This is going to sound really ignorant and naive, but that's coz when it comes to this subject I am.
I have never been to a gay bar but I'm going out to the gay village in Manchester in a couple of weeks with my two straight female friends and a male friend who is gay, for no other reason than we wanted a night out where we could dance and talk and have fun without lecherous men hitting on us. Since this was arranged I've split up with my husband but that is still the purpose of our night out coz I'm still not going out on the pull for some time to come.
But it got me thinking, coz sooner or later I may want a new man in my life, (I haven't ruled that out), but any new man would have to be comfortable around my friends and family including the gay one's. So would a gay bar be a good place to look? Coz obviously if a straight guy is there he's very secure in his own sexuality (unless of course he's in denial) and is more likely to be the type of guy I'd like to get to know.
2007-10-26 23:32:23 · 20 answers · asked by Louise H 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Mizzz unique - I have no feelings about you one way or another, but thanks for your sentiments. I'll stay away from you promise.
Shiver - Now if I met your twin brother in a gay club and he was single *I can dream* well do I need to say more ..... you know how that story goes.
2007-10-27 01:18:40 · update #1
B G - when you were straight, and not bi.... Hmmm! What's wrong with that statement? By definition straight men NEVER fancy men. Bi men sometimes think they're straight until they have their first gay encounter but they've always had the potential to do that, straight men don't.
2007-10-27 04:47:04 · update #2
ICEMAN - hahaha. If it's the girls hitting on me they'll be told nicely that I'm very flattered but I don't swing that way. If ANYONE touches my derriere they'll get the same reaction whatever gender they are. A smack in the mouth.
2007-10-27 04:51:11 · update #3
To be honest ths is one my pet gripes - not the question, but some of the responses to it. 'Oh you won't find straight men in gay bars', 'They must be (at the very least) curious' 'Why do you hang around gay bars or gay people if you're straight' and so on with varying degress of reactionary responses in a negative way.
For me gay bars exist as a way of people regardless of sexuality knowing that it is a safe place to drink and socialise and people will not judge you for sexuality. It shouldn't have to be about segregation or negativity or even having to give a person a hard time about their sexuality. It is about getting rid of some of the phobias, nastiness and downright violence towards people who choose to go down a different route to the so called 'norm' with regards to their sexuality.
Now a straight man going onto the 'scene'? That is a difficult point as I am almost going to sound like I've contradicted myself here, but here is some of my theories. Sometimes women will go onto the scene for the exact reasons you have stated and 'straight' men will follow because they think they are following a vunrable person(s) and that will make for an easy score, in their eyes. Sometimes there is varying degrees of curiosity as in 'what is all the fuss about?' to possibly questioning their own sexuality. Finally there is a man who might have a mixed bunch of friends and he is simply the kind of guy who isn't insecure about his sexuality just wants a good night out and respects his gay friend(s) need and want to go out on the scene.
Really Lou, that's where it is for you. Sure if you meet some guy on the scene, good for you! However I wouldn't go there necessarily with any high hopes of it happening because of all the variables that could happen before that!
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Do straight guys go to gay bars and clubs?
This is going to sound really ignorant and naive, but that's coz when it comes to this subject I am.
I have never been to a gay bar but I'm going out to the gay village in Manchester in a couple of weeks with my two straight female friends and a male friend who is gay, for no other...
2015-08-10 06:48:33 · answer #4 · answered by Tenisha 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes, but it is not the norm.
In my 20's I used to go with a couple of my girlfriends to a gay bar that had transvestites and trans-gender performers. The girls liked it because they usually didn't have to worry about getting hit on constantly. I liked it because there was no other place were the dancing was as good. And the girls knew I wasn't gay AND I liked to dance, so it was good for me. Also, sometimes I got my drinks for free--even when the gay guy buying was told point blank, that I don't play that way. Even the entertainment was pretty funny sometimes. I swear to this day that some of those male performers--well, let's just say that I have no idea what they did to hide body parts!
Having told you about my story, I am not sure that this is the kind of place where you should be looking for a new man. I was totally the exception. The rest of the non-gay male patrons of this bar were guys who obviously got dragged in by their girlfriends. They rarely danced and looked stiff and uncomfortable standing at the bar. Best probably to stick to more traditional places and methods....unless things are different in the UK than they are here in the USA.
2007-10-26 23:45:13 · answer #5 · answered by swimeveryday 4 · 6⤊ 1⤋
I don't know about other states or cities but straight men are always up in the gay clubs here. Why? They are trying to pick up women. I've fun across a few myself when I use to go out and believe me sometimes they will find someone to hook up with. Then there are some straight men that just come to hang out. I've had two straight guy friends go to the gay clubs with us and said that they prefer the atmosphere. No fighthing and everyone just having a good time...and yeah they did try to pick up on women.
2007-10-27 04:14:45 · answer #6 · answered by sumptinsweet4u 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You sound like you are comfortable enough to go to work in a gay bar/club. Just expect that you will be hit on every now and then. Be kind in your declines and all should go well. I think tipping would result in the quality of your work but smiles and kind words should help in that department also. Good luck!
2016-03-19 00:16:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Which planet doe`s Williams live on straight men don`t go to gay bars of course they do... (1) pure curiosity,(2) check out to see if the lesbians are fully committed to being a lesbian don't forget some of them are BI-SEXUAL and still feel the need to have sex with a man,(3) there is never any macho bullshitters... how do i know this worked with a few in the job and went because of reason number (1) had a great night out so go and enjoy yourself LOUISE H xxxx never know it mite not be the men how touch your bum !!! mmmmm ha ha
2007-10-27 04:17:14 · answer #8 · answered by ICEMAN 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes I have seen a couple of straight guys in a gay bar, you are correct in assuming that they would have to be very secure in their sexuality (especially since they were both gorgeous)
But I dont think that you should keep your hopes up for that (finding a straight guy in a gay bar) I mean that would be like looking for a gay guy in Hooters. Very unlikely (although possible, but so not probable)
2007-10-27 03:34:40 · answer #9 · answered by Joeyboy 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, some I know do. But its because of the fact that some straight girls like to go to gay bars with their gay guy friends. The guys talk to them, and some straight guys don't hate gay guys.
2007-10-27 09:49:51 · answer #10 · answered by Pentagram 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋