My husband's best friend is having a big Halloween bash tonight in his old town. I don't know anyone and everytime I go, I hardly get to know anyone b/c it is a reunion for him and he forgets that I am there. He wants me to go but I am afraid to go b/c it turns out to be a miserable night as usual b/c he forgets that I am there and will go off to be with his friends - literally. He doesn't introduce me to anyone etc... Would you go? And if you went, what would you do?
2007-10-27 05:53:36 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Tell him that if he wants you to go, then needs to introduce you to people there, and that you are staying with him the whole night.
2007-10-27 05:57:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it is just the male being inconsiderate without even realizing he is doing that. Introduce yourself to everyone as, "Hi, I am - your name - John's - or whatever his name is - wife.
He may think that you do not enjoy meeting his friends and the fact that you make the effort may make him proud of you and more apt to introduce you as his wife. If you are normally the quiet type, this will give you a chance to be more outgoing and you might even enjoy yourself. Perhaps he goes off with his friends because the first time you went somewhere like this you didn't jump in to meet his friends so he thinks that you don't want to. Have some fun at the party!
2007-10-27 13:09:31 · answer #2 · answered by Al B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I'd go and make a point of making some friends; Even to chit chat to some people, and when I'm bored, I'd get a taxi home or even have a friend to drop me.
He is taking you for granted, but seeing that other people taking an interest in you might just make him realize that you're not a grey mouse!
Good luck and be a bit bold tonight!
2007-10-27 13:04:01 · answer #3 · answered by Kc 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The reason you have a miserable time is your own fault. I would introduce myself to people and ditch him and party with my "new" friends. He's not forgetting you, he is having a good time why don't you do the same!!
2007-10-27 13:16:10 · answer #4 · answered by YUMMY1 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you are newly married give him a chance to prove that he can be a gentleman and introduce you to people. If not, then just don't go. Tell him why.
2007-10-27 12:57:31 · answer #5 · answered by alwaysmoose 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, I tried this years ago, and you have to have a lot of nerve. I dressed as a hooker, I got a lot of attention, too much actually and believe me he noticed. I ended up changing clothes mid party.
2007-10-27 13:06:21 · answer #6 · answered by Connie D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel uncomfortable about going, you don't have to go...but if it's important to your husband that you be there - then go.
Don't allow your husband to ignore you - talk to him, talk to his friends, and force yourself to have a good time. Smile and laugh a lot - you will fit in perfectly. Enjoy!
2007-10-27 13:00:06 · answer #7 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Introduce yourself, you are a grown woman I think you can do it or just let him go on his own.
2007-10-27 12:58:32 · answer #8 · answered by some female 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would go and wear a costume that is appealing and see if that will help.
2007-10-27 17:33:36 · answer #9 · answered by Mid 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say you will go..if he doesn't leave you...include you in things.. tell him how uncomfortable it is when he just leaves you there.\
If he doesn't get it--or understand, I'd just say no!
2007-10-27 15:51:53 · answer #10 · answered by ★★★ Katharine ♥♥♥♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋