Why is my Daughter sutch a ***** to me.?

Question

I have a 18 teen year Daughter who i love so mutch xxx . Wee parted from her nom when she was only 1 year old .I viseted her as mutch as i could .My wifes famley a so possevis her mom morso she would ring home 8,9 tims a day to talk to her daughter my wife .Thay hated me so mutch it made me ill.my wife had MS and mentil illnes .Thay blamed me for giving her that .Now thay a brain washing her into beleaving them what can i do i love her so mutch . By the way her steo dod is a holly Jo in the home chirtch GOOD BLESS HIM MOT.

Answer 1

First of all, I apologize for some of the rude and hurtful comments from some people here. You really can't give these illnesses to people they have to have a predisposition to them. Some people may think that a person can drive them to getting diseases since the kind of life we live contributes to being vulnerable to developing certain ones. My MIL believes this, that's how I know. Inlaws can be either supportive or help destroy relationships. My advice is to continue to work on yourself and develop a stronger bond with your daughter. You might want to let her know her behavior is hurting you. That all you want is to have a good father and daughter relationship with her. You may not have to have too much contact with the inlaws so ignore them. Hope this helps even just a little. God Bless

Answer 2

Teenagers sometimes (and usually most of them) have a hard time controlling their hormones (the stuff that can drive them wild), so it can be natural for them to throw tantrums to figure out what their boundaries are, their place in society and declaration of their self expression.

I can also sense a lack of boundaries in you as a parent. you will have to be strong and do what is right and believing what you do is right in order for your daughter to respect you as a parent. Those who don't tend to let their children walk all over them and become bossy and controlling as people. I'm not saying that you shouldn't let her have her space or you should be a control freak and run her life for her, but there should be a healthy balance.

You did not give your ex MS; they are only saying that because they think they can dump their problems on you (although I am not sure if that is completely true). If your ex is possessive, it's her problem, not your's and don't let it get to you so much that it becomes your problem.

As for your daughter, you will have to let her decide whether it's your fault or not, although you probably can't make a person have MS. You shouldn't try to convince her that you're right; you don't have the right to do so either.

I recommend going to parenting classes (and prefably english language classes as well). Parenting advice can be found in your local family planning clinic (don't let other people's judgement of you affect your desire to make your time with your daughter the best you can, although I don't recommend you letting your daughter or her friends see you or know about it). English language classes can be found in any adult learning college.

good luck

Answer 3

Totally confused here. Your daughter's mom has MS and her family is trying to say that you gave her that? Okidoki then. You can start by going to an MS website and have her look at it so she can get educated that it isn't a disease caused by anyone. Next her mental illness is probably hereditary from her family because they all sound crazy to me. I don't know who holly Jo is so I can't help you with that.

Answer 4

Teenagers are notoriously grumpy, lazy mouthy and just see parents and most adults as the enemy. It sounds like immaturity to me, she will probably grow out of it. However, maybe she is listening to her family too much and believes them in what they say about you, but calling her a ***** is not the grown up way to react. Kids usually learn behaviour from the people who bring them up and if her step dad is in the church, then he should be preaching good will, nothing detrimental to you. Try telling her how you really feel without shouting and maybe she will open up to you about how she really feels. Good luck, you're gonna need it.

Answer 5

You can't give your wife MS.....that's ridiculous
Your daughter is 18, why not have her come stay with you?
Or at least arrange to spend time with her. Lunches, dinner, shopping, a trip? You're going to have to make alot more effort.

Answer 6

stay by and let her figure it all out. the more you apply to her for love and she rejects you step back and say OK have it your way. see if she comes around and asks why are you not talking to her? if not you have lost nothing.

remember about a bird if you let it fly away and it goes it is gone but if it comes back it is yours.

good luck and god bless you in your hour of need.

Answer 7

WELL, AS LONG AS YOU HAVE DONE ALL YOU CAN TO BE WITH HER & VISIT HER THEN JUST WAIT & SEE IF YOU GET A CHANCE TO TALK TO HER & YOUR EX TOGETHER & PUT YOUR CASE TO THEM BUT IF YOU CANT SORT IT OUT THEN WEATHER HER NEW HUB IS A CHURCHIE OR NOT THEY WONT GET ANY BLESSINGS TELLING LIES, ALSO YOUR DAUGHTER WILL BE GETTING HERSELF A MAN SOON THEN EVERYONE WILL BE FAR FROM HER MIND AS SHE WILL HAVE A NEW HOBBY, BUT AS LONG AS YOUR CONCIENCE IS CLEAR, STOP WORRYING & START LIVING YOUR LIFE, GOOD LUCK, P.S. DONT FORGET WHAT GOES ROUND COMES ROUND THEY WILL GET IT BACK,

Answer 8

Okay -- I'm having trouble trying to believe this is a real question from a real "adult" because of the spelling. It is SO bad on every level. I apologize if I am wrong -- but wow.

Answer 9

Well, she's 18 and about 50% of the time she's going to hate one parent or the other.

Either that or it's your eloquence that embarrasses her.

Answer 10

i have a feeling youve been drinking and uve reached the low part of the night :( go bed man :( sleep it off :(