Our relationship was not very stable. But now it seemed to be getting o.k.Then I discovered this past bit of unfidelity. He's swearing that he'll be faithful from now on . But should I take him back
2007-10-26 21:19:57 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Nope. Under no circumstances take him back. He will do it again.
2007-10-26 21:23:48 · answer #1 · answered by Iris 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Ive been told once a cheater always a cheater, so it would be a wise choice not to take him back. But I have so many times taken a cheater back b/c I fell for the whole "I won't do it again" thing and kept getting cheated on. And Ive learned that a man is gonna do what you let him. And by taking him back all the time, it was telling him that it was ok for him to keep doing it. And he took me for granted. Very few men really will change, but it up to you to risk getting your heart broken in the future because he decides he wants to play games again.
2007-10-27 04:26:48 · answer #2 · answered by Dae 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's a good question and only you can size things up to know if he can be trusted again. Unfortunately, cheating isn't usually a one time thing with guys and it has to make you wonder how many more there are that you don't know about, simply because he wasn't caught and didn't tell you. Good Luck and hope you make the right choice for yourself. Remember, if you're going to tolerate this kind of thing, you may very well be missing out other fine men that may be ther for the taking...ones that won't cheat on you. D'n'D
2007-10-27 04:25:30 · answer #3 · answered by DESPERATELY SEEKING SANITY!!! 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
my ex used to tell me all the time that he doesn't lie and doesn't cheat,
it took me a long time to realize that just because someone doesn't lie it doesn't make them honest.
all he did was pick his words carefully so that he would not be lying or he would just choose not to respond to a question
-like if he went out til 3 am with his friends he would tell me he went to the pool hall with the guys, what he wouldn't say is that they played doubles with the girls there or that they all went to a club after or that he drove home drunk
-you sometimes need to ask lots of questions in different ways, and really know if your ready to take the chance or if this will just be a different book with the same ending. counselling may be a good really idea
-and good rule to live by if you do get back together is "trust, but verify"
2007-10-27 04:37:33 · answer #4 · answered by maybyesmaybno 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends. Do his actions really reflect regret and wanting it to work? I know I cheated on my boy of 3 years and felt absolutely awful and wouldve done anything to take it back. I hid it for a while but eventually confessed so We split up for a year so he could deal with it, then got back together and its been great ever since, and i havent done it again as the split showed me what i was losing. If he's an asshole and always has been, better to move on now before there's kids or a huge investment.
2007-10-27 04:24:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Hmm that's tough as there are guys who really do keep their word and some who don't. I think in this situation you need to trust your heart because you know him much more than any of us. It's quite hard for us to give you an answer without knowing him. But i think you should give him a chance. Everyone deserves at least a second chance. Good luck!
2007-10-27 04:29:38 · answer #6 · answered by Baby Monkee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once a cheater always a cheater. I also depends the time of cheating was when you guys were deeply in love or it was just at the beginning of your relationship. It is all up to you to decide if he is worth giving another chance.
2007-10-27 04:50:32 · answer #7 · answered by lost-in-love 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you shouldn't. If somebody is cheating its because they aren't happy. They are looking for something they are missing in there life. The problem is going to still be there and a good relationship is based on trust. Can you truly trust him after something like that???
2007-10-27 04:40:23 · answer #8 · answered by James K 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope you dont, ive had experience with guys like this. once you take them back after they know you know they cheated on you, they have less respect for you, feel superior and likeley will cheat again. They know they can get away with it so they will cheat..
Find someone new, whos more decent.. for the sake of your self esteem
2007-10-27 04:29:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
HIya, ive been cheated on in the past and it hurts really bad. I think evryone makes mistakes so evryone deserves a second chance, if you truly love him take him back but make sure he knows what hes gonna loose if he does it again. if he dares to do it again dump him and he will soon realise what he has lost. luv yah x x
2007-10-27 04:25:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
no once a cheater always a cheater. there are soo many other guys in the world. youll find the right one but holding on to the bad doesnt get you to the good.
good luck!alex:)
2007-10-27 04:26:00 · answer #11 · answered by a 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋