How do I get my 14 year old daughter to stop drinking?

Answer 1

Show her a liver with cirrhosis! Show her the ugly side of alcoholism. If a kid can see the consequences of those actions in a severe and scary way, it usually does the trick.

I drank at 14 and got really really sick, and then didn't drink for years after that. I am 42 now, and do drink on occasion, but I STILL remember how sick I got.

She needs some ugliness to counteract the buzz!

Answer 2

A phase? at 14? Come on people. A phase is wearing high wasited jeans and ugly shoes, a phase is saying a trendy new word. Teenage drinking at 14 is a PROBLEM! That is soooo unacceptable and you have to let her know. Crack down hard so that she knows that that kind of behavior won't be tolerate.If you cant trust her to go out and not drink then don't allow her to go ANYWHERE. Just to school and back home. After living like a prisoner for a month she will hopefully get the message. No t.v. no phone no internet unless its for homework. No parties, friends houses, mall, hanging out, nothing. Do not let her enjoy all the luxuries of her life unless she is willing to follow the rules. Make it very clear why she is on restriction. Hopefully she will get it, if not and she does it again go right back to restriction.

Answer 3

If talking to her and intervention has already failed and she is expressing behavior of a chronic drinker you might want to go the next level and have her enroll in a AA program. See there are two different routes to go in and it depends on whether or not she wants to quit drinking. If she wants to she will most likely be more cooperative, but if she doesn't want to, it could lead to stressful situations in your household, and between you and your daughter. Sit down with her and ask her why she drinks. At the age of 14, could be a whole mess of reasons. She could be reacting in a rebellious way to something else happening in your household, such as a recent divorce, or other serious situations that affect children her age, or any age for that matter. Whatever you decide to do, don't attack her; as in don't rush in with the screaming and accusations and yelling, making her want to retreat even further from you or the rest of the family. You want to make her feel like she can tell you anything. By getting to the root of why she drinks, you can help her stop drinking all together.

Answer 4

Drinking at age 14 is entirely unacceptable and you should have stopped this before it even began!
Have a talk with your daughter. Tell her that her drinking is unacceptable and that if you catch her doing it there will be consequences. No matter what's going on in her life, whether her mother has just died, or her boyfriend cheated on her, drinking is not an appropriate way of dealing with feelings of stress, grief, etc. Let her know this. Tell her you would be more than happy to drive her to therapy, but you are not going to accept her drinking as a way of dealing with whatever feelings she's having.
As for now, ground her! Don't let her go out with friends, talk on the phone, etc. Let her know that there are consequences for her ILLEGAL behavior. Tell her that its not just you who won't accept it, but the law as well!
If she sneaks out and drinks, ground her for longer. Another punnishment that has been proven effective...take everything out of her room. I mean everything. Take her TV, computer, furniture...everything but her bed and clothes. Make her earn each thing back with good behavior. Trust me, she'll be acting better if she knows she won't have anything in her room if she doesn't.
If she simply refuses to listen to you, send her to rehab or A.A. meetings. If you don't, and she's caught by the police, she could be charged with an M.I.P. (minor in posession). With that comes a hefty fine and a requirement to attend alcoholic classes and blow every day. If this happens to her, make her earn all the money to pay for it. Drive her to the classes, but that's all. It will teach her that she can't get away with this. It will be hard, but she has no business becoming an alcoholic at age 14. She'll thank you later.

Answer 5

Dont let her go out on weekends, and stay home to make sure she doesn't. A 14 year old can't drive, so dont bring her to any parties. Also, if she continues take away her cell phone and computer privilages. If someone comes to pick her up, dont let her get in the car. Tell her you can drive her to wherever she needs to go. Yeah its embarassing, but if she is drinking you have every right to do it.

Answer 6

you tell her the risks or get someone else to. I am 14 and drunk, but at school got a proper talk by an ex alchoholic and found out what i didnt know and was terrified. But the big thing that we werent told not to drink, but to drink in preportion. my parents parents also found out later that week tha ti drank and they said they prefered i drank in the house, somewhere sensible and i told them i didnt want to drink with them so they said as long as i drink sensibly. I like that i got respect, not being told no.

Answer 7

I think a little more information is needed to answer this. Simple answer is don't let her out of your sight but that might not be reasonable for you. I think you should tell us how she gets the alcohol and when she drinks.

Answer 8

you can tell her if she doesn't stop drinking then she has to start going to AA meetings with you or threaten to put her into rehab. Then she'll know you are serious about her stopping and she might just do that just to avoid those things. Good Luck

Answer 9

i am 14.
i dont drink.
but my friend did.

PLAN A:
If you're dauther has any friends that arent engaging in drinking, i suggest you have them talk to her. sometimes it is better for a girl to talk to her friends than it is to talk to her mother or father.
PLAN B:
talk to her and inform her of some things that could happen to someone who drinks and things thaqt could happen to someone.
PLAN C:
if nothing is working with the friends or you, you need to have the school guidance counceler and nurse get involved. have them call her down to the office and have a chat with her. make sure that its kept confidential.

i hope these suggestions help!

Answer 10

Well for one, she's 14.... So who is providing her with the alcohol? You are the parent, she is the teenager, start enforcing this. Start by taking privileges away, and if that doesn't help, start taking her to a drug and alcohol counselor. She needs to get the message that you will not tolerate this.