God, i can't deal with this anymore.. I'm living with the person that broke my heart a year ago.. and I know the obvious thing to tell me is to move out, but i cant.. they are my cure as much as they are my curse..
im on anti-depressants, anti-anxiety medications. I am seeing a psychiatrist. I can't get over this sadness sometimes.. it's branched away from being heart broken, and its killing me.. it hurts so much.. i dont know wher else to go.. ive been so alone for so long, and im so tired of living like this.. nothing is getting better and barely anything is happening.. i dont feel like doing anything, i dont want to keep living through this.. please help me..
2007-10-26 18:20:22 · 25 answers · asked by mine 5 in Health ➔ Mental Health
I don't know if you have any physical activities you do, but I would totally suggest finding something that's only about YOU. Even if it's joining a smoker's club, or going out a few times a week to play cards with people from the office. The main thing here is to develop your independence away from this person. Prove to yourself that you can do things on your own, and gradually you will beable to do bigger things without this person, and eventually you'll find yourself living life without needing them. Now, I know that it can be terrifying to envision yourself without them. I know how it feels to not WANT to get over someone. And, in some respects you'll probably never FORGET them, but you can move to a healthy place.
I would suggest that first of all, you make sure you're not OVER medicated. I know that might sound weird considering the fact that you're feeling so bad, but sometimes the wrong medicines can over medicate you and cause you to feel worse in the end.
More importantly, be sure that when you're in your sessions with your therapist or psychiatrist that you're being honest with yourself. Lying to your psychiatrist is only lying to yoruself. I'm not saying that is what you're doing, but in some way, we all have a tendency to lie to ourselves.
You seem to understand that you need to move out, and until you can bring yourself to do that you're going to have a tough time getting over your depression. I'm not sure what this person did to you to break your heart, but it's obvious the feelings you have aren't reciprocated, and until you've moved out of that situation both physically and mentally, you're going to have to continue dealing with constant rejection which will only continue to make things worse for you.
I was in a relationship for 2 years and the guy totally smashed my heart. It's been 2 years since the relationship ended and I'm still have trouble getting over it, but I know that baby steps and honesty with yourself are the key.
If you have close friends, particularly ones that you may have cut off when you and this person first got together, go reach out to them, and just surround yourself with a support system of people you can call when you're lonely, depressed, and hurting. Make these people a priority in your life, and focus on them, and fostering and growing those relationships.
If you need to talk, I'm around. I hope this helped some.
2007-10-26 18:33:57 · answer #1 · answered by Saoirse 3 · 1⤊ 5⤋
about 5 years ago, I started to fall into a really depressive episode. At first I thought it was only because I had a bad break from a relationship but the feelings wouldn't go away even after I got a new girlfriend. It was wrecking my life until a point where it was seriously affecting my work and personal life.
She was very worried but at the same time couldn't understand why I was still sad and thought that I still couldn't let go of my previous relationship. Being the wonderful person that she is, she put aside her feelings and suggested I go for psychiatric evaluation. Many months later and even more anti-depressants, I was not coming close to being better at all.
After doing some research online, I found out the real cause as you described it really makes a lot of sense and purchased this program. The results were simply astonishing. I read this book over three times and put all words in action. Using this method, I've kept my depression at bay ever since. Up to date I'm still living happily with my girlfriend.
Depression Free Method?
2016-05-16 01:37:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're taking the meds because of problems with your relationship, then the best thing that you can do for yourself, is to walk away. Some relationships are like poison, things just don't mix well. I've always felt that if your not happy or the other person isn't giving you back what you give, then they just aren't worth your time. You're not being fair to yourself. You deserve better then that. No one is worth this.
If you treat yourself with respect, then others will follow. My favorite thing to say is, " If you're not happy, then move on, time is your best friend in all things and there is someone out there that deserves you".
If you are feeling this way even with your meds, its something you need to let your doctor know. Also, ask your doctor if they have a phone number that you can call after hours when you feel the need to talk, or even a hot-line.
2007-10-26 18:32:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Its ok to be sad sometimes but no all the time jest think of the good things in life life is to short to act the way you are you should jest drop the problem and keep on going God will always be there for you and he will be there to help you if you feel lonely meet with family or a sibling or go see a movie or go meet someone you know or make a new freind you know can't live like this forever so get up and take baby steps into getting into a better life. Good Luck. thats all i can think of
2007-10-26 18:35:03 · answer #4 · answered by THAT GUY 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
looking at your question. You stated " nothing is getting better and nothing is happening." and " i cant live through this." You already know the answer to your problem. Some people just need to be thrusted out of an old life cycle.. Seasons change and some plants die...trying to keep a plant alive longer than it should means being a bad gardner if you know what i mean. If it cant get any worse. Why not change it.? Did the 10year old you believe or even think that you would be in that position when you got older? No. Dont let that kid in you die.
2007-10-26 18:25:26 · answer #5 · answered by lexa 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Come to Tampa FL and hang out with me =P I could use a friend.
ok listen, God won't give you more than you can handle. I had horrible depression a couple times, and everytime I thought about killing myself I said/remembered this..it helped.
Think about what you need to be happy. What do you need before you can leave the guy or move or whatever. Then work on it. Use that reason (your happyness) to drive you. What WILL make you happy? What do you need in your life? I gained weight just sitting home, eating, and sleeping when I was depressed. I didn't wan't to do ****. I got a new job..I love going to work everyday and I look foward to it..gets me out of the house. Hang with your friends more. Make new friends (it's hard lol I just moved 1,000 miles from home) but it WILL pull together!
acspillane@yahoo.com - feel free to e-mail me anytime. I know what it feel like, it horribly sucks and it's even worse if you don't have someone to talk to about it all. I wish the best for you!
(btw I'm still working on exercising this effing weight off lol )
2007-10-26 18:35:09 · answer #6 · answered by PEANooDLE 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i am very sorry you feel this way. but don't worry, you'll be fine. look at all those people who answered your question. there are people out there who care for you, even if they don't know you. so what? we all know how it feels to be in the kind of situation you are. we have all been through this. Listen to the advice others are giving you. keep yourself calm and light, like a feather. if you really like this person and you both know eachother, then they must understand how you feel about this after they broke up with you. they must be going through the same situation right? try to spend some good time with this person, maybe go on a little trip somewhere. if you don't want to go with them, then just go alone. tell them you're are going on a bussiness trip to another state or something. go to another friend's house or a relative. just spend some time there. CHANGE YOUR ROUTINE. do other stuff. do some community service at a hospital. helping people out who are weaker than you, will help you realize that they are just like you. go do some community service, get yourself. and please don't worry, we are all here for you and we all care for you.
2007-10-26 18:43:20 · answer #7 · answered by Mimi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mitch, these folks have no sympathy and little empathy at all for you. Does the woman or man you're living with have more feeling for you? If so, you might be better off than you realize, right?
Where do you live, Mitch? Not in an alley, obviously. Not in the back seat of a car. What I'm trying to say, Mitch, is COUNT YOUR BLESSINGS! ☼ Turn that frown upside down or right side up and have yourself a happy day. Move to Texas. They're all happy as naked bluebirds there, and I'm sure it's got more to do than being the home state of G.W. Bush.
Mitch, ♫Tomorrow♫ Tomorrow♫ There's Always Tomorrow♫
2007-10-26 18:39:55 · answer #8 · answered by Wendy G 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
move out...
you cant cure depression by staying with the very reason y ur in that situation...
sometimes you need to take risks, make sacrifices...
try starting a new life... go out. get urself a vacation.
sometimes ul realize that the best friend u can ever have is urself...
save urself before it gets any darker.
rmmber that there are lot who's got bigger problems than u have right now but they never thought of suicide or harming themselves. use this dilemma as some sort of lesson or challenge. dont let trouble swallow u whole...
2007-10-26 18:26:26 · answer #9 · answered by janelle g_7 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes it's impossible to move on without making a clean break from faltering relationships. Living with this person is probably not helping you. Please remember that as much as you feel like it's just you, there are plenty of people that are going through or have been through stuff like this. I certainly have, and I've felt so low that really dark ideas have crept into my mind on many occasions. It WILL pass, but you need to have a fresh start
2007-10-26 18:30:07 · answer #10 · answered by mcandy74 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you can't move out, but get out... Get a job, or if you already have a job get a second one... Join a club... Go to church.. Do something to ween yourself off the relationship. Maybe you'll meet someone else. If not, you'll at least meet some new friends that can be your safety net... Just don't tell them all your problems at first.... Wait for them to open up to you, then let them know what you've been going through.
2007-10-26 18:26:12 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋