ok, my bf keeps saying that i don't like him. I do! i like him a lot! but he keeps saying "no you like ben/michael/ryan/alex/aaron/cory/etc." how can i get him to understand that i like him and only him?
2007-10-26 16:34:23 · 9 answers · asked by clever_username 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He sounds insecure and jealous. Are you sure you want to spend your relationship reassuring someone who has so little confidence in you?
2007-10-26 16:38:00 · answer #1 · answered by Kathryn H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him a swift kick in the @ss and tell him that if you did not like him you would have dumped him by now.
What your guy is doing is manipulation. He keeps bringing it up so you stroke his ego and tell him "no baby, I love you". As women - we like to make the men in our lives feel good.
Unfortunately I've been in this situation before - every time he does it and you stroke his ego and reassure him that you love him - it rewards the behavior and encourages him to do it more. And he will do it more.
So...next time he does it .. tell him this is the last time you are going to address this issue- you are with him because you choose to be because you have feelings for him. If you ever decide that you do not love him anymore he will be the first person you tell. Until then, he needs to realize that you are with him because you want to. However, you are getting tired of this mess and in the future when he brings it up again you are going to ignore it. It does not mean you don't love him - your just tired of this game.
Then if he does it again - ignore it.
I have had to dump guys that continued to do this. At some point you just get sick of it.
2007-10-26 16:44:20 · answer #2 · answered by Boots 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well make him feel secure and if aren't telling him the truth do so. cuz maybe he likes u alot and cares about u! but if he keeps bugging u then just break up with him. some other ways of getting that guy off ur back is talking to him or just ignore him for the day and another thing don't do anything that makes ur bf/gf not liking u anymore thats the worst thing that could happen!!!
2007-10-29 10:10:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'v been where he is. You can only tell someone so many times how you feel, he has to believe it for himself. Do you really want to spend all your time convincing someone of something. Have you told him how it makes you feel that he doesn't trust you? Good luck :)
2007-10-26 16:42:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I think your guy is too jealous. He always wants attention from you. Well, not speaking to the OTHER guys is a stupid thing to do. So why not do something sweet for your guy that will make him realize that it's HIM and ONLY HIM that you love? Like...cook a meal for him, bake something for him or dedicate one whole day for you and him to bond together. :)
2007-10-26 16:38:42 · answer #5 · answered by :) 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's insecure and more than likely feeling guilty because maybe he likes other people. Just my experience with guys. Tell him and be done with it, don't let him keep making you feel bad about this. It's not your fault. He's insecure
2007-10-26 16:38:47 · answer #6 · answered by feastofmagic03 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you can stop acting like you like all these guys, show some loyalty to your man, put him first and make him number one in your life and stop flirting with these other clowns, if that is what you are doing? You are doing something to make him feel insecure about your feelings for him, check yourself and how you are acting with these other dudes.
2007-10-26 16:42:16 · answer #7 · answered by Marcilla M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him that if you like all those other people then you wouldnt be with him. and if he still doesnt believe you then dump him. you dont need that drama in your life
2007-10-26 16:39:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He should trust you! Tell him you have eyes for only him and he should believe you!
2007-10-26 16:37:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋