OK, let me first give u a little history; My boyfriend and I (both 18) have been 2gether 4 a year and a half, we lived 2gether for about 4 months (finacial issues), we've had our ups and downs like any normal couple, but 4 the most part the relationship is great (at lease I thought it was until last night). I got this feeling (call it woman's intuition) and something told me 2 check him out, so I go through all his email accounts (I know, asking 4 trouble) and I c he has been on TAGGED recently, so I log into that account and go through his messages. He had really old messages, one of which he was writing 2 an ex, a song that he told me he wrote 2 me (we were not officall at the time). Another message read that he was trying 2 get in touch because he wanted 2 c her (we had just moved in 2gether). We talked and he told me that he had tried a couple of times 2 reconnect with 2 different ex's but didn't actually go through with it because he didn't want to jepordize our relationship.....
2007-10-26 21:29:21 · 9 answers · asked by Damn_Im_Fine 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He said he only emailed one of them when we had an argument. Later I found out that he had a secret email account, when I check that one there were emails sent back and forth saying they missed each other and wanted 2 c each other and he asked 4 her #,of course she gave it. He said he never called her but she called him once. Im not falling 4 that **** at all, 2 me he is a lier and will 4ever be one, but I dont want 2 leave. Mainly because of the baby, she's not his but has grown very attached and calls him daddy. So how am I supposed 2 stay in a relationship with no trust. He says he's going stick around and take all the bullshit I'm about 2 put him through because I'm hurting. He said he didn't ****, but 2 me it's all the same. Why???? when I was so good 2 him(this he said himself). How can we get pass it. Is it even possible.
2007-10-26 21:43:07 · update #1
Well atleast he was honest with you, however if he is with you why is he concerned about his ex's? Ask him that. Why did he lie about writing the song to you? Those are some questions you may want to run by him.
wow you are very young to have all of that going on. i didn't know a child was involved.
2007-10-26 21:33:11 · answer #1 · answered by justaskin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems like alot of guys tend to line up girls... so if one falls through, they have a back up. And to me...it just seems like your relationship is one that kind of stuck. But the fact that it was still kinda happening when you moved in together. Just says that it might be something thats not going to stop. So I would take a good look at your relationship and question weither or not you really want to put up with repetivite situations like that or if you really want to be in that relationship. Maybe take a break from eachother and see if that makes an impact in your relationship. For one...theres plenty of guys out there that can be in fully committed one girl one guy kind of relationships and maybe this one just isint the one for you.
2007-10-27 04:35:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well hello there. My name is Brittany I am also 18 and I also have been with my boyfriend for 4 years, and we have lived together for over 2. I had the same situation with my boyfriend, except it was me in ur boyfriends shoes. I tried to reconnect with some ex's. But only because I felt I didnt have closeure in that realationship. I still loved the boyfriend I was with. But I was also curious about my ex's too. I dont feel that ur boyfriend cares any less about you. He may even be apt to cheat. But he still loves you (cheating makes him a total dirtbag, same as myself). I would sit him down and talk to him about these things. And see what he has to say. Ask him questions, for example; "do you still have feelings for your ex?" "Do you feel for me as much as you felt for them?" and tell him how it makes you feel. I promise you will get somewhere with him. I hope this helps.
2007-10-27 04:42:30 · answer #3 · answered by sexyback7716 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you really need people on an open forum to answer this question?? Ya?? ok. 1) you have trust issues. snooping thru his mail?? not cool. 2) he has commitment issues. talk about this together and 3) IF YOU PLAY HOUSE you will get burned! this relationship is fruitless, find someone else.
2007-10-27 04:35:33 · answer #4 · answered by marian g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have jeoparidized this relationship by spying on him. You had not right to go into his personal and private stuff. How would you feel if someone did that to you? If you think he's "stepping out" on you then perhaps it's time to move on. Relationships must be built on trust.
2007-10-27 04:34:48 · answer #5 · answered by Richard B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow you both are very young. I did a similar thing once where I had the opportunity to read my bf's emails. I found things I wish I hadn't and that hurt my feelings. Your bf trying to get in touch with two exes while dating you is not cool but it's good that he told you he didn't want to jeopardize your relationship....he could've been lying though to cover his ***. I dunno.
2007-10-27 04:35:23 · answer #6 · answered by Erato 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you both started too early
2007-10-27 04:31:50 · answer #7 · answered by boy_jam_arch 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you guys seem way to young to be living together. . .
2007-10-27 04:38:13 · answer #8 · answered by chronicsurfer69 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay...So what is the question?
2007-10-27 04:32:46 · answer #9 · answered by Jordan Is My Love 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋