Yesterday we bought me a new car since my truck was totaled in an accident. I work 3rd shift and was sleeping soundly until I heard my new cars panic alarm. I get up and to the window just in time to see him driving away to an unknown destination. My belongings were inside the car such as, Drivers licence, favorite jacket, ciggs, and other misc. items. I called him about 10 times on his cell and he didn't answer. Finnally he calls back and I find out he has taken it to show it off to MY parents. I wanted to have that joy, but noooo he always steals my joy over such things. I'm thinking about going shopping because although my debit card is in the new car, the credit card is at home with me and I have the key to his car. Also he does not smoke and I am thinking about chain smoking sitting in his car just to tick him off. Is this terrible of me to think about such revenge?
2007-10-27 12:36:36 · 21 answers · asked by firefly 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Would it tick you off to be awakened to this?
2007-10-27 12:40:31 · update #1
Divorce sound pretty good right now Glo.
2007-10-27 12:41:37 · update #2
Yes I know he is at my parents b/c I heard my dad in the background.
2007-10-27 12:42:59 · update #3
I know I sound like an immature child. But really when this type of thing happens over and over after we have disscussed it before, I do get ticked. Sue me....
2007-10-27 12:47:28 · update #4
Key word "thinking" about revenge, not actually doing it.
2007-10-27 12:50:13 · update #5
What is REALLY bothering me is his constant stealing of my "thunder".
2007-10-27 12:52:14 · update #6
Considerate of my sleep is not setting off the panic alarm just outside my window. Just thought I'd add that.
2007-10-27 12:55:45 · update #7
Good one belle, but that would crush his mom since she would be sooo disapointed when she realized it was not true. But it did make me laugh at myself a little for being so darned ticked.
2007-10-27 12:58:06 · update #8
Thanks for all the "tough love" folks. I guess I'm glad I got online instead of doing further damage. Thanks for the reality check all................
2007-10-27 13:08:02 · update #9
To bad when he walks through that door the first thing he will hear is a calm Wife saying, "I love you hunny, but we need to talk". The sheer terror he feels in that brief moment will be my sole private revenge. Then life and love will go on and this will fade quietly away. Thanks for letting me vent some frustration. Y!A rocks!
2007-10-27 13:14:43 · update #10
I'd be mad too, but obviously this isn't just about this incident. This is a build-up of frustration over him repeating a behavior that makes you feel unimportant.
I would cool off and then discuss some ground rules about agreeing on things together as a team before running off half-****** and hurting each other's feelings. I am positive he doesn't get why it upsets you. I think its nice that your husband is so proud over the car though. He sounds just as excited about it as you. I also think its nice that he went to your parents and obviously views them as his parents too. Some positives, one annoyance. Just find solutions, tell him how it makes you feel and what you would rather him do in the future. That is all. Call your parents and get the scoop on what they think of your new car.
The next time you have big news to share and want to be the first to share it, make that plan in advance with your husband. Be specific on when/who will break the news. Then this issue will go away.
In the meantime, take a walk or a shower and be kind. Its Saturday. Go have some fun with your husband.
2007-10-27 12:51:35 · answer #1 · answered by whereRyou? 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Sorry but I think you are overreacting. I am the queen of overreacting too- trust me lol.... but you need need to think and calm down b4 trying to get back at him for revenge and chain smoking in his car when he went to YOUR parents house to show them the car. You should be happy that he went there and not to cheat on you with someone else. It does sound like you are very angry still and this may not be the only reason why you are so angry at him right now. I would def. sit down with him again and tell him how you feels and explain to him how serious you are. Good luck- just take a deep breath.
2007-10-27 12:57:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Is that all he did?
My husband picked out a car for me and a truck for himself.We got a loan to buy both and instead of driving his truck he put 23,000 miles on my car in 2 months.He could not stay out of it.Then after he turned the car to crap.He goes out and borrows money on a revolving loan that I'd spent half my pay on weekly to pay down and then won't let me drive the truck.I get to drive his which is much bigger and uses way more gas.Hope he has the money to make the payments because I flat refuse to.
2007-10-27 13:32:21 · answer #3 · answered by ozzy59 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he is constantly doing this and everything else in the relationship is fine, then you have to make it a joke that he is always stealing your "thunder" and when the subject comes up simply say "You did it again or He did it again to your parents and friends Perhaps he thinks it is funny that he does that to you and when you turn it around and find it funny that he feels a need to do this, it won't be as funny to him anymore. Good Luck!
2007-10-27 12:59:21 · answer #4 · answered by Al B 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you're both really immature. You're actually angry over him driving away with the car to show it off. Big deal. It's a car! It's just a material thing. Sure, he shouldn't have driven off without telling you he was leaving or with your things. However, in all honesty, I can't believe he was dumb enough to find a car impressive and that you are actually looking for some kind of revenge over something that is ridiculous. Steals your joy over such things? You both need to grow up and get over yourselves.
2007-10-27 12:59:39 · answer #5 · answered by Rockit 6 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Sheesh if this is the only kind of marrital problem you suffer from I am jealous of your life.
The drama's that come when your kids are born will be 10 times this so just root his brains out and slap his @zz and tell him next time he steals your thunder you'll byte the top of his d*** off.
2007-10-27 13:49:16 · answer #6 · answered by JadeyOz 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
grow up and get over it. its not that serious. at least he didnt take the damn truck to show off to his chick on the side. give me a break. he went to YOUR parents house. he didnt want to wake you up since you work 3rd shift. you really need to thank him for being CONSIDERATE of you sleeping, and NOT CHEATING on you. now you thinking about doing all this stuff FOR WHAT because you wanted to show daddy first. grow up. your husband adores you and wanted to show off his WIFE selection and taste in cars. thats it thats all. you are making it more than it has to be. GodBless.
2007-10-27 12:51:18 · answer #7 · answered by Crystal G 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is really petty. Be happy. He bought you a new car.. Men loves cars so he was just excited.
2007-10-27 15:15:30 · answer #8 · answered by dbc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess I would first want to ask you what are you really mad about? There seems to be a deeper issue here. Sometimes we over exgerate when something is REALLY bothering us.
2007-10-27 12:44:51 · answer #9 · answered by greyskymourning82 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds pretty silly to me and not worth a fight. Your husband sounds like a goofball....I think if I was you I would just have to laugh at his goofy ***.
2007-10-27 12:45:23 · answer #10 · answered by az_mommma 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋