My fiance' and I had a talk the other day and she said that she's not in love with me anymore, but she still loves me and cares about me? To complicate matters we have a 5yr old son together. We live together at the moment, but she is planning on finding somewhere else to go. This relationship has really been one sided just about the whole length of it (8 yrs) and I am emotionally wore out. Last night she says to me "if i realize this seperation thing is a mistake would she be able to stay??? my answer was no, but I am still in love with her...so I really wanted to say yes. I dont think she wants to seperate cause of someone else, I think she's just confused as to what to do about our relationships ups and downs. We have talked time and time again about all of our issues, but everything goes back to the way they were before we talked and the problems start over again.
I'm goin nuts here! I am a pretty affectionate person; always telling her how i feel, but she is just the opposite.
2007-10-27 03:17:21 · 8 answers · asked by mmcustm 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No point sticking on to a person who doesn't love you anymore. Let her go......keep your child with you if you can.....
If you are an affectionate man, I'm sure you will find someone one day who really loves and appreciates you...
Take care!
2007-10-27 03:26:54 · answer #1 · answered by Maggie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you have a child, I would suggest at least attempting professional counseling. But frankly, I think you need to part friends and move on with your lives. You will always be parents in common, but you and I'm betting her, don't sound very happy, just really tired.
You can parent without the drama of your personal relationship. My ex and I did, we always worked together and stuck together where the kids were concerned, and that gave the kids the firm foundation they deserved. We made mistakes, you will too, but if you are grown up about it, you can do what's best for yourselves and your child. Best of luck to both of you.
2007-10-27 03:34:02 · answer #2 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she 'realizes the separation is a mistake' it will only be because you are her comfort zone. She isn't IN LOVE with you anymore and has clearly stated this. People change and grow in different directions.
Move on and find your own special someone who will be totally into you and very affectionate. It is SO HARD and quite hurtful to be the affectionate one with a person who rejects that.
And take care of that baby boy. HE is the important one here.
2007-10-27 03:24:59 · answer #3 · answered by audacious440 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why, after 8 years, you two are getting married now, especially with a kid? Why didn't you go it sooner? Was it due to some problems before hand? If she feels this way, then let her go. She's probably not going to suddenly feel happy and has been one sided for 8 freakin' years.
2007-10-27 03:24:32 · answer #4 · answered by CC 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i was in a relationship like this for 11 years i moved from Florida to Michigan to see if he really loved me if so he would come behind me well to make the story short he did not come and i found out 2 mounts after i moved up here he had someone new living with him after 11 years of my life wasted my advice to you get out now don't wast you time life is to short
2007-10-27 03:27:38 · answer #5 · answered by sad_angel_eyes_4u 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
doesnt sound like a good wife, dont be her second option take some initiative and start planning your future without her, become one sided and see how she likes it. she may turn around and may not but doesnt seem like there is much to do doesnt seem like she cares just doesnt want to hurt you that badly. perhaps she is another man and just seeing if their relationship will hold before she jumps ship.
2007-10-27 03:28:05 · answer #6 · answered by djmixah7 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she is cheating and you dont deserve that.
just a hunch from what you wrote,
2007-10-27 03:21:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
she has to make her mind up .. its you or not... you.... i think you should break and let her go... as she will bring you to wits end if you dont... ........... good luck..
2007-10-27 03:25:12 · answer #8 · answered by rpetch007 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋