The other night my friend came to visit. He asked me a question that took me by surprise. "Have you ever wondered about fooling around with another guy?". In the 5 years we've known each other nothing like this has ever come up. I am open minded and answered him truthfully, "Yes, sometimes I find myself looking at other guys in the gym, wondering how large they are etc. But nothing outright sexual." I asked him why. He said because lately he finds himself wondering about it. Its kinda bugging him a bit. The conversation then went on to comparing teenage wanking stories. That about as far as the conversation went.
My problem is that since that night I cant stop thinking about him! I find myself wondering for the first time in my life what it would be like to fool around with a guy!
My question is why now at 31 would these thoughts appear out of nowhere? And should I pursue these feelings? (I must admit I kind of want to). And if so, how to go about it?
2007-10-27 02:48:12 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
And YES, I have only been in straight relationships. I dont see myself getting into a gay relationship!
I'm not suddenly infatuated with all men. I just cant get my friend out of my head. And the thought of fooling around with him.
2007-10-27 04:04:16 · update #1
no. you should denounce your friend for mentally abusing you, and now you have nightmares. and try to get as much money as you can. then after, you can be 'friends' again.
2007-10-27 03:02:27 · answer #1 · answered by Ron Paul 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Dude, I'm straight, and I have never once thought about the size of any other guy- you think about that and say it's not outright sexual? You definitely want to. Teenage wanking stories, you two are gay, that is not straight.
And Lilith, dont make claims about your looks when you have a 360 profile up- you look like an escaped mental patient.
2007-10-27 09:52:18 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Go to a gay bar and see if there is anyone you fancy. Or ask a gay friend to introduce you to his friends and contacts. And think about whether the friend who brought the subject up actually wants to have a sexual relationship with you - and if so, whether that is what you want too. But remember that fantasies are sometimes not what you think they will be like when you try and make them a reality, so be prepared for not wanting to go ahead with something that seems exciting when you think about it now or for finding out that there are major changes you want to make in your life.
2007-10-27 10:00:29 · answer #3 · answered by Sage 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, this is coming from a 15 year old so... Anyways. I just naturally never really was attcted to guys AS MUCH as others. I've flirted with them minorly, but I always think of myself as holding a girls hands, playing with her fingers, being all girly. I actually came to the realization on my own terms, and not by someone asking me. I have about four gay family members, and it never brought up the thought of my own orientation, so I'm pretty sure anything else just suggesting homosexuality wouldn't either. I was the one who asked myself the question(s), not someone else. Since you were asked by someone else, I'm gonna say your just curious. The only was to figure it out is just to edge back into the conversation and see if he would be as so inclined to try a litte with you. Just, if you do this, make sure you know it won't screw up your relationship. Just do it as a matter of testing, and see where it goes without getting hurt. Best of luck.
2007-10-27 10:06:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Figuring out our sexual orientation is different for each individual, for some it's very subtle and takes awhile.
Be glad that you've still got a lot of living to do, and a friend to talk to about this. I have a feeling he likes, too, so ask about it & tell him you've developed a crush on him. If the feeling isn't mutual, at least you can go with him to the local LGBT community center (see link below to find one) or nightclub(s).
Best of luck to both of you.
2007-10-27 10:35:01 · answer #5 · answered by Testika Filch Milquetoast 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that a persons sexuality is a fixed issue. We can all experience different feelings towards others at all different times during our lives. If you do feel that you want to explore coz you are curious and you trust this friend, then go for it. Make sure you "be careful" though. If you don't you may never really know yourself properly!
Good luck x
2007-10-27 09:53:04 · answer #6 · answered by Tatsbabe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're 31, you're still finding yourself and you're old enough now to question society's beliefs and structures which were imposed upon you as a young adult. I would suggest looking elsewhere for possible experimental relationships, even just kissing, to avoid the risk of ruining the friendship with this person. Try avenues such as online dating and be honest with what you're looking for - which is to experiment. If you don't explore, you may regret it, you're still young, go for it!!
2007-10-27 09:55:38 · answer #7 · answered by Emma W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't let that mad man get into your head with all those unnatural thoughts. He will lead you astray and from God. He has planted the seed of sin in your head and you must resist! You don't really want it, you just think you do. That is what we call the Devil's persuasion, I will point the Devil out. Don't be his child. There are beautiful women who want a man to love! Pray to get away from this and cut your ties from this unnatural man. He wants to destroy your mind with his. You aren't an adolescent anymore so this is serious, Just because everyone else does it doesn't mean you should. If he goes to hell or rob himself of his manhood should you?
2007-10-27 10:13:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just bring up the conversation again with your friend and ask if he would ever go so far as to try it. The reason he asked you is because he probably sensed you would be into it before you even did.
2007-10-27 09:52:13 · answer #9 · answered by Nic 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would bring the subject up again with your friend and discuss your feelings with him, he may want to explore this a little bit more too. So, go for it, let yourself go and have a good time with it, and if it is not for you, don't do it again, you will never know until you try, and your friend sounds like he is curious as well, so it will be fun and safe to explore.
2007-10-29 09:03:07 · answer #10 · answered by ziggy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The question is why do you want to? Is it because you are shy of girls or is it because you have never climaxed with a girl .Or is it because some girl has hurt you badly. If the answer is no to all these then maybe you feelings asre naturally gay or you are just curious.
2007-10-27 09:55:55 · answer #11 · answered by adrian 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋