I have a boyfriend that I love, but I had a great guy friend that I liked before I met my boyfriend we use talked all the time before I was with my bf, we still talk, but when I said I have a boyfriend he was like why u did that, I said that you wasn't interested he was like it's not that, it's because you are too far from me. But now for some reason I can't stop thinking about him. What do u guys think should I stop talking to him, any idea?
2007-10-26 16:25:38 · 26 answers · asked by val88 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No, don't stop talking to him just because you have a boyfriend you love. You really love your boyfriend, right? There is not one doubt in your heart that you love him? Then your relationship should be strong enough for you to continue being friends with this guy. I think what may be happening to you are those "what ifs". . .like what if he's the "one" I'm supposed to be with the rest of my life, etc, etc. You think that you may have just missed out on a opportunity with him. You think that you may even love him, and are scared that he may quit being friends with you because you have a boyfriend.
This is clearly a situation where lack of communication has costed both of you. Without communication, there really can be no relationship. He should've said something, and you should of told him how you felt. If you cherish your friendship with him, please dont throw it away. But do discuss this with your boyfriend, tell him how you feel and the situation with your friend. He should know. . .and you really need to sit down and think which man does your heart really belong to
2007-10-26 16:38:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say it depends on a few factors.
1) How serious are you with your current b/f?
2) Does your friend still live far away?
3) Would you want to risk the friendship you have with him?
If he's a good friend, I personally wouldn't stop talking to him. If he's really a great friend, it'll just depress you (and probably him) to just cut him out of your life. It's also tricky turning friendships into something more because you risk the friendship when you do that. If things don't work out, odds are you won't be able to go back to what you had before that... and you may just lose it completely. If you're really serious about the guy you're with now, you owe it to him to let that relationship run its course. I know it's a cliché but if you and the friend are meant to be together... things usually have a way of working out on their own. Just my opinion though.
Best of luck to you! ^_^
2007-10-26 23:37:05 · answer #2 · answered by booknerdgrl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you have a boyfriend now for one. He lives too far from you to have any kind of relationship now anyway. If there was really something between the two of you it wouldn't have mattered how far he moved you would still be with him Stick with the guy your with and let the other get on with his life.
Nothing can bring you peace but yourself.
2007-10-26 23:30:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay with your boyfriend. If the friend was interested he would have said something before. Friend will end up hurting you and your friendship will be over.
2007-10-26 23:34:35 · answer #4 · answered by whitecamr 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is to far then what is the point .Besides you said you was in love,how can that be if you are thinking about the other guy.I think you are confused and need to treat your now BF with respect or give him up.
2007-10-26 23:32:01 · answer #5 · answered by mamaw2305 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're way too young to tie yourself down to one guy.
Ok here's the deal. If you talk to the guy, you're going to start having feelings for him and this is going to conflict with your current relationship with your bf. This is what's going to happen.
You have apparently made some sort of committment with your bf, and you should honor that. If you don't want to, then break up with him BEFORE you go back to talking to the other guy.
Then, don't be getting involved with just one guy anymore, not for years. Enjoy your freedom while you can, don't limit yourself like that.
2007-10-26 23:32:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ask yourself this: which guy would make you happier? Since you can't stop thinking about him...then its a sign that you love him more than your boyfriend.
Just DON'T have 2 boyfriend's...it'll just lead to a disaster!
2007-10-26 23:30:57 · answer #7 · answered by Mike 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sopt talking to him...If you continue it, you might fall for him already even though you're already attached. Analyze your feelings first, girl...If you feel that what you feel for this friend is more than what you feel for your bf, then break up with your bf...It's unfair for your bf because he should be the one you're thinking of and not the guy friend...Don't be unfair to him. Surely, you would not want your bf to the same to you...(",)
2007-10-26 23:37:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you have a boyfriend and if you are interested in another guy break it off with your boyfriend and dont be a cheater
2007-10-26 23:28:00 · answer #9 · answered by melinda k 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont know, I have alot of feelings like that, but mostly I fall in love with celebrities, I say give it some time and in the right time you will know who....
Rose Byrne...hottest and most prettiest girl ever
2007-10-26 23:29:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋