counseling couldn't hurt either.
If you could never ever possibly trust them ever again, divorce time. Try counseling before deciding this though.
2007-10-27 13:39:26 · answer #8 · answered by rorybuns 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It all depends what he did after he cheated. Did he ask you to forgive him? Did he regret it? Why did he do it? Was this his first time? If you can't forgive a sincere apology you should not have gotten married.
2007-10-27 13:35:08 · answer #9 · answered by Modern Man 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Cheating is horrible, but if it was one mistake and he is truly sorry for doing it you should try to forgive him.
If he does it again you cant trust him. But breaking up a long time relationship for one mistake, no matter how big., is extreme, even for me.
2007-10-27 13:33:36 · answer #10 · answered by SteelRain 3 · 4⤊ 1⤋
If you know for sure that he is cheating on you then please saparate for awhile and see if you willing to forgive him. Everybody make mistake and man are always fail when they see a hot sexy girl. Their sex feeling is stronger then women. As long as he treats you well and responsible for his action, then u might want to give him a chance to make thing right. Hope my answer helps...
2007-10-27 13:35:52 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋