my anger and contempt for people that play head games runs very deep.
how do i handle people that grin broadly at me...beaming wide grins.....when im in the grip of a deep depression, battling a tough illness that is borderline personality disorder and PTSD and aggrophobia.
they must no the insides of your soul what will ignite your anger.....im here struggling like hell in life....battling to keep above water.....clinging onto my dreams of emigration to build a new life......no friends......never having been employed.....never been in a fullfilling relationship.....
and then you get someone who grins widley....almost like mocking me.....revealing happiness ive never experienced....times of happiness and joy that are long forgotten to me..
how do i handle these people?
im sorry im so angry
2007-10-27 02:17:04 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
im 30 now.....an aged 30...a bald 30......an extremely angry and bitter one
2007-10-27 02:18:57 · update #1
Do apologize, your anger stems from something else, all the things you are angry about and sad about, stem from them..the things you complain about, are just superficious, and you probably wouldn't care, if things had been different. Now a computer that crashed and no one that will fix it? now THAT is something to be upset about...Love to you, be back as soon as i can xxxx
2007-10-27 04:10:30 · answer #1 · answered by MotherKittyKat 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to apologise for being so angry - you have had a rotten time so far in life and actually, you should be rather proud of yourself that you got this far and are still in there fighting it all and making plans to be happy. One of the answers on here from =42 was rather insightful...its really a choice. That sounds simplistic but thats what it amounts to. You have spent far too long feeling powerless that you have forgotten that you have the power to act and do things yourself. Of course sometimes it is hard to trust our own judgement if we have been suppressed by our families but now and again, feel free to do something that you feel is right. So what if it doesn't go according to plan? Life would be dull if we knew what was around every corner. You have the power to be happy if you let that be something you want and feel you deserve. Right now, I think you have a long way to go before you feel okay about happiness - you give the impression of being afraid of being content - just incase someone takes it away again. But happiness and contentment are states of mind that you possess and nobody can take them unless you let them. The choices are now yours. Head games are for losers so ignore the idiots out there. You have more to offer this world than they do.
2007-10-27 19:03:55 · answer #2 · answered by AUNTY EM 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that a lot this is in your head and that instead of letting the paranoia that comes as an aspect of BPD stress you out and making you see things through a negative filter, you need to step back and put things into perspective. Sure, bad things happen and often there is no good reason for it, and it probably comes at the worst possible time, but its just chance.
No one is out to get you and most likely, if you think about this in a calm logical way for a minute, there aren't any external forces actively working to harm you or create discord in your life. You need to use your intelligence to work out when something is just chance or when people really are trying to manipulate you into an impossible situation. You can usually work this out by figuring what they would gain from using you and seeing if it tallies from the way they are acting towards you.
You are allowed to be angry, just don't let it control your ability to reason and think things through before you react. I think you need to talk to your therapist about this. Got to go...best wishes and good luck!
2007-10-28 06:17:47 · answer #3 · answered by Cat S 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
most people do not do that. But some people, when they see an easy target, someone who will be easily confused and upset, will take their frustrations out out you. Those people have issues of their own. You were bullied when you were a vulnerable child. One never forgets that. You are not alone.
However, you have power now. The power to just not let those people in your life. You have power to say what you want to those people and not be afraid. If there is someone who wants to e an as.s, they have issues. kids who bully have problems at home, they are feeling insecure. As adults, people who manipulate or confuse others are insecure, and need to inflate their egos. Once you realize that, you will have power over them. mental power. Just say to yourself everyday " I have power over how I let people treat me".
2007-10-27 10:42:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
People used to get me angry. And sad. And depressed. Then one day I realised that it was me, I was giving these people the power to do this to me. I realised that only I could make myself angry, sad, depressed. Or happy. I took the power away from them, and gave it to me. Happiness is a choice. Only you can choose, it's a choice. Choose to be happy.
2007-10-27 10:14:12 · answer #5 · answered by =42 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry to hear of your anguish. You are hurting, I can see that. this might just be a battle in your mind which you can be victorious in the end. email me and I can tell you who can help...
2007-10-27 09:31:43 · answer #6 · answered by Lin B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋