I am 21 years old and 33 wks pregnant, people look at me like im a child having a child?

Question

what are your opinions on having a baby at my age? I suppose I do have a young face and get asked for ID to prove my age sometimes, so that could possibly be the reason. But sometimes people make me feel ashamed for being pregnant at my age!!

Some of you have asked if im married, living off state or single, well I'm not married, but I am with my partner of 6 years and we have lived together for 3 1/2 years, both have stable jobs and a mortgage.

Answer 1

ignore them they more than likely think your around 16 or something.. they must not know it 2007 and 1907.. wait come to think of it.. a hundred years ago.. you be married at 15 and having a baby at 16..any way ignore them.. something happens to some people as they get old.. they tend to forget all about their youth.. and what they did and did not do..

Answer 2

I hate when people do that, I don't have kids (although my husband & I have been TTC for almost a yr) but I know a lot of young mothers and it really irks me when people give them looks or talk bad about them. I know for a fact there are some girls who are better mothers at a young age, then some who are in their 30's and have more exprience. It's your life, regardless of rather your married or whatever. Now before I get hate mail no I don't think it's okay to "live off the state" if you can help it. But if you are honestly doing the best you can and still need help that's what federal assistance and welfare are for, temp. helping people. Sometimes the dad doesn't do his part, sometimes stuff happens, don't judge inless you know the situtation. If you and your partner are in a stable relationship with stable jobs and your both consenting adults who cares what you do, ignore the haters.

Answer 3

Just ignore people that are like that! You have no reason to be ashamed. I am 22 ,married for 3 years, both myself and my husband are qualified engineers and i am almost 31 weeks pregnant. Age has absolutely nothing to do with it and 21 years old is not too young to have a child if you are ready for one,which you seem to be. Congratulations and best of luck!

Answer 4

you know it wasn't to darn long ago women were expected to have kids at 20 and 21. once upon a time you would be considered an old maid if not married by 25. people will judge no matter what i am 26 now and 27 weeks with baby number 3 my first i was 16 second 20 even at 26 i still get carded and people think i am a way to young but i don't care i love all my kids

Answer 5

I am 30 & had a baby 7mo ago & got the same looks! I also got very swollen and had to take my wedding ring off! that didnt help anything. I look very young & I hated not having my ring on!!! people even asked me if I was married!!! I wore the ring around my neck but it didnt help.
And get this! I worked at a college while I was pregnant and people kept asking me “SO are you going to come back to school after you have the baby?” HA! I would say “Yes, I work here, I have to come back”


I'm all for someone having a kid when ever they are ready! I was not with the right guy when I was 21 though I had been married for 2years at that point & I was ready myself. Good luck!!!!

Answer 6

I had my first child at 20 , I'm 29 happily married for 7 yrs and am 18 weeks pregnant with number 4 ! i know how you feel people still look at me now and when i tell them its number 4 i can see through them what they are thinking. I had one lady few weeks back say to me "look at the state of you no the wonder you have two kids " (SHE ran into my pram and i didnt say sorry) I proudly turned around and said "well I have another at school and one on the way , what does that make me?" The look on her face lol mind you she wasnt dressed to nice we were all dressed extreemly well .. just plain rude !
The best advice is your probably going to get it alot so be strong minded now ... do these people know your situation ? Do you care what they think ? who are them as people to judge others ? its always them that are rude and judge who aren't happy within themselves ! don't worry what they think stand proud and you head up high and don't let them bring you down to their level ... I got asked for ID until I was 26 or so, look i know it can be frustrating and they always feel stupid when you show them ur ID , Ive learnt to take it as a compliment the older i have got ... Remember they can only make you feel ashamed if YOU let them. Good Luck with everything :)

Answer 7

I know how you feel. I look very young, a lot of people think I'm no older than 18 when I am very well past 18. I get the worst looks and rudest comments, especially from old people. A lot of the time old people will glare at me, then look on my left hand to see if I'm married (which I am), do you get that too? IT's just so aggravating how people make judgments and assumptions without knowing anything. They're so ignorant. Don't feel ashamed, they should be ashamed of acting that way. Look at it this way, we'll look younger then most people our age as we get older.

Answer 8

I am 31 weeks pregnant and have just turned 22, i sometimes feel i am getting the same kind of looks but i couldnt care less! Who cares what other people think? As long as you are happy it doesnt matter. I think as long as you are mature and ready to have a baby that is what is important. the funny thing is you are probably in a better position with your realtionship and your own home etc than the people giving you 'the looks' good luck and enjoy the rest of your pregnancy!x

Answer 9

No way, you're not to young, some women are very mature at this age, and if they're not already a new baby soon changes that! I had my first child at 21, now he's 6, it was the best thing, he changed my life for the better, we have 2 more children now, but i wouldn't change a thing. All through life you'll always have people judging or critiscising for one thing or another (they're very unhappy in themselves) you need to put your head up and think you're not gonna let them bother you coz you're better than them! Good Luck having the baby x x

Answer 10

I had my first child at 27 and that was because I miscarried quite late in pregancy at age 22. You are a perfect age for having children so don't let anybody make you feel ashamed of what is a perfectly natural age to have children and your lucky you look so young, I see some mums up the school in there twenties who look more like they are forty +

Answer 11

I know exactly what you are going through! Even though I was 24 when I had my daughter, I looked very young and people (especially older people) used to give me funny looks when I was pregnant , and when I was pushing her in a pram, I used to get looks as if to say "isn't she young to have a baby". It used to really annoy me and I used to find myself telling people my age when they asked me about my daughter. Even now I look young and when I tell people I have a 13 year old daughter, I can tell they are thinking the same thing about me! These people are just ignorant, try to ignore them.

Its very annoying I know, but rise above them! As long as you are happy, that is the main thing. I don't think 21 is too young to have a child as you are an adult now.

Best of luck with the little one xx