I dont want to say my relationship is bad or dull right now, but it could use an emergency spark to get back where it used to be.
I asked a question in singles and dating maybe a week or so ago and got one crappy answer..... should have known better as its just a bunch of kids that go there,
Anyway, can someone whose had REAL experience beyond a 10th graders prom please give me some good ideas on what unique things i can do?
Thanks
Shawn
2007-10-27 12:55:54 · 11 answers · asked by SteelRain 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Thanks for the ideas. Ill think about a triop.. im from jersey so maybe we can visit new yotk again... it was nice and we did it this summer. Im still technically in school though, so my job isnt that great. It provides something but nothing awesome
2007-10-27 13:17:12 · update #1
lol nummy, I mean in general :)
2007-10-27 13:17:34 · update #2
Thanks guys :)
I know where to come now for my questions, atleast. Theres a lot more experience here and its good to get some ideas. What i do realize though... is that to make a relationship last its about showing her you care.....so trhanks for allowing me to see it... sometimes a bath together could be better than an expensive show or a movie.
Anyways, this is gonna be one hell of a choice for a best answer-but regardless of the points-thanks a bunch :)_
Now i just have to see if any of it really works.
2007-10-27 13:21:09 · update #3
Spend some time together when you normally wouldn't. Set up a date at a nice restaurant for you two. Surprise her with lunch at work. Take a drive to somewhere special on a weekend. Even plan a quick weekend vacation to a bed and breakfast for away from everything else. Draw a bubble bath for her at the end of the day and throw a towel in the dryer and give it to her when she's done so she has a nice warm towel to dry off with. Do something special for her and she's more likely to return the favor and do something special for you too.
2007-10-27 13:06:21 · answer #1 · answered by Rockit 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
In order to get the relationship back to where it used to be, do the things you used to do and add to that anything you can think of to break the monotony of day to day life. a lot of this depends upon where you are in the country, but to start with, perhaps a night in the most exclusive hotel where you live. Perhaps a night at the fanciest place near you that you can afford - New York City and a broadway show, Los Vegas and a night club, Niagara Falls and see the falls at night, In Washington state a trip to Vancouver Island by ferry and so on. Add to that the things you used to do, like a box of candy or flowers and perhaps a book store can supply a copy of the kama sutra that you can explore together. I hope you find that spark again and hope one of these ideas help!!
2007-10-27 13:13:22 · answer #2 · answered by Al B 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
hey shawn,
Well I am in a LTR.. the best way to get that spark back is by doing little things for each other and communicate ! I can't stress that enough always take time out to talk to your partner everyday about your daily activitys, how your feeling ect.... its NOT gay trust me lol.. Be Romantic , slow dance with her , have a make out session untill your lips hurt :) take a bubble bath together and get frisky . I don't know how old you two are but do things you did in the begining of the relationship , that made you want each other every second of the day ! ! Every relationship gets alittle catch up in the daily life of work ect.. . also trying new things is fun :)
2007-10-27 13:31:36 · answer #3 · answered by BabyDoll 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Surprises are ALWAYS good. Anything spontaneous or out of the ordinary for you will definitely put the spark back in. So if she comes home from work one day and finds out you've booked a small weekend getaway for the two of you, even if it's just camping, it can really help things.
Some of the things me and my husband have done included:
Halloween "trick or treat" -- I dress up in something sexy and knock on the door. Kind of corny but still fun.
Drive in -- We drive up the canyon and watch DVDs and have snacks on my laptop under the stars and blankets
Just get a hotel for a night and go there and relax together. Play games, swim, sit in the hot tub, make love. It adds a spark.
Swing by her work one day and pick her up for lunch. Tell her how sexy, beautiful, etc. she looks and she'll be ready for you by 5!
Anything you know she would like
Good luck and have fun!
2007-10-27 13:13:35 · answer #4 · answered by Leah 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I am not sure if you mean in general or if you mean sexually.
If you are talking about sexually, try role play or dress-up. The fantasy of being or acting different makes it lots of fun.
If you are talking about the relationship in general, then you have to both do something new together. Sharing a new experience can bring you closer together. Like a hot air balloon ride, taking a day trip to a new city, or something like that. One great thing about traveling in a car together is it forces you to have a conversation. Maybe you guys are just stuck in a rutt and have forgotten how to just talk to each other.
Hope this helps and good luck!
2007-10-27 13:07:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
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2016-10-02 22:37:07 · answer #6 · answered by garretson 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All relationships hit "plateaus", the "I can't keep my hands off of her" can never last forever. Be thankful that it doesn't, as there are so many other levels to explore. Do not allow yourself to get complacent, your Lady still enjoys romance, romantic things and she likes to be "courted". I would suggest some open communication, weekend get aways, or finding something that is mutually interesting, the main thing is not to grow apart. In my experience I have found that a woman will repay you many times over for any thoughtful, genuine gesture you offer/bestow upon her.
2007-10-27 13:13:26 · answer #7 · answered by canuck1950 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Pack her & yourself for a spontenous mini weekend trip--she will be amazed & shocked that you went through all that trouble for her. Think jucuzzi! Don't forget to buy a new nightie for her!
Or get off early cook her dinner...have candles lite...roses all over the house...be in a sharp suit right when she gets home from work...Impressive. And she'll be like--MINE!! ;)
Be passionate...while she's cooking tell her how sexy she is...kiss her neck and work your way down...be unexpected--we love that! :) Give her your undivided attention...NO TV...
Just really listen to her...so many men only hear what they want to here--it's nice to have a caring ear w/o a solution all the time!
Really with women when you do something kind...we do something to return the favor...show her you're putting forth the effort...it will be to your advantage...you will think it's July 4th!
2007-10-27 13:04:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Good communication and spend time together will make everything back to normal. I wish my man get concern about our marriage like u do.
She will appreciate ur love.
2007-10-27 13:11:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
WELL, JUST SHOW YOU CARE COOK A MEAL FOR HER ASK IF SHE WANTS ANYTHING TAKE HER OUT SOME WHERE NICE, ASK HER IF THERE IS ANYTHING SHE WOULD LIKE TO DO AS A SPECIAL CHANGE FOR YOU BOTH,
2007-10-27 13:17:33 · answer #10 · answered by KATIEKAT 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋