What did you do about it?
2007-10-27 02:38:13 · 25 answers · asked by KCS 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes and I made me feel horrible. I left her and never talked to her again. I think woman cheat on men more than men cheat on women however men just always think that thier wife would never do it so women get away with it a lot more than men do. Women never trust the men and never forgive if the man make a mistake but the men seem to always trust women and end up getting burnt and they still forgive the women whats all this about.
2007-10-27 02:46:32 · answer #1 · answered by Reese's Pieces 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I read someone else's answer...i want to know why when a spouse cheats, the cheated is always so quick to beat up the person that the spouse cheated with?
Seriously, isn't that a problem between the married couple.
Apparently the cheated isn't doing something right or the cheater would stay right where they belong.
2007-10-27 09:44:04 · answer #2 · answered by jennyღ 5 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Yes, but although I only discovered it when we were married it actually happened before..
It took me months to work out what to do. I was truely devastated. We were together for 6 years before we got married, it was just too painful to imagine when and how. All I kept thinking of was all our memories we had created since (Our wedding, our babies..) were lies. there were tears, massive screaming matches, smashing of wedding photos and the usual...
My husband had a nervous breakdown when I found out.. he had been living in fear for so long. he regretted so deeply what he did and wanted to tell me straight away but knew that if he had I would have left him. To be fair before we got married I would have!
I decided to stay because I know my husband loves me, I know he has always loved me and there were so many factors that drove him to do it thankfully none of them to do with us. I also love him so much, and this has actually strenghtened us. We both know this could never happen again. to either of us. I am safe in the knowledge that my husband will never cheat.
We have a truly happy and trusting marriage. I am not a fool, he is not a typical 'cheating ' kind and we have never been happier.
Before I knew about his cheating I would have answered this question with a smug NO!, believeing that my man had always been faithful, thinking that all people that stay with cheats are asking to have their hearts broken again and generally replying that I would kill him and get the hell outta there if he did cheat..
However as with most things, it's not that black and white. people can share their experiences with you but only you can decide what to do about it when and if it ever happens.
2007-10-27 10:21:05 · answer #3 · answered by gellygoggles 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I did after being married for 9 years. I tried to stay with him because we had 2 children. Everytime he left home; I wondered where he was and it stressed me and made me sick. I divorced him, remarried. I have been married for 23 years only to find out that the woman he cheated with is my present husbands' exwife. What a small world! Once the trust is gone; I firmly believe the relationship is over.
2007-10-27 13:38:20 · answer #4 · answered by HopefulnOK 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, but I had a long term boyfriend who did. We were to be married in 2 weeks, when I came home early one day. And, they were upstairs - right in full view.
I screamed a little (a lot, actually) as to how could he do this...bla bla bla..and I left.
The next day I came back, picked up all of my things and left. And never ever looked back. I just said, goodbye - we're through. Of course he all begged and pleaded with me.
It was pretty horrific, really. We had all these wedding plans - big stuff, too. I bravely cancelled everything, and that was the end of the story.
2007-10-27 09:44:46 · answer #5 · answered by ♦♦pixiechix♦♦ 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I won't say yes, but in case, I would look at it as a mistake on her part and help her not to do it again. After all to me love means helping the partner to be better inlife. I will never support the idea of leaving her because nobody can be sure of a second partner. Even if you have a second partner, you will never trust her because of your previous experience, rather it is easy to convince yourself and trust your first love. Please don't ever think of a divorce, it's of no use. Rather I would say, give her a second chance or as many chances as you can till she improves. Believe me, at the end she will love you from the bottom of her heart.
2007-10-27 09:51:22 · answer #6 · answered by ashok t 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, after he travelled to Japan for business trips, I realised he was crazy about Japanese tv drama series.....When I was damn sick sitting beside him (coughing til my lungs like want to throw out), he totally ignored me and just watch the stupid Japanese drama series with lots of enthusiasm...didn't even offer to pour me a glass of hot water or asked the kids to do it.......
He also had been lying that he had to work late, but he was actually calling that japanese slut 7 to 8 times per day, while he didn't even called me once!
I've been with him thru thicks and thins for the past 14 years, this is how he treated me!
I suffered a great deal too when handling our 2 boys who are disobedient....feel that it affects our marriage too.....
I don't trust him anymore and my heart for him has died.....now I only look forward to my new career to be successful....
2007-10-27 10:23:37 · answer #7 · answered by Maggie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes and it was as painful as a death to me ,I freaked out then went for a drive and ask God what should I do ,And I decided to give it another shot since he begged me to forgive him and he told me himself he was cheating .But if I had it to do over he would have been gone that day ,because its always on my mind and I will never trust again .
2007-10-27 09:48:54 · answer #8 · answered by Holly 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, not that I know of anyway. If I did find out that he was cheating on me I would first confront him and want to all the why, buts, ands, so on then decide what to do.
2007-10-27 09:47:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I was so devastated and naive I questioned what I had done wrong!! Needless to say we are divorced and I have since remarried and have never been happier than I am now.
2007-10-27 09:57:58 · answer #10 · answered by Beatrice C 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋