Babyshower for your third child???

Question

I have a 12 year old son. I have an 8 year old son. I am pregnant. I had a babyshower for my first. I still had stuff so I didn't even think about it.

I have a few friends who just had babies.. so I was gonna scarf their hand-me-downs... the only thing i would 'really' hae to get is a crib.

A few of my friends who I didn't know when I was pregnant the first two times said ~ "It is your first baby for us." and they want to do a shower.. I feel like such a looser.

Answer 1

You are NOT to feel like a loser. Hon, in this case, when you have a 12 year old and an 8 year old, a baby shower is something that would be totally acceptable.

Have a good time, and congratulations on the impending arrival of #3!

Normally second showers are not acceptable, such as in the case of being pregnant when you're youngest is 3 years old. But in this case... enjoy! Your friends are sweethearts. :)

Answer 2

It's been eight years since your last baby. Therefore, you probably don't have baby stuff anyway, unless you saved things for sentimental value. Also, your friends seem to want to celebrate your pregnancy and child, so why not? Also, tell them your desire for wanting a crib, but hesitant to spend the money. (Somewhere there are guidelines for buying used cribs, which you can find on Craigslist and maybe Freecycle and maybe thrift stores and consignment shops like Once Apon a Child, which very likely has higher standards for accepting merchandise than what Goodwill might.) Your friends might pitch in for that.

Also, the above mentioned places are good sources for used baby stuff too. I don't know where you live (of course), but in my neck of the woods, Columbus, OH, yard sale season is dying down. However, I guess they're more all-year in warmer climates. Try yard sales if you can. My mother has gotten me some baby clothes and stuff for as little as a quarter. I bought winter hat for my daughter (who was born Sept. 17) at one for a dime. I was putting off buying baby stuff for the most part because I knew I would be getting a shower at my church. However, I wasn't sure if people would be smart enough to realize (in July) that I would have a winter baby and the cap was only a dime, so I figured why not.

Take their offer. They're being good friends. Many women would love to be blessed with friends like that. At my shower, and from people who couldn't attend but still gave gifts. Over all, we got most of what we needed. What we didn't get, we have the money to buy it. The leftover money will be put into the savings account my MIL (who has also been overly generous) has set up, or will set up for her.

Oh, yeah. Do your children have good involved grandparents? Even though my mother and mother-in-law were both at my shower and saw what we got, they've still been overly generous. I also have a sister who has one child, but hopes to have more, I guess, and lent me things like her old car seat. The car seat was the one thing we said we would buy new, until my sister offered us hers. We know my sister and her ex-husband and trust them and know that my sister would not offer us something of poor quality. We also were blessed with a crib from some friends who have just one child and are stopping with him I guess and gave us his old crib. It worked out that he was ready for a twin bed. We bought a new mattress with gift money. What's great about this is that a lot of this stuff can be saved for the next child(ren).

Also, a friend of mine just had their second child two years after their first. Their church (our husbands are seminary students and we were both gone last school year while our husbands did their internships where they basically work as a pastor, but still in a student role under an experienced pastor) also gave them a baby shower. I do not know if they knew before the birth, but they have two boys.

My friend and I are both blessed. It looks to me as though you are too. Accept it.

Answer 3

Hey, if they want to do a shower for you, then by all means, let them. Have them do a diaper party. All of the guests bring diapers instead of regular gifts. You can never have too many diapers!! That way, it's more of a party and not a shower. And if people want to bring a traditional shower gift, they can without feeling obligated to do so.

Answer 4

if they want to throw you a shower.. let them... but tell them you really dont need any thing... perhaps a shower to pamper yourself OR you can tell them any gifts will be donated to a local womans shelter...

you can buy the crib yourself..