She grew up in China. All-girls-school.
Never had a boyfriend and she's shy.
I have only her MSN for the next month...
I met her twice in real life (talked a little.. her English is improving. We were with 2 other people) and talked on MSN for 3 hours already.
I find that she's very special, and I give her compliments and tell her what I think of her. I already got to know all the basic details about her mostly and broke through the shyness.
I also told her that I can help her out with English at her college
(she's starting @ december), and that if anything I say is offensive against her traditions it's not meant to be and just let me know and I'll apologize.
(Note: I usually do not do that. I am nice, but never a "nice guy" in terms of I'm not needy and submissive, but rather assertive and playful. But she's really a unique case)
How should I continue with her?
What should I talk about with her?
2007-10-27 09:48:55 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Other - Social Science
Ok, continue talking and chatting with her as you have been. You could talk about seeing her more, good that you met twice already. Get a game plan going as to what's the next step in your relationship with this girl.
2007-10-27 09:53:50 · answer #1 · answered by zipzeronada 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A few tips.
Chinese girls generally appear to act shy becuase of they are quite conscious of how bad bad their spoken English is or appears to be. Young Chinese girls really are shy around guys though.
Chinese girls in general expect the guy to take the lead, however they really appreciate honest, sincere and humble guys the most.
Chinese culture is a mixture of very traditional and very modern and most younger chinese girls are quite immature by western standards and also often very innocent. Part of the reason is due to the huge pressures to succeed in their studies which is put on them by their families, especially if they are studying abroad.
Take it slowly with her, and ask her questions about Chinese culture and her views on things, gently encourage her and you'll end up with a minimum of a life long friend. One final note, don't bring up sex, it's still quite a taboo subject in China though things have improved over the past 10 years or so. Don't expect to even hold her hand for at least a month or more of dating, let alone get a kiss, or be invited to meet the parents which is a massive step and usually one that means they are starting to think of marrying you.
2007-10-27 17:19:21 · answer #2 · answered by Ian W 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are being very nice and a gentleman.
I am concerned a bit by what you said in the last sentence that you are not a "nice guy." I think you got it wrong. There is nothing needy or submissive about what you are doing. You are being a gentleman and being concerned about other person's feelings. Please don't limit yourself to being "nice" to just this one person. You can be assertive, playful, and nice, all at the same time.
As to what you should do with your new friend, I wouldn't change a thing. One thing about Asian person is, while they may look shy, they are not fragile - in another words, they won't break if you treat them as a normal person.
Please don't act... be yourself and be nice. That's all I can say about this.
2007-10-27 17:00:53 · answer #3 · answered by tkquestion 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow Kipp, I really am jealous that you've been chatting online with babes all day. Just talk to her like you would any other girl.
2007-10-27 18:44:35 · answer #4 · answered by DrinkinBuddy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just continue what you are doing.
2007-10-28 09:26:49 · answer #5 · answered by DrIG 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her like a normal girl.
She's not an alien.
2007-10-27 16:53:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋