I'm a 14 year old INdian. my parents are not letting me shave since they think i am too young to do that. But once not abiding by what they said, i had shaved my moustache off and my freinds were saying it was luking far better than usual, but my parents won't agree, they want to see me as a young kid. They say that this time will never come again once you are an adult. Also considering a few culture related matters, they are not allowing me. But I'm dying to convince them, what do i do??????????
2007-10-27 06:09:13 · 11 answers · asked by Mr.Mysterious 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
i had similar problem here... they were afraid of my hair turn bad & kinky coz of the blade. but they were not ordering me. they only gave me their advice.
i let my moustache & beard never get bigger! only shorten without actual shaving. try to freeze it at size of a week (about 2 or 3 mm long). i think they would not notice that & ur appearance would not b that horrible.
hope this helps till u convince them!
2007-10-27 08:01:26 · answer #1 · answered by inflammatory_exudate 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask your parents if you have have a talk with them, and them alone (if you have brothers and sisters).
No distractions, like TV's and such. Tell them YOU want to TALK, and you would like them to THINK ABOUT IT and get back to you on it tomorrow.
That prevents them from automatically saying NO.
Explain to them why you feel this is important to YOU, and what your feelings and thoughts are.
Explain to them that you are trying to explore your boundaries, and who you think you will be, when you are an adult.
Remind them that you are 14, and while that seems like a child to them, in only four short years, you will be 18, and a legal adult (if you are in the U.S.).
Put a bit of humor into it. Tell them it's not like you are asking to get a tatoo or anything. Tell them they are your parents, you love and respect them, but you need to explore the person you are going to become as an adult.
Hopefully by this time they are getting the idea that shaving is a pretty minor thing (although I do not know what your cultural taboos are.)
Please keep in mind they too are correct, that never again in you life will you get the freedom and enjoyment being a child involves. You will spend most of your life as an adult, not a child. It is normal at your age however for you to wish to start exploring your own self, your own person, who is not a child, and is independant of your parents.
Keep this in mind also. You are 14...half of your lifetime ago, you were 7 years old. How childish does a 7 year old seem to you now that you are 14? Now think about when you are 28, and half your lifetime ago was when you were 14. It's quiet possible when you are 28 you will view being 14 the same way you veiw being 7 right now. I hope that makes sence to you.
Also gently remind your parents that even though you do not have the same pressures and demands they do (working, taxes, paying bills, ect), the pressures and demands at this point in your young life are just as important to you, as theirs are to them.
Best of luck to you...being a teenager is never easy.
~Garnet
Homesteading/Farming over 20 years
2007-10-27 06:28:49 · answer #2 · answered by Bohemian_Garnet_Permaculturalist 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a native, I have doubts your facial hair is that serious that it requires shaving, this arguement aside, try to keep a proper perspective on the overall picture.......your parents are older, wiser, more mature and they are your PARENTS, on the otherhand you are 14, still a child, and while I understand the need to make your own choices, you still need to honor your mother and father's decisions, after all they are legally and morally responsible for you. It may be hard to understand their logic.....you have only expericed the child's side, while they have been both a child and an adult, but I can guarantee they are not denying you the right to shave just to make your life miserable, they have your best interests at heart. If you think shaving is truly worth something, then it is time you approached them in a polite way and ask what you need to do, in order to earn the right to shave, and then, no matter what their response, abide by it and show them you are mature enough to accept their decision and that you are man enough to EARN it. I wish you luck, this is a step toward maturity, and how you handle it will dictate the outcome of any future problems you may encounter.
2007-10-27 06:27:32 · answer #3 · answered by canuck1950 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Body hair really gets going during puberty. Some boys will start to notice hair growing on their face around the chin, on the cheeks, and above the lip. Also, hair grows on the chest, the armpits, and even down there in the pubic region. Remember that there's nothing to worry about because hair is just one of the body's many ways of telling you that you are entering adolescence.
You're growing hair in new places because hormones are telling your body that it is ready to change. One of these hormones is called testosterone, which is responsible for many of your body's changes. These hormones come from your pituitary (say: puh-too-uh-ter-ee) gland (a pea-shaped gland located at the bottom of your brain). The hormones travel through your bloodstream and tell different parts of your body to do stuff (like grow hair).
Boys don't really need to do anything about this new hair that's growing. Later, when you're a teen, and the hair gets thick enough on your face, you may want to talk with your parents about shaving.
I think that you could wait until you're 15 and keep your parents happy.
The following website will give you more info.
http://www.kidshealth.org/kid/grow/boy/boys_puberty.html
2007-10-27 06:22:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh you know what? If your mustache is thick now, wait untill you keep shaving it off... it's going to grow back even thicker. If I were you, I would just leave it the way it is. Don't shave it because it's going to be a monster one day when you don't feel like having a clean cut!
2007-10-27 06:34:33 · answer #5 · answered by alexis_0724 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It your mustache that thick that you have to shave? They are correct, live your life to the fullest while you are young. Embrace the moment, it will NEVER come again. Just do what they tell you to do. You are only 14 when you get older and you have to shave you are not going to want to.
2007-10-27 06:19:04 · answer #6 · answered by SandraD 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once u start shaving, the hairs will become harder and will grow faster.14 yrs is bit less for shaving. Youcan start after 17or18. This willkeeps yr hair grow properly. That is true, if ushave the face will turn to matured man and uwill loose yr adoloscent.
2007-10-27 08:09:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree at the same time with your mothers and dads. ask your self why do you opt for to form?next, is it comfortable with you to stay off on visual attraction without working/giving to society? next, think of the sensation of while your older and once you cant grant for your self anymore because of fact of modeling's superficial standards, and being replaced via a youthful era based fullyyt on their seems. answer those properly and proportion the reaction at the same time with your mothers and dads. On a further word, remind your self which you would be collaborating in underlining the factors of the famous media's concept of attractiveness, that's probable to overwhelm many youthful females available who don't sense they meet those standards mandatory to be 'desirable'.
2016-10-14 05:08:10 · answer #8 · answered by trapani 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i really dont know what to say on that one, if your parents wont let you then you really need to go along with it as you are just 14. perhaps in a couple of years they will let you do so.
2007-10-27 06:12:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you're 14 i wouldn't think that its that bad. i would wait a few years, your parents will probably let you eventually.
2007-10-27 06:21:05 · answer #10 · answered by dcarcia@sbcglobal.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋