I have three kids and I am married. I have been married for six years now. I am 29 years of age. This is my first and only marriage. It is also for my husband. He is the only man that I have my kids from. The same applies to him. Vice Versa. He is my only baby daddy. I have gotten snide comments from others about the number of kids I have. I am a good mother and wife. I don't stay out at night to party. I am a stay-at-home-mom. I am very responsible. I have never cheated on my husband. I have no criminal record. I am not perfect I know that. People say mean comments to me in public about how many kids I have. I am very unlike some women who never be home with their children and neglect them totally. I am truly the opposite of them. This woman made this comment. She said I had three kids already and I need to stop letting my husband put all these babies in me. She made this comment in public, in front of people. This same women has no kids of her own. Why all the rude remarks?
2007-10-27 00:58:47 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Three children? Married to one man who fathered all of your children, you are 29 years old? You don't go out and party and you are a good mother?? They must be talking down to you for some other reason, because your post sounds completely normal. Either something else is going on or you need to start associating with a different crowd.
Peace
Rachel
(mother of two) (same baby daddy)
2007-10-27 01:06:49 · answer #1 · answered by Rachel☺ 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well, part of the story is missing. Why did this woman suddenly "volunteer" her comment. On the face of it the comment is very rude, but I can envisage situations that would make the comment less rude. For example, if you were complaining about not having enough money and how expensive your kids are, then the comment is almost asked for. If you were cashing food stamps at the time, then maybe the comment was rude but the point wasn't.
Maybe you were in public and the kids were running amok and the lady had enough of your not doing anything about it.
Honestly I do not know because you did not say. Her comments might be rude but the situation may have called for a rude comment.
2007-10-27 08:11:49 · answer #2 · answered by busterwasmycat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That lady was rude. Obviously, it got to you, but seriously, you should feel very proud of what you do and who you are. Sounds like you are a very smart person and having 3 kids at that age is not silly. It's very common, actually a more responsible way of doing things I would say. Maybe she forgot to take her medication that day or is bitter b/c she may regret not having kids, whatever. Point being, never take advise from people who obviously don't know what it's like or hasn't lived a day in your shoes. She probably needed to boost her self-esteem by picking on someone else, so thank God, she doesn't have children, imagine what things she'd say to them. Stand proud! Don't let anyone make you feel less than what you are!!!
2007-10-27 14:38:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Visira,
I'm in the same boat, as I have also had three kids before thirty.
The answer is simple: You look younger than your age. If you looked half the age as that woman is, she would not have DARED say or even think that of you. People act funny around youthful looking and youthful acting people.
I have had one woman in public ask if my child was MINE!
I know in my gut that these comments are because I look ten years younger than my age and their little minds can't get around the fact that I have a husband, children, a dog and a morgage to go with it.
Keep that joy of life and great looks!
2007-10-27 08:35:39 · answer #4 · answered by emilsignia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have four kids and I've never had any rude comments. Just have something equally embarrassing prepared for when people say something like this. I'd lean in and whisper something like "Well, I keep telling him to do me in the butt but he says my vagina is soooo perfect!" That'll leave people like that with a quizzical look and an open jaw ;)
There are some people on the planet that are convinced that the way they live their life is the only way. It's up to the rest of us to shock them into reality.....
Enjoy your life...don't worry about what others think of you :)
2007-10-27 10:37:09 · answer #5 · answered by oracleofohio 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sure anyone who heard this rude comment are wondering what HER problem is, not you. She is probably jealous because you have 3 beautiful babies and a loving husband. Not everyone can be so lucky. Just ignore her remarks but stay kind, as she is just transferring her anger.
2007-10-27 08:56:51 · answer #6 · answered by Lioness 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my husband has 3 kids from a previous marriage, and we have a son together. he has heard the same comments. if you can have 3, and take care of them (financially, physically, and all that stuff) good for you! alot of people cant. they want these big families, and then cant afford to do stuff at christmas, or birtdhays...that bothers me. his 3 girls dont get much for holidays (moms family) just for the simple fact, that there are 3 of them...the mom cant afford to take them on a cool vacation, and she cant afford a house so they all have their own rooms...that kind of stuff. that seems selfish to me. she wanted all these kids, they are the ones that have to suffer because of each other. i have one child, thats enough for me. i know i can handle one...in every way. i see people with 3 or 4 kids, and the mom is at her wits end, in the grocery store, and the kids are pitching a fit, and shes going crazy...i say to myself, you know what causes this!! i myself, dont get it either...
2007-10-27 09:11:03 · answer #7 · answered by poodle mom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She was rude and should learn to keep her mouth shut. You have every right to have as many children as you want, as long as you take care of them and can afford them. You sound like a good mother and wife. The world needs more people that stay home and raise their children properly- like you. Don't let one rude comment hurt you. Keep being a good mom and wife, and ignore that rude woman!
2007-10-27 08:04:45 · answer #8 · answered by Penny P 5 · 4⤊ 1⤋
people are rude. but what you have to understand 3 kids arent to many and the people that have comments for you have problems weather it be jealousy or maybe they cant afford 3 kids themselves. somewhere there is a root to there problem, sounds to me like you have a good life and a nice little family. enjoy them and ignore negative comments from others.
2007-10-27 08:07:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
in this day and age... three kids.. are 29 is no big deal..actually. may this later is rude because she is envious..that she has no children. or just rude. and you have a husband.. with these children not just a boyfriend..so that is a matter between you and hubby...not her. i would tell people to mind their own business. and i would not try to explain anything. you owe them nothing.
2007-10-27 08:15:08 · answer #10 · answered by foosieboy1953 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋