I am behind in child support, the support rate per month is outrageously high, I fear if i dont sign off I will just keep getting in deeper in debt because the arrearage is so high. The kids live in a different state and my ex is happily married and wife is talking about adopting the kids. So thats all good.
But I have no idea how to go about it. And if I do that, i know (think) i still owe arrearage, but wont have to pay the support any longer.
I live in Michigan.
ANY HELP APPRECIATED!
Thanks
2007-10-27 06:14:36 · 19 answers · asked by Kathy H 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
umm. okay. I do not want responces from people saying i am a bad person. I am only asking on HOW YOU SIGN OFF. Okay. If you cant answer the queastion dont leave a post.
2007-10-27 13:27:13 · update #1
Why don't you just file for a modification on the existing child support order? (You file it with the county and state where your ex-wife and children reside).
You shouldn't give up your rights to your children unless you're a really bad Father. And yes, you would still be responsible for the amount you were behind in child support.
But rather than just "give up" your children, I'd file for a modification of the existing court order and have them retro-date it back to whenever your income changed.
Hope this helps...
2007-10-27 06:19:51 · answer #1 · answered by LostSoulz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the support is based upon your income and expenses but it may be that if he is willing to not continue to receive child support you can end it that way. It would be a shame to give up the children because they may construe that some day as you having abandoned them. go to legal aid if you can afford an attorney and ask them about all of this. Michigan is one of the worst states to live in for many reasons including the child support issue - and yes, I live her unfortunately - so if it is at all possible, do what so many others are doing and leave the state as well, I think the state makes the child support high so that they hope the interest on arrearages helps them dig themselves out of the financial hole they have created for the people of Michigan.
2007-10-27 06:43:35 · answer #2 · answered by Al B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is best to have the ex wife start the adoption proceedings. Of course you know you will probably lose the emotional contact with the children, and they will think you don't want them. Please, in the adoption, get a clause where you can be in touch with at least the mom, for future contact. Even if you just let them know you care and think of them. anything rather than you dumped them, which kids pick up on.
My spouse allowed his son to be adopted, even to a last name change, and he suffered (both did) emotionally for years. Just recently, they reunited and things are fine. But he has a different last name and there are memories to be healed. He is contact via web cam all of the time; we just saw his one day old baby, our grandchild. Many times, he has told us of the tales he was told as to why my husband did not want him...all untrue. So be prepared for more than just not paying high amounts of support. I understand your dilemma, and am not being negative toward you. Just pointing out things to think about as you figure this out. Bottom line, do what you need to do, and let her get the proceedings started. Depending on the age of the kids, talk to them about it; but if they are too young, explain to the wife that this is about money, not about giving away love between you and the kids. Success.
2007-10-27 06:30:51 · answer #3 · answered by dutchlady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't just sign off your parental rights. Most states laws are written specifically to prevent people just walking away because they can't or won't support their children.
Let the step parent adopt them... most states you can go to the county attorney (the ex and the new spouse) would go file the paperwork, you'd essentially sign off, and the step becomes the legal parent.
2007-10-27 10:37:22 · answer #4 · answered by Asked and Answered 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How sad for your children, that their own mother (using the term loosely) would rather give up her parental rights, than pay child support. That's so awful..
It sounds like they are in a loving, happy home.. and would better off without you in their lives, if you really value money so much, you would rather cut them out of your life, than go into debt, by taking care of them. So, sure.. sign away your rights, and let the woman who actually DOES care for them, be their Mother.
You know, if you actually gave a care about your children, you would go to court to try to have the child support lessened, to an amount you could afford.. I can't believe you actually WANT to sign away your rights like that.
2007-10-27 06:29:01 · answer #5 · answered by arkiegirl 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
hi....What you're able to do in this situation is to get married and then document a petition in courtroom to your destiny husband to undertake the youngsters. in case you're able to desire to, hire an lawyer that focuses on kinfolk courts and or adoption circumstances. Now what's going to happen is that no longer basically will your ex have the possibility to communicate his side of the situation yet you may state on your undertaking on why this adoption is important quite if this ex of yours isn't gratifying his duties as to visitation along with his very own infants or paying the youngster help. he will have the the final option to protest. Now an benefit to him is that if he's keen to signal over then he won't be in charge for paying toddler help from that day on that that is signed, he will although nevertheless owe for decrease back toddler help yet no longer for present day if he has a similar opinion to the adoption. stable success and have a great day!
2016-10-14 05:08:42 · answer #6 · answered by trapani 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a sad story.
I am sure you love your kids very much and want the best for them. If you want your relationship to mature with them down the road you need to have a link with them that you have supported them til adult hood. Otherwise when they will grow up they will think of you as a dead beat dad who abandoned them.
Try to renegotiate the support payments to reflect your income of today. I am sure if you can prove that to the social service you could pay an amount you can afford.
Otherwise you can kiss your kids goodbye and out of your life.
2007-10-27 06:29:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can sign off to child support if the other man wants to adopt them.But,when those kids turn 18.They can sue your butt for the child support and I hope they do.Are you originally from Michigan.Because there are a lot of useless people like you in that state.
2007-10-27 06:25:09 · answer #8 · answered by jonasruxpin 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I do not see how anyone can give up their rights to their children, but it is your choice that you have to live with. Not to be judgemental, but I just do not see how anyone can choose money over children. With that being said, you can tell them to draw up papers for it, and you just sign them. This way you will not have to pay for the attorneys and such. They will run an ad in the paper for you to contest it if they are not signed and if you do not contest it, then your rights are terminated. You will no longer have to pay child support bc they will no longer be your children. However, you will likely have to pay what is owed at the time of signing. They could waive that if they choose to do so, but it is entirely up to your ex. If you are the one who goes to the attorney for the papers, then you will have to pay for it. I am sure that your ex will be more than happy to pay for it in order to have his children to himself and his wife.
2007-10-27 06:21:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow this is sad. You are actually just going to sign off on the kids and just let them live in another state without their real mother in their lives just so that you don't have to pay support? You should seek counceling. That's your first problem. I'd say though if you are willing to sig nthem off just to not have to pay then they might just be better off with their dad and step mom.
2007-10-27 06:20:39 · answer #10 · answered by ~Sara~ 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋