Especially for the childrens, imagine if you have two childrens and then you were forced to leave one of them. Can you chose one from them ?? Can you live without other ??
Same is the case with those childrens who will have to chose between their father and mother ?
2007-10-27 11:25:06 · 8 answers · asked by little girl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
oh yea it is... =[
i had to face that...
i didn't have a choice i had to go with my mom
and i'm glad my sister came with... =]
To Answer your Question,
i couldn't live without both of them.. i'd make me upset..
plus i wouldn't want them to go though what i went though
without a father you know what i mean?
and i'd go with my mother becuz my father was an Alcoholic
and Probably spend all his money on that instead of taking care of me and my sister...
Also, when my mother got married to another man
i was teased and picked on and kinda abuse
which lead me into Cutting myself, (LONG TIME AGO)
but even though that doesn't happen anymore i
wouldn't want my kids to go though that...
[Forgot to menchen]
i think my step-dad and mom do love each other
but when there MAD! i mean MAD!
they go the reason i'm married to you still
becuz of my boys are here! look at our other kids
there freakin depressed becuz they don't have there
father/mother with them!
[thats what i think is totally sad right there]
2007-10-27 11:32:04 · answer #1 · answered by Ashlee Taicho 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, children is plural. Please stop putting an "s" at the end of it.
Secondly, divorce can be a nightmare, but take it from someone whose parents should have divorced a long time ago, it can also be a saving grace.
My father was an alcoholic and my mother did nothing about it. So, we were raised in a hateful household full of name calling, constant fighting, abuse, and all that led to our own problems with addiction and alcoholism and meeting and marrying the wrong people.
Divorce is sometimes the right thing to do -- especially when the marriage was the wrong thing to do.
Too often people don't think through the marriage part of it enough.
And, if you're a child trying to deal with it, well, you don't know what goes on fully between your parents, but you will once you've grown up a little more.
The best lesson you can take away from this is to not get married until you are ready and until you know for absolute sure that the person you're marrying will be with you through thick and thin, not develop extreme unhealthy habits and will never under any circumstances abuse you or your kids.
2007-10-27 11:31:23 · answer #2 · answered by Schmitty V 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
10-20 year studies of children of divorce show that divorce is bad for the kids. Even if Mom and Dad start sleeping in separate bedrooms, it is better if they stay together for the sake of the kids than to get a divorce.
Here are SOME of the bad things that happen to kids of divorce.
1. Regardless of what people say, the kids blame themselves for the divorce thinking somehow they are at fault.
2. They feel torn between the two parents, feeling that since the parents "hate" each other (Opposite of love is hate) they must hate one or the other to get the love of at least one.
3. The non-custodial parent has to pay child support, which usually ends at 18 unless a judge is very progressive and orders it to continue through college. Since in 99% of the cases it ends at 18, only ONE parent will be helping with college. Kids of divorce have a far less chance of getting to college and will be hurt for the rest of their lives.
4. If the custodial parent re-marries and has a kid with the new spouse, the child will feel they are a second class child, only loved by one parent.
etc....
DIVORCE IS BAD FOR THE KIDS and it is only the "me first" generation of hippie flower power draft dodging liberals that embrace the idea that somehow divorce could be GOOD for the kids.
2007-10-27 11:33:12 · answer #3 · answered by forgivebutdonotforget911 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Nonsense! In a previous question you could not even French kiss due to the fear of germs and illness. Now you are talking about choosing which child to keep? You don't have kids in the first place. You have never had sex with your husband much less have children.
2007-10-27 11:28:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES IT'S A NIGHTMARE, was married for 31 years, going through a divorce, longest nightmare I ever had ongoing for two years now.
2007-10-27 11:46:21 · answer #5 · answered by kim t 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never separate the kids. Their sibling is the only one who can possibly understand what they're going through. Divorce is hard enough, don't completely break up the family!
2007-10-27 11:33:18 · answer #6 · answered by rorybuns 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Divorce: One of Satin's favorite pastimes.
2007-10-27 11:28:37 · answer #7 · answered by GoodGuy53 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why do you have to chose between your children.A cild choose never have to cose either no judge would do that.They have child adocicate that handle that
2007-10-27 11:30:32 · answer #8 · answered by what did you say 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋