Can a man have feelings for more than one woman?

Question

For the past few weeks a good male friend has been talking to me everyday. He trusts me and says im loyal.

Recently, he told me he has feelings for me and he likes it when I am around.

But he has a gf of about 6 years...

Can he be in love with us both? Or have feelings for us both?

We are both 25

Answer 1

It's natural. Monogamy is very rare in nature.

Answer 2

I would have to say NO
A man looking for 'extras' will more often than not LIE to get them.
You should ask him if his gf is allowed to love more than one and see what his answer is to that.
I suspect you are one of a long list of women he has fed this line to and you'll probably find that others believed it and he still didnt leave the longterm one. And face facts WHY should he, when he has someone insecure at home, who washes cleans and sleeps with him, whenever he desires, and when he wants a bit of the other on the side, he just comes 'worming' to the likes of someone like you... Please dont be foolish enough to go down this road with him, you will probably end up being called and hurt too and I suspect you are worth a damned site more than that.

RED HOT POKERS BURN!!!!!!!
Take a heed of what the other 'women' in these answers are saying. Women stick together and give good advice, men will call a man such as this a stud. They will call women who do the same sluts. WHICH way do you THINK you should be going???????

Answer 3

Yes just like a woman can have feelings for more than one man. The thing is you have to be careful because he is in a committed relationship with someone. I try to make it a rule never to get emotionally involved with a man that has a girlfriend or wife hehe I would tell my friends I do not want half the man I want my own Whole ENTIRE MAN if you get my point hehehe there are many fishes out at sea save your self the hurt and pain now before your friendship becomes deeper. Remember you are free and can be with anyone he cannot because he is in a relationship for 6 years if he breaks up with his girlfriend that is another story that their is hope for both of you it all depends on what you want for yourself and that is something you have to ask yourself. I know this woman that I see at the college reunions who got involved with a married man she is miserable she gained weight she hates her job now etc her self worth went down in the tubes WHY....its not worth it in the end be careful and remember anyone can sweet talk you man or woman can that game good luck :)))

Answer 4

It is possible for a man to have feelings for more than one woman, but it would be wrong for him to be intimate with more than one. A married man may love other women apart from his wife, but not in the same way as he loves his wife with whom he can sleep, procreate, etc.

Your friend may be wanting something on the side. If that is the case, he is deceiving his gf and, ultimately, the two of you. If he just enjoys your company and has warm feelings for you without ulterior motives, then there is no harm. Time will tell if he is sincere or just out to massage his own ego.

Answer 5

True love is exclusive.

Society is "called" in rituals to share it - love of two in some cases/cultures more than that. Its a community commitment and recognition of its importance. Nowadays people let it take 2nd place because the individual role its the first rule to follow and in its essence thank God. We can (most of our cultures) be people instead of pieces of a business in such an important chapter of our life's.

I would run for love and if you believe that can be so relative like that.... no one loves more than one person. If it is true love. In cultures where several women where possible was part of business age (not playing or disrespecting - where hugely important ones as much as other places had others).

I am not judging your situation because I do not know it. I know that love is not a fight for property or possession and there is nothing a loved one wants more - to belong, to own the love, presence and attention of the one. But entering on a dispute for it is not love.

Let him solve it; if you can ask him about that. If clear enough and is love - go for it. If not - move

Answer 6

He should grow up and take responsibility for his relationships. Why would you be interested in someone who doesn't value you? and equally doesn't value the other woman in his life. Do you really want to go on in a relationship that is going to cause another woman so much pain? Or would you rather find your self a man who has emotional freedom? 25 is old enough to understand this. Why do you put value in him trusting you and you being loyal when he obviously has neither of these attributes.

Answer 7

ask urself this... can u? can u have feeling for two guys at the same time? and also would you like ur guy to have feelings for another one being a good friend or not. think things through... if he likes you and still has a gf what tells you he will be your bf later on and then like another friend. also he may be confused just ur friendship and caring for you while loving the gf... or he is tired of the gf... which tells you a thing or two about his commitment and honesty.

Answer 8

yes i have fealings for two people as i care for them deeply but not in the same sense as you refer to but it is possible.
6 years is a lot of time for a 25 year old and if the relationship is not progressing as his preconcieved notions dictate then he may be loosing interest in the relationship, or he has strong feelings for both of you but doesn't know what to do about it so told you in the hope that you could give a clue as to what he should do? or you may be reading to much into it he may love you as a friend. i have told two of my friends i love them and they became funny with me when i confronted them about it (different times) they said they didn't feel the same way as i did so i had to explain to them i didn't mean that kind of love (and women say its always on mens minds???)

Answer 9

A man who claims to have feelings for more then one woman at the same time most likely has no true feelings for either. He just wants to double his pleasure-double his fun.

Answer 10

Of course men can have feelings for more than one woman, just as a woman can have feelings for more than one man.
Of course, there is such a thing as being faithful.
Just be careful, see where it is going.

Answer 11

first, if hes been with her for 6 years, that means either he loves her too much that he can't leave her, OR shes very bossy and he cant do anything, OR hes lying to you and only interested in something else! do think twice before you decide, good luck.