He tells me to do stuff for him, but whenever I ask him to do something or stop doing something (like to turn the lights off in the garage) he never does it. He doesn't even try to remember. He says that because I'm his child I should listen, but he doesn't have to listen to my requests because he's my father. I think that's unfair and pridefull.
It makes me so angry, although I know that it's a little childish. How do I deal with him and keep forgiving him?
2007-10-26 19:20:21 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Thank you so much for your answers!
I appreciate you for every single one of them.
Toadaly- that's funny, actually makes me love him more.
2007-10-26 21:14:18 · update #1
Just remember, You are not respecting him for the sake of who HE IS, you are respecting him because of who YOU ARE , and the example that God wants you to be.
Forgiving Him-Well, we forgive because He first forgave us. It is natural for you to want to punish him. And God put laws into the universe that back up that feeling. But remember, Jesus came to take that punishment. So...(and this really helps me) just imagine nailing Jesus to that cross and beating Him for your dad. You won't want to do it very long. But that's what forgiveness is about. Jesus took the punishment, and we don't need to take it away from Him and give it back out to others.
2007-10-26 20:26:42 · answer #1 · answered by Adan 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depends on how old you are: If you are not an adult yet and live under his "paid for " roof, you have no right to tell him what to do and expect him to have to listen, but you have every obligation to listen to him.
If you are an adult and live somewhere else, you still have no right to tell him what to do, but he can't tell you what to do either.
Now if you are adult and live under his roof, a mutual respect should be had where he takes care of tings and you do as well, but he can still ask you to do things without having to listen to you. As long as he is the parent and you aren't paying to live there , you have no authority.
Sorry to say that tho.
It says in th ebible to obey the mother and father.
He should tho, consider your feelings and he should be carrying his own weight-You might wan to open a dialogue with him about how you feel-by being warm hearted about it and none judgemental. This way he won't feel attacked and you will have been heard. If it's just meaningles stuff though, and he does a lot of work then i wouldnt be picky, most men don't listen, it's nothing new-how many times do we women tell men to put the seat down and they dont?
2007-10-27 02:33:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
can you feel sorry for him? If you can, it could help you a lot. And remember "hurting people hurt people" There is probably something inside which you don't even know about, and he may never tell you, which if you did know, you would better understand why he behaves the way he does. Just continue to honor him, even if you feel he does not deserve it, and over time you will be glad you rose above it all.
2007-10-27 02:26:42 · answer #3 · answered by R G 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Christy, I predict your father is not fully wrong and your also do not fully correctness. Really, you and your father, both of you are correctness. Your parent, father or mother, fair of course if ordering its child do something for family - don't mention for your parent !
Even just fair even also, you do not deservedly order your parent to do something. That as bold as brass to a child to its parent, more than anything else on the warpath, anything its reason.
Your parent very understanding what must to do in the family because from early he/she have formed this family from zero, while you are the "new comer" in this family, non ?
Bearing with, my child ! Trust me, your father of course very love you exceed whom even also in this time !
2007-10-27 02:40:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were him I'd show you some tough love by throwing your tiny hiney out on the streets. You're disrespecting HIM and breaking one of the 10 Commandments.
HONOR your Mother and Father, Is he living under your roof or vice a versa?
2007-10-27 02:28:48 · answer #5 · answered by Shawn B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you forgive him because your suppose to. Is he disrespecting you or disobeying you? What respect have you earned? Do you reside in the house he provides for you or are you providing the house for him?
If dad lives with you maybe you should think about the pride he is having to swallow, and the circumstances. If your living with him because your not old enough to move out then I submit to you its time to reel your feelings in off your sleeves and grow up...
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2007-10-27 02:32:11 · answer #6 · answered by drtoolman 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The benifits of forgiveness are there for those that are willing to forgive. When you forgive you are delivered from the coruption of unforgiveness, the benifit is for you. If you don't forgive your father or anyone who has offended you how do you expect God to forgive you? Peace!
2007-10-27 02:28:31 · answer #7 · answered by GREGORIOUSITY 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I told my father (when he was alive) straight in the face he is not making a good example and if I were to be like him towards him, how would he had felt.
2007-10-27 02:45:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do the best you can for your parents and don't expect any thing in return.
if you are the type who expects something in return every time you do something for any one, you are heading for bigger problems in married life. It will hurt a lot if you get divorced over and over.
2007-10-27 02:56:01 · answer #9 · answered by majeed3245 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First calm down. Then be humble and do something for him, but don't let him know about it. After that just live and do something for him. He will come around someday.
2007-10-27 02:30:53 · answer #10 · answered by Adelaide B 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋