2007-10-27 04:18:50 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
ok...he has sexual tendencencies..internet porn..nasty women contacts on yahoo..in the past..we have been to counseling...yes, i have reasons to be insecure w/our relationship..a young woman pursued him at his work and gave him her number...he called her thursday and spoke to her on the phone...i crazily check phone records, saw the number, called the chic, told her he was married, she was astonished, that is all the further it went because i caught it before it went any further. I truly believe he loves me, but he is addicted to the excitement and it is in his culture(COSTA RICAN) sorry to any guys out there, i don't mean to stereo type maybe i should rephrrase that to his up bringing and not his culture...AM I CRAZY???????
2007-10-27 05:44:59 · update #1
No, you are not crazy, and not all Costaricans are like your husband. I don't like to search adventures outside my home. I rather enjoy with my wife in all senses you can imagine. And it's funny for me and for her.
Good luck in everithing you do.
ReEgards
Zadkiel
2007-10-30 14:43:05 · answer #1 · answered by (CR) Zadkiel (yo) 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I speak to "other men" on the phone for much longer than a half an hour, and do it pretty regularly. I have male friends as well as female, and so does my husband. Neither of us complain about the other talking to their friends for a half an hour or more. Perhaps your husband's conversation with this woman was quite harmless, and you are over reacting to it. If it worries you so much, ask him about it, and I am sure his explaination will put your mind at ease. Not every conversation with a person of the opposite sex means there is something underhand going on!
2007-10-27 12:14:15 · answer #2 · answered by sparrow 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I wouldn't worry overly about this. There is probably a really really really good explanation for him talking to another woman. If you already know about it then more than likely he didn't try to hide it. Which in turn means it isn't anything to hide. He could have just had a problem with something and called a tech line to get it fixed. There are a million and one legit reasons he was talking to another woman. Until you find out he has been sleeping with someone don't worry too much or you will just cause yourself to get ulcers.
2007-10-27 11:38:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Do you know who the woman is?
Is it possible that it was just a normal conversation?
How do you know that he was talking to another woman and the length of time?
Unless you have a concrete answer that there are bad intentions involved, I wouldn't say anything.
I would definitely work on the trust issues though! Is there a reason why you're so suspicious?
2007-10-27 11:25:46 · answer #4 · answered by stop stalking me! @ psycho 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
He is giving you every indication that he would put himself into temptation to cheat! I would tell him that it is unacceptable for him to take phone numbers from other women and call them and he should have thrown it away! I am sorry but I could not be with someone that disrespected me like that and made me feel that he couldn't be trusted. It doesn't matter how many women come on to him....he needs to understand what commitment means to you and when this happens he needs to put them in their place.
2007-10-27 15:31:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you need to find a counsellor who can get through to him that his inappropriate behaviour with other women is destroying your relationship by causing insecurities within you, If he is not willing to give up talking with other women on chat sites and pornography then he is an immoral slime and you need to get out of the relationship because he will continue to do things that lower your self-esteem.
remember, someone who has nothing to hide, hides nothing. if someone is doing something that they would not do with their spouse next to them then they know it is wrong and are making a choice to disrespect them, that is not normal behaviour for a decent or healthy person
2007-10-27 13:53:42 · answer #6 · answered by maybyesmaybno 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
And you've never talked to a man on the phone who wasn't your husband? You are insecure and blowing this out of proportion.
2007-10-27 11:25:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
is this an open-ended research studying on how people react to an unfinished and inseure relationship question?
2007-10-27 12:10:24 · answer #8 · answered by xyz 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
How many other " men " have you talked to on the phone for any length of time that was'nt family?
2007-10-27 11:24:08 · answer #9 · answered by mrleroy66 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Unless you have another reason to be suspicious of him that does not seem like a big deal at all.
2007-10-27 11:22:48 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋