Me and my boyfriend have alot of issues!!! he's lied to me atleast 6 times in the last year.. and when i met him he just got out of a 2 year relationship with a woman who he cheated on and she cheated on him. he tells me he doesnt love her and he loves me, but yet he lies to me?? i've talked to her and she had told me they tryed to get pregnant.. he swears he didnt want a child with her because she already had 2... people have told me shes a lier but hes also lied to me, but his reasons for lieing to me was because he was scared of what i'd think of him and he'd loose me is that true???he ells me im the first girl hes ever propored to and wanted a child with... could that be true??? help me please....
2007-10-26 19:44:15 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ok let me explain a little more, as far as i know he hasnt cheated on me. and i know he hasnt because he's always with me. and he lied about his past relationship to me. and little stuff here and there. he promised he'll be better and so far he has...
2007-10-26 20:15:20 · update #1
Well, Here's how I see your problems! He's admitted to you that he had cheated on his last girlfriend!!! BIG RED FLAG #!
Over half of the huge devorces today are of the causes by cheating spouses!!!! FACT!
#1 Reason for devorces is MONEY! FACT!
I believe any cheater will always be a cheater!!!! FACT!
You say he's lied to you 6 times now in the last year, RELATIONS are based on Trust and Honesty!!! Fact!
Now I don't really know the guy, and I'm only going by what you have posted about him!
1) He's a Cheater!
2) He lies to you Often!
3) He proposed to you!
4) He wants to have a child with you! But says he didn't want one when he was with his old girlfriend because she already had 2! FACT! 98% of guys will want one of there own if the woman already has children from someone else! FACT!
5) He says he lies to you, because he don't want to lose you!
( Just an excuse for beng caught lieing )! FACT!
So here's my conclusion, you have a boyfriend that seems to think it's ok to lie to you but yet purposes to you! he didn't want any children with his ex of 2 years, but wants one with you! He cheated on his ex, yet then admits it to you!
I would say your in a very bad relationship, and should try to end it as soon as you can before he cheats on you, and just ends up getting you pregnant and leaving you, You deserve better then that, All the RED FLAGS to get out of the relationship have been flying full mass, and yet you choose to ignore the consequences that will be coming from such a bad relationship! Find someone that will honestly love you, and be honest and faithful and cheerish you for who you are!
Too many lies have been told, too much dishonest for a real relationship, and a marriage would be a disaster for sure! He's a very high risk for a future Devorce court! Not a future of happyness on your part!
2007-10-26 20:22:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be true, but it could be a lie. It is more important for you to ask yourself if you want a child with this man. What will you do, if, you get pregnant and he cheats or lies ? Is it worth the risk? I would say NO WAY!
2007-10-26 19:52:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to dump this lying loser immediately. Once a cheater, always a cheater. He will only bring you down. Don't you want better for yourself?
Also, some advice: You also need to learn how to spell and punctuate properly. This is how you present yourself, you will not get very far in life if you communicate in such a low-class way.
good luck.
2007-10-26 19:50:07 · answer #3 · answered by californiablueeyes76 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You mentioned issues. Seems the only issue that you have is the idea that you have to endure this guys continued untruthfulness. Do you really think that little of yourself?? I am sure that you love him. I love Double Whoppers and Big Macs, but I that is all that I eat, they will sure as hell kill me in short order. Gather your things, see a therapist, learn who you are, and start over. Please dont pollute the gene pool any farther by procreating with this dude.
2007-10-26 19:49:26 · answer #4 · answered by MHnurseC 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry to say, but ive been in a similar situation where it ended badly. he cheated on me 3 times, i took him back, and in the end, the famous quote "once a cheater always a cheater" played the perfect role in the situation. why would the girl lie to you when your man is with her?...he might be telling the truth but you should investigate more...good luck.
2007-10-26 19:49:21 · answer #5 · answered by Hinal P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Read "10 Stupid Things Women Do to Mess Up Their Lives"
Your boyfriend is a guy who likes screwing around.
The only 'issue' is why you are in denial regarding this.
Good Luck.
2007-10-26 20:05:37 · answer #6 · answered by Phoenix Quill 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't have a good relationship without trust and if he lies to you, then you can't trust him. He sounds like trouble to me.
2007-10-26 19:49:57 · answer #7 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is your experience and u no from others that he is a cheat. just he needs be discarded.
2007-10-26 19:48:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should in all honesty ditch him and move on
2007-10-26 19:48:03 · answer #9 · answered by Barbie V 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dump that jerk. 6 times still not enough? its time to move on...
2007-10-26 19:48:04 · answer #10 · answered by Lingz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋