It all started at the beginning of the year. A girl in my homeroom started talking to me before class, and I was friendly to her of course. She seemed pretty harmless, so I continued to be nice. I figured out soon that her locker was right by mine and we had a few classes together. After a couple of weeks she turned into an annoyance. She would grab me and pull me to the side to just "talk" when it was time to go to class, interrupt my reading or working to bombard me with questions, and follow me around as much as she could. My friend told this girl politely to leave me alone, but two weeks afterwards she came right back doing the same things. She asked me about my friend telling her to leave me alone, and I said that I wasn't sure what my friend had meant when talking to her. I just didn't want to hurt her feelings, because I don't think she gets to see her friends (if any) between or during classes. However, I know she had several since she has mentioned them ocassionally.
2007-10-27 12:20:01 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I'm just not sure what to do! I need to say something to her, because I don't want her following me anymore. How can I say this without crushing her?
2007-10-27 12:20:53 · update #1
Just kind of gradually talk to people when she's around and if she tries to pull you aside, say you're trying to talk to them. When you're reading and working and stuff, tell her what you're doing is really important and you really need to concentrate. If you're by yourself, then try saying that you're thinking about something really important and you don't want to lose your train of thought. Good luck!
2007-10-27 12:28:54 · answer #1 · answered by somrp2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like this girl has a tremendous lack of confidence in herself and the other friends she mentioned may be just as bothered by her as you are. ask if she goes online and if she does, suggest that she check out the site, As a man thinketh because if is great for self confidence or if she doesn't go online simply tell her about it and tell it helped you build up confidence. she may be a good friend once she builds up her confidence enough to where she can deal with others besides you.
2007-10-27 12:31:47 · answer #2 · answered by Al B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
start giving her the cold shoulder...we all have to face a leech at one point in our lives. you feel bad for doing it, but hey, it's your life, too. why should you sacrifice your own happiness for someone elses, especially if you don't like them? start dropping subtle hints, don't respond so readily to her statements, don't be afraid to say no to her every once in a while.
if she pulls you aside before class, tell her straight out, "hey, you're going to make me late, i have to go."
you have to be blunt or she's not gonna leave you alone.
2007-10-27 12:36:07 · answer #3 · answered by céleste 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm... As a human leach myself, make sure to avoid her, maybe get a girlfriend who will tell you to stop.
It may just be that she wants to be your friend. Thats why im annoying.
2007-10-27 12:28:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just say, "hey, ur a really great friend and all, but i have a feeling that ur clinging to me." something like that, and say it nicely. explain it to her and then she'll understand
2007-10-27 12:28:42 · answer #5 · answered by lindsayyy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋