OK, I was at summer camp and At one of the dances I danced with this kid named sam, Sam was ok, but he was only my camp boyfriend and I didnt like hi that much. He lives in my town and is a grade above me, he went to my school dance and danced with me. We started slow dancing at a far distance apart cuz I dont like him and I already have a bf, but I talked to him about it and he said it was ok with him as long as I tell the guy I dont like him, any ways by the end of the song he pulled me so clos eit was really uncomfortable for me! He tried t kiss me but I luckly had a friend walking over twards me so I pretended to look at her then start talking with her and he ended up only kissing my cheek, this guy keeps AIMing me, I want to tell him I'm not interester without hurting his feelings badly.
2007-10-26 18:10:03 · 20 answers · asked by Jess L 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The best way is to be direct and not worrying about hurting him, You keep his hopes up by not telling him your not interested. This guy sounds like he can take the news better than some as he doesn't act shy or anything . If you let this go on you will have him on you even more because he obviously wants more than you want to give.Tell him and walk away. . Like i said you do it soon or you will have him coming on to you even stronger, and you don't want that. good luck
2007-10-26 18:24:13 · answer #1 · answered by redd headd 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By nature, stuff like that is to a lot of guys (but not the ones familiar with pop culture and the substance of magazines like Cosmo) a surefire show of interest.
If you so much as wink at a lonely guy, he'll think he has met the girl of his dreams.
You went way too far with a guy you are not interested in. I know that is done a lot in society today, but this guy might be a psychotic lonely guy that won't let you go. I hope your real BF is a tough guy, like a DT on the football team or whatever.
The kind thing to do would be to tell the guy that you were just flattering him, but that you aren't interested. He is probably laying on his bed right staring up at the ceiling, thinking about you. At least explain to him why you showed him attention. Then tell him that it was not meaningful attention.
2007-10-27 01:16:36 · answer #2 · answered by perfectlybaked 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i have the same problem. only i made it worse because i went to homecoming with a guy like that. the best way to make him stop is to talk with him in person or if thats too much, talk on the phone. show him that u care enough to not hurt his feelings. just tell him how u think he is really great but that you just dont see a future with him anytime soon. if u still want to be friends then i wouldnt completely ignore him. tell him he might be going overboard and that u are overwhelmed and i think he'll back off :]
2007-10-27 01:19:01 · answer #3 · answered by samantha[socali™] 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him that you're really sorry, but you like him as friends and only as friends. If he starts making a scene or whatever just say, look we've got a great friendship and I really don't want to ruin that. You can use this even if you really don't have that great of a friendship, a girl used this on me when we weren't even very good friends and after that we're extremely good friends.
2007-10-27 01:15:35 · answer #4 · answered by clueless 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to honest with this boy. It kind of sounds like you're leading him on a bit, honey. Tell him you're in a committed relationship and you only want to be friends. If he doesnt stop, the only solution would be to cut off all contact. It may sound a bit harsh, but it's the only way to put a stop to this.
2007-10-27 01:15:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
From personal experience I think it's best to just be upfront and honest. Don't give him false hope or lead him on. It's going to sting but it's better for him in the long run. Just say he's a nice guy but there's just isn't that spark.
2007-10-27 01:16:02 · answer #6 · answered by october_rain 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just tell him the truth, that he is a good friend and you dont want anything more. ask him to respect you and tell him that you dont want to lose the friendship but that if he doesnt understand then you just wont be friends at all. honesty is the key, dont start lying or beating around the bush..then youll just lead him on and the problem will just get worse... TRUST ME! a lot worse--
2007-10-27 01:15:35 · answer #7 · answered by just need answers! 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The easiest and best way to let someone down gently is just to do it, the sooner the better. Just simply explain that you dont like him that way. Sure, he won't be happy about it, but he'll get over it.
2007-10-27 01:13:52 · answer #8 · answered by missliz_1986 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow umm you got a big problem on your hands next time he aimes you say i want to talk to you about something
and say that you trully feel unconfortable being gf and bf and you really want to just be friends you cant do soo much hes going to get hurt anyway you tell him but maybe if you tell him how you really feel it wont hurt as bad just be calm and easy with him
2007-10-27 01:16:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you've already tried to be nice about it.....so just flat out tell him now.....tell him you don't like him like that- that you just want to be friends. If he can't handle that, then you need to cut off communication with him. Take him off your buddy list......block him if you have to.....don't respond to any emails he may send.....don't answer any phone calls or text messages.
Sometimes it takes being mean to get the point across. Its sad, but ya gotta do what ya gotta do.....and if the's making you uncomfortable....you need to make that clear.......
2007-10-27 01:15:14 · answer #10 · answered by honey_bear_21_1999 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋