What should I do moms?

Question

Hey, I wrote a question yesterday. I gave birth three months ago, and since then I have had really low iron levels in my blood. I just started working about a month ago, and my life is really rough right now. I am 19 years old. My mom was helping me with everything and she just got up and left because she met someone. I am married and my husband doesn't work because where I live day care for the baby is 250 a week!! I can make more than him by like 3 dollars and I love to work. But I am anemic and I passed out three times last week, and I am still bleeding and leaking out of my boobs... My body is so weak and I really can't eat anymore. I don't have money to really eat but I have everything for my daughter, but we signed up for food stamps they dont work til friday and I also have post partum depression... I have meds for that, but when I asked to go see my doctors they told me it wasn't an emergancy to come in. My job said they will fire me if I miss any more time when I am sick and

they said they will fire me and make it so i can get unemployment, but I'm not sure how that works.. So I just need some advice what to do... Thanks everyone for you help..

Answer 1

Well you are your family's prime caregiver.. you have to take care of your self first! You have to eat... and eat healthy stuff. So if what you need if food call your church and ask for help. They will be able to either help you or direct you to some one who will. I think your passing out bc of you ebing anemic! If you start eating foods rich in iron it will make a dramitic difference. So reach out for help... your family and your baby need you.

BTW.. i think your hubby should find some sort of job.. working oppisite shifts as you.. or maybe even some retail work.. something that willallow him to work opposite hours as you! There is always some odd end job he can find.

Best of luck!

Answer 2

You can get up to 26 weeks of unemployment, but if you cannot survive on what you are making now you will not be able to on unemployment. You only get a certain percentage of your wages. Have you applied for WIC? You would qualify. Why doesn't your husband find a night shift job? Then you could be home with the baby at night and he could be home during the day. That is how a lot of couples get around day care costs. I work graveyard shift. My husband lost his job in June and has not been able to work so I have actually been working 3 jobs and starting another one on Monday. My husband just applied for a night shift job so I will be working just my day time jobs. I would take the unemployment until you are feeling better and he can get a job and help out.

Robin: That is about the only time in the US that you CAN collect unemployment. It is almost impossible to collect if you quit. If you get fired for stealing, or insubordination you cannot collect.

Answer 3

Oh dear. Is there no way that you can stay home with the baby and send your husband to work? This time is so short with your baby, and it sounds like you really need the pressure off you. I know you said that you like working and you make more money, but this is sort of the difference between making it and not making it right now. Can you get some sort of a release from your doctor for a sick leave, or some sort of letter that would qualify you for employment insurance? If you can stay home on employment insurance/sick leave, your husband can work, and that way you have two incomes (at least for a while) to save up and get a little more firmly established.

Answer 4

From a health point of view, have you been to the doctors? They should be giving you soemthing if you are anaemic and I dont think you should still be bleeding at this stage and you could have an infection, get it checked out.

I dont know about where you are but I think over here, in the UK, if you are fired you dont get unemployment benefits, soemone else may correct me here.

Can you call your mum, she might offer help in some way? Even if it is just food?

Cant you get signed off sick from work if you have post natal depression? Has this also been diagnosed? What is the doctor doing about it?
Hope things improve for you soon.xxx

Answer 5

Tell you man to get off his *** and get a job. What a pathetic fool. You're working and busting your butt and he's sitting around its ridiculous. If you BOTH WORK, it will make it easier on both of you. You can work opposite schedules so someone is always home with the baby. That's common sense.
It's just harder on you with him at home.
If you're anemic and this unhealthy you need to eat much more red meat. Don't wean your baby its healthy to breastfeed and very healthy for your breasts to be leaking.

If you're still bleeding you need to continue to take a multivitamin so you don't lose nutrients through that much blood loss.

I totally understand your situation but everyone else (your mother, your boyfriend) is making it harder on you.
he can make more money than you if he works construction, or thousands of other jobs that pay well and don't require a degree... jesus...
I'm so angry at him I can scream, he must be a fool for making you think that its cheaper for him to stay at him.
That's ridiculous.

I'm glad you have the food stamps coming those will help alot and don't you dare let anyone make you feel like there's something wrong with that.

YOU should be the one at home.
He should be the one at work. Period.
Construction workers make 25 DOLLARS AN HOUR!!!
He's gonna tell you that you'll make more?
Why because he's lazy?
UGgggggghhhh

You're an angel, I'm serious. I'm sorry you're in this situation.

Answer 6

I know you love to work, but it sounds like your husband needs to do the working now until you can get yourself healthy. It sounds like you may be fired soon, unfortunately, so he should start looking now. You need to get better advice on how to improve your diet. Anemia can be controlled with diet and iron supplements. Your depression is most likely worse too due to your anemia. Bleeding out of your nipples is not normal either and you need to see your doctor about this. Good luck with everything!