ok i know this is TMI but im worried theirs something wrong with me
Ok
well im 13 which may seem young to many people to ask this questions but in my area its quite a normal thing
the last three times my boyf has tried to poke me its hurt so badly its been unbearable and i have had to tell him to stop its not as if im not ready and most girls have done it
my best friend says it hurts alot but not unbearable so now im worried theres something wrong with me
please dont leave stupid comments like OMG if i were your parents....... because im not asking that im just wondering if this is normal or if theirs something wrong with me
another thing could be that everytime hes done it wev both been drunk and i maybe thought i was hallucinating the pain but apparently drink should numb the pain not make it worse so if it hurts that much drunk how bad would it be sober?
2007-10-27 12:57:42 · 14 answers · asked by ilhthtd 1 in Health ➔ Women's Health
Hey just wanted to say thanks for all the answers
they really made me think twice :)
2007-10-27 13:51:54 · update #1
oh and btw its called getting poked beacuse thats what its called in scotland :)
2007-10-27 13:52:43 · update #2
OK pleez dont call me a whore im not a whore i didnt ask this question to be verbally abused over the interent
2007-10-27 13:58:53 · update #3
first off its stupid to have sex that young
howver you need more foreplay it hurts because you aren't excited , being wet as they say, enough try it sober if you still want to go through with it.
You could also be stumbling because you really aren't ready to do this yet.
2007-10-27 13:02:18 · answer #1 · answered by Missy 75 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
My thoughts I have to agree with number of people and saying you are too young to be having sex if thats what you are doing.
Also in answer to your question, you might think you are ready for sex but it doesn't sound like your body is. Give it time and you will be ready. Remember you have the rest of your life to do it...start with kissing and cuddling. If you bf really cares he will understand and stay with you until you are ready. If he doesn't then he's not someone you should be doing anything with.
Also, as a side note being drunk at 13 isn't a good idea. It cause health problems for you in the long run.
2007-10-27 21:53:42 · answer #2 · answered by aque_fairy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
13 is a LOT too young. so think about it carefully But reading stuff on here isnt going to make you change your mind.
All girls feel a bit of pain firtst few times. It'll help you a lot if you are properly arroused so fingering and oral and general petting etc. then make your your fella goes in slowly, keep him informed. If youve tried all these then get a dildo (smallish one) and experiment with it a bit until you are comfortable. Just dont rush it or you could have a vaginal tear and they arent pleasant.
It could also be that you just arent physically mature enough to take a penis.
2007-10-27 20:06:43 · answer #3 · answered by Pancho 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've read the other comments with "you're too young" etc.
Well, I have a female friend who's been masturbating since the age of 9 and she doesn't have any problems. And also, I drank for the first time at 11, so at 13 you're not a child anymore.
2007-10-28 15:54:31 · answer #4 · answered by Isana 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you're describing something sexual. If you don't know exactly what you're doing then you're too young to do it. You also shouldn't be drinking. You might not have noticed the pain before or he could be more rough now. Also, you're body still has a lot of growing to do and you're not ready for that kind of thing.
2007-10-27 20:31:38 · answer #5 · answered by Rockit 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, this is not normal and if you're going to be doing it, then you should see a Dr. Get yourself some protection as well as some sound advice. Read up on diseases transferred by partners and see how many possibilities you face with such pain.
2007-10-27 20:04:01 · answer #6 · answered by danniemarie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I say it's Divine Intervention!!!!!! Stop Drinking and stop trying to have Sex! You are asking for problems you're not ready to handle! I know you're not looking for parents preaching to you and judging you but my god ...be a kid for as long as you can! But to answer your question...the pain could be be/c there is no lubrication, or be/c you're scared to death and are tensing up! In either case take it as a sign that you're not ready. make an appt to talk to a doctor or counselor and get professional advice and a check up.
2007-10-27 20:07:59 · answer #7 · answered by Chestersmom 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well for a start you should not be drinking to "numb that pain"
no matter what 13 is too young for sex play AND/OR alcohol.........
there is nothing wrong with you except the fact you are a child. children should not be getting "poked"
also if it hurts you boy'f is being too rough with you......
stick to kisses and cuddles until you are old enough to cope with a sexual relationship... (sexual includes fingering)
2007-10-27 20:39:30 · answer #8 · answered by Fluffy Cheryl♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its hurting because you are to young. If you have sex now it will always hurt just like that. Its your bodies way of preventing kids from having sex too early. Also if you have sex anyway you could damage your reproductive organs and never be able to have children.
If I were you I wouldn't risk it...just wait until you're older.
Did that work?
2007-10-27 20:42:50 · answer #9 · answered by joeybowiesmom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. if you call it getting "poked" you shouldnt be having sex.
2. you really need to go to the doctor to get some protection.
3. shouldn't you be at home doing homework or something instead out drinking?
2007-10-27 20:42:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋