My parents are finding matches to get me married. But Iam scared what happens when my spouse gets to know of my hearing loss. Otherwise Iam perfectly fine. Please suggest me if I should share this with him before marriage?
2007-10-27 00:56:33 · 17 answers · asked by sucking 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I have seen a doctor and he advised me to wear hearing aids. I dont think anyone will be interested to come forward and have a relationship with me knowing that I have this problem. As I am from an Indian family, I am even worried about my in-laws. Can you please suggest any hearing aids which are very much invisible. Will be very very thankful for the suggestion.
2007-10-27 03:57:33 · update #1
Hi!!!
I can only answer you from the point of veiw of actually having a hearing loss..
I recently lost my hearing, just about all of it, after getting a cold. I had just about nothing, even two hearing aids were of little benefit. I have, a few months ago, had a cochlear implant fitted, and am so extremely grateful for what I can now hear. It has done immense things for my personal confidence.
I can very much relate to your feelings of insecurity about how any potential partner will respond to your hearing loss. The same thing scares me too. Will he think I'm stupid because I'm not "normal", will he laugh, will he be embarrassed to introduce me to his family...
These feelings are perfectly legitimate, and cannot be fully understood unless you are in the same position. But...
You need to see you ARE worth it. You are special and unique. Despite your hearing loss, and because of your hearing loss. Not being able to hear in no way effects your ability to learn, to laugh, to love and share everything wonderful with a partner, and a genuine person WILL see that.
Also, how long has your hearing loss been present? If it has been for some time, I can only guess that you have, with time, just become accustomed to it, and learnt other ways to help communicate. Lip reading is very good!
If it is becoming a problem in day-to-day life, there are sone excellent hearing aids on the market now, and some of them are so small, you can't even tell you are wearing them.
Have you spoken with a professional? Find yourself a good audiologist, and they will guide you through all your options.
About the marriage thing...if that is what your customs and traditions are, best of luck to you.
Don't forget, YOU ARE WORTH IT! You are worth being happy in your life. Your hearing loss should not hold you back from anything.
Best wishes...
2007-11-02 23:53:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
iam 20 year traditional girl mild hearing loss making life suicidal
2016-02-03 12:20:26 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some excellent and caring advice has already been given here. Why are your parents finding matches for you? Is it some kind of religious/lifestyle thing? Anyway, that aside, mild hearing loss is not by any means an issue! In any case there are micro hearing aids or possibly surgical procedures that may correct this. Whta concerns me is the mention of "suicidal". There has to be something else making you feel that way. It's serious - please seek some professional help if you're really that desperate.
2007-10-27 01:33:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please dont have an arranged marriage it usually doesnt work out even your parents might want to get you married have a love marriage get to know the guy date for few years(marry after your 26 and have a career to support yourself)please if he doesnt love you with partial hearing loss what if tomorrow you cant have kids or he meets with an accident or something bad happens God has made a man for you who loves you with your hearing loss you just got to find him be honest with him and see if he loves you enough to marry and take life from there he should not see hearing loss as weakness.
2007-10-27 01:14:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A 'mild hearing loss', is a very insignificant point, in this context: men will see the bright things about you, the man who marries you will love you, care for you, you will have a good life, be assured! On your part, don't ever let that 'mild hearing loss' affect your personality, your cheer, your love for your man, don't unduly ask for exceesive sypathy or special treatment from your man or his people, or for that matter, from anyone in life! Be confident, you are good, good you will continue to be! Good luck, have a great life ahead!
2007-10-27 01:13:13 · answer #5 · answered by swanjarvi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when you meet someone tell them you cant hear well and they need to look at you so you can read their lips.some might not like it but the right man will love you ,not your hearing. you can still live life to its fullest. thank god everyday for being able to walk,feel and see. there is more beauty to enjoy with those senses. there is so much hate in this world,if i had to choose i would pick to loose my hearing. then you would have to view people by their actions not their words. you will no longer have to listen to the negative people,tones of peoples voices,or hate coming from everywhere. you will see more things that you never noticed before. god bless.
2007-10-27 02:02:53 · answer #6 · answered by marilynfsmgm 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My daughter has a total hearing loss in one ear. She went to college, is working in the career of her dreams and married a wonderful man. She didn't let her hearing loss deprive her of anything and neither should you.
2007-10-27 01:01:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he doesn't love you because of a hearing problem than he is a poor excuse of a man and would make a bad husband anyway. A man should never determine what you think of yourself.
2007-10-27 01:01:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well this is not a big deal honey. I wear glasses and this means my sight is not very good. Please share the information with your future husband in case he has a problem with it. You want to marry the most sincere man who will cherish you for life and not hold anything against you.
2007-10-27 01:25:32 · answer #9 · answered by luteachris 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can only hear in one ear and it can come in handy sometimes! Sleeping through a snoring partner, putting my crying newborns next to it (then it doesnt ring through my ears!) I cant see there will be a problem as long as your honest (people who didnt know assumed i was stupid!) If it really effects your every day living are you aloud to have operations in your religion to improve it?
2007-10-27 01:05:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋