i try and talk to him when he makes comments about girl on girl sex but he ignores me and then can't understand why i get so upset. I love him so much, what do I do?
2007-10-27 08:56:53 · 9 answers · asked by mama to be finally 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
yeah but he is into man man stuff to sort of but I think talking about that would only egg him on more and he would think it was okay. I didn't find out until after we were married and he just expected me to be okay with it.
2007-10-27 09:12:29 · update #1
He's convinced that I'm bisexual too, although i can't think of a single time that I have ever showed him that. I mean i'm fine with the porn thing if thats what gets him off its cool and I know I turn him on too. But he trys to get me to watch lesbian porn and I'm not comfortable with it. And he often confuses my being turned on by him for my supposed "turn on" to lesbian porn.
2007-10-27 10:31:25 · update #2
If he's into bisexual stuff, then tell him that you want to have a threesome with another guy, but that you'll only do it if you're husband dresses up as a girl and the 2 of you can pleasure the other guy. That might be one way to curb his interests, put some limits on what you will do and make him do everything, but try to make it more embarrassing & humilitating for him.
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2007-10-28 05:58:57 · answer #1 · answered by J 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, that really puts a damper on things, doesn't it?
Honestly, if you are not into that scene, then you just need to put your foot down and mean it.
You can't let him pressure you into something like this. He has to understand that.
If he is still so gung ho on this, after you have talked to him, then tell him to fulfill his fantasies online(if you are ok with that).
On the other hand, you never know what you're missing until you've tried it, right?
2007-10-27 17:18:58 · answer #2 · answered by Kelly C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you could turn the tables on him the next time it comes up and talk a little bit about hot guy on guy sex and when he reacts let him and when he is done you can say, "See, now you know how I feel when you talk about girl on girl to me."
Edit: Jinx. I owe RrN91 a pepsi.
2007-10-27 16:01:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
awww, i feel bad for you that you didnt find out till AFTER that he had these thoughts. Your going to have to put your foot down, be very firm with him. Your going to have to play nasty if he dosent stop, say you had no ideal he felt like this and say you wished he told you before you got married so he could have experinced it and not hurt your marriage now. GD luck!
2007-10-27 17:49:04 · answer #4 · answered by lHeat 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you think he's into man/man sex as well, find a new husband. Hey, there are lots of nice breeders who don't want anything to do with same-gender sexual expression. Find a nice man, and send your old one to me, I'll bend him all out of shape...
2007-10-27 16:43:32 · answer #5 · answered by for Da Ben Dan--Dennyhill 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Talk about man/man love.
2007-10-27 16:07:41 · answer #6 · answered by Pentagram 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him nope
u dont want to do it and he doesnt have to force u
stand up for yourself
if he continues to force it upon u tell him its over
hes focusing way too much on sex than on your/his "marriage"
tell him if he loved u he would understand that u dont want to do that
2007-10-27 16:25:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
be honest with him, if your not into women , tell him. if he is into guys, then you need to discuss it and find out if its something you pair can be happy with or not. If you entered into amarriage and he is gay,then you can file for divorce, on good grounds.
2007-10-27 17:41:34 · answer #8 · answered by robynbiker 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Fight fire with fire.
Talk about guy on guy sex.
And when it bothers him, tell him that's how YOU feel.
2007-10-27 16:01:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋