What would you do if one day you found out that your daughter has turned into a pornstar?

Answer 1

That's an interesting question. Porn seems so commonplace these days. It's everywhere you look. Yet, those who choose to make a living at it seem rarely to be thought of as real people - let alone, as someone's daughter. So, your question made me wonder. What if... that was my daughter? My baby? And, although I've always considered myself to be a fairly open-minded person, I find the thought (mostly, my mind's visual) upsetting. To be honest... As a rule, I avoid porn as much as possible... not because of the sexual aspect (I'm not a prude; nor, easily shocked!) but because, what I have seen of it has been so openly degrading to women... in general, of course... but, also, on a personal level to the (so-called) "actresses". That, I guess, is the part that would bother me.... that a child of mine would choose to violate her own dignity to that degree. On the other hand, there's just so much control a parent has over an adult child and the decisions she makes.... So, what would I do? Not nearly as much as I'd like... other than, that is... talking to her - to find out why she has resorted to this means of making a living... and, if there's any way to help her (either financially or emotionally) depending on what her reasons may be.

Answer 2

(First of all, I have to echo what no5no5 said. That personal information you included really should be removed. There are a lot of crazy people out there and they now know your daughter's name, age, school district and grade.) On to the question. It sounds a bit like your daughter has been labeled as a troublemaker at this school. The fact that you're working with a psychologist is good but it's the school that's fanning the flames here. Have you tried having a face-to-face meeting with the teacher, the principal and the school counselor? If you have and the problems are persisting, I'd transfer schools as soon as possible and write a letter to the superintendent detailing what you've been going through. It's the principal's job to handle problems like this. If you do go to a new school, you need to have a meeting with them to bring them up-to-date about the issues you've experienced. It would go a long way toward opening a line of communication that can help your daughter, not continue to hurt her. Having a consistent record of being reported to DFCS makes you look very bad. I hope you've requesting a letter from them that officially clears you of any wrongdoing once each case is investigated and closed. Good luck. I can't imagine how hard this must be for you.

Answer 3

My mother-in-law was once driving me totally insane about saying what she thought my then THREE year old daughter should do when she grew up ......
To shut her up I interrupted her with this line:

" You know I wouldn't car if she was a lap-dancer .. so long as she was safe, well and happy"

Now.. I think though if I found out that my daughter was a pornstar .. I think I would say to her :
"you're a far better actress than THAT"

BUT truth be known ... IF she WAS happy, and if she WAS safe, and if she WAS healthy .. and if she WASN'T hurting anybody else and if it was more erotica .. I wouldn't disown her....

IF though she was involved in beastiality or kiddie porn .. I'd report her sorry butt to the relevant authorities ...

Answer 4

well first off if I had a daughter an she was an adult .. I'd probably be totally shocked! but I'd wanna ask her if this is really what she wants ta do with her life? if she said yes .. altho i may not agree with her choice .. as long as she protected herself physically and didn't get on drugs and stuff and didn't let people rip her off money wise .. i figure I'd have ta accept the fact that shes an adult and can make her own decisions. i'd always be there for her .. i wouldn't just abandon my child because she decided ta be a porn star! but i would also eventually hope she would find another way of supportin' herself. but no matter what I'd always love her! ; )

Answer 5

First off, I would be very surprised to discover that I had a daughter. It's possible, given my misspent youth. There's a reason why I never say, "Who's your daddy?" to a woman under 30. Then I would find out if that's what she really wanted. If not, I'd help her find a different career. If it was her true calling, I would help in any way I could.

Answer 6

My kids are grown, but if my daughter had taken that path, I would still love her and treat her the same, just like if I had a gay child or a child in prison. Parental love should be unconditional love and not predicated upon whether or not they do exactly what we choose for them.

Answer 7

Not all adults make the right choices, you always love your kids unconditionally, no matter what bad stuff they do, but you don't have to promote or condone it.
As long as they leave that stuff outside my door they can be with family forThanksgiving and Christmas at the house forever. In the meantime I will just pray for them.

Answer 8

I'd ask her what valid reason made her wish to get into the porn industry into the first place.
If she's of legal age I would be more calm but if she's underage like Traci Lords was, then I'd be mad.

Why the f.. did I get a thumbs-down for?
*rolls her eyes*

Answer 9

I'd put her in lockdown. Then I'd find and casterate the producer if I was in a good mood. If my mood was bad I'd invite him on a one way fishing trip to a place with lots of hungry bears and throw smelly crackers in his tent as he slept. End of problem.....

Answer 10

Well....I doubt it would even happen since I would be a very good mom and make sure her dad was a good dad...or I'd smack him.....anyway.... I would probably go get her and bring her home and take care of her and make sure she had all the help I could get her to change her life for the better.... and then it would be up to her what to do.