i want to have some time alone from my baby like go to the mall or see a movie, but my husband makes me feel guity. and he doesnt like to look after her and he wont let me get a sitter i just wish i had one day a week for me
2007-10-27 00:29:10 · 24 answers · asked by Ladyofdubai 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You could tell him that you also need to have some time for you.
Besides, it's not only your responsibility to look after your child.
2007-10-27 01:00:26 · answer #1 · answered by cutiepie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I cant believe that in this day and age that their are still some people living in the dark ages! come on! Only you can make changes in your marriage, so therfore it is up to you to voice your opinion and put a stop to his imature behavior, and if you dont, in time you will develop resentment and anger towards him and your life. This almost borderlines marital abuse. You are the person who is in charge, so stop acting like a little girl, and start being a take charge woman! This is not healthy nor safe, so these changes must start today! Today you tell him, {dont ask}, that you are taking the baby for a walk, or the mall, whatever you like, and you just do it! Also keep in mind, you are not doing your husband any favors by letting him treat you like a rug that he can walk on whenever he so feels like, the more you allow him to have control, the more control he will take, he will only become worse, so I recomend you nip this in the bud! And your gonna do it today!And he,s gonna give you some spending money!
2007-10-27 08:16:50 · answer #2 · answered by penelope 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like a total bully.How does he make you feel guilty?Are you afraid of him?His behavior is unacceptable and everybody needs a break,you appreciate your kids more when you have some "me" time.Whats his problem with a sitter,is it insecurity,like he doesnt want you out alone full stop?You need a break so either organise someone you trust to mind your baby or make him do it.You have nothing to feel guilty about.
2007-10-27 07:52:31 · answer #3 · answered by eve4375 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you mean, he doesn't "let" you get a sitter? Call one anyway and go do your thing.
If he acts all hurt, just give him a kiss and tell him that it makes you feel like a sexy woman again when you have some time for yourself. How's he going to argue against that?
2007-10-27 07:36:50 · answer #4 · answered by equal_opposites 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him the only man that told you what to do was your father. Hire a sitter and go to the mall AND the movies. You need to stand up for yourself. No one will do this for you.
2007-10-27 07:57:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
What you are asking is completely reasonable.
First, explain this to your hus in a tone of voice that is strong, but not accusing or harsh. Try to apporach him with a plan were he gets a day a week for himself, too.
Second, DON'T feel guilty. I realize he is probably putting on the pressure, but after that, you are ALLOWING his tactics to work. Go have fun.
If this doesn't work, explore "Mother's day outings" at churches in your area.
Good luck and best wishes.
2007-10-27 07:36:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you tell him.... look... we had this child together...and we are going to share the responsibility of raising...her. tell... him... the privilege of getting some free time is not for him only... and since he does not want a sitter..then he can do the watching. pick a day... and tell him see ya... later. other wise.. grab a grandma or favorite aunt.. and get out of the house for a while. your husband can not have every thing his own way.
2007-10-27 08:06:14 · answer #7 · answered by foosieboy1953 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him straight up that you need some time for yourself and just leave him with the baby. You didn't lay down and make this baby by yourself why should you have to take care of it by yourself? Tell him you love your daughter but you need some time for yourself! There is nothing wrong with doing something for yourself! Nothing at all! I say that you need to make your point known and make sure he understands that if he gets his time alone from the baby that you do too!
2007-10-27 07:37:04 · answer #8 · answered by rashida_16 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you're right to want to have some alone time with adult friends, i hate when the daddys think they are "babysitting" I call it daddy duty, he may be afraid to take care of your child alone, which he doesnt say but it comes out as he is making you feel guilty, my husband always tells me to go ahead go out with friends, but i feel guilty all night, because im not use to going out without the kids, my suggestion to you is plan a evening out with friends, pack up your baby, and bring her too a babysitter,then go out and enjoy yourself, its a little deceptive, not telling your husband, but if you dont you will start to resent your husband for not letting you go out, then make sure you plan a night out for the both of you also, if this doesnt work, get into some marriage counciling alone or together, good luck with your situation.
2007-10-27 07:47:10 · answer #9 · answered by walmartshopper 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Leave the baby and he'll have not choice but to take care of her OR just tell him how you feel and make sure you also give him one day a week. It's only fair.
2007-10-27 07:51:22 · answer #10 · answered by some female 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know this guy who calls himself GOD. Hes a slick devil and will do it for free. Yuor kid might haves a flea in there ear when you come back but theres nothing you can do about that cause hes the law. But keep an eye on them cause GOD has a sicker mind than you think and if you could only know then everybody would want to tear the situation apart!!!!!! So call him and hell be there. But do not say anything for he will make deadly threats.
2007-10-27 07:50:16 · answer #11 · answered by w b 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋