sons and daughters??

Question

the other day i told my wife in a disscution that "if i find out my daughter is sexually active b4 she is atleast 18 i will go nuts and even at 18 i wouldn't be happy about it " she then asked what i would do if i find out my son is sexually active b4 he is 18 and i replyed "i'll be damn proud!!" she thought i was wrong to be more protective of my daughter in this matter
i told her that i know my son could catch an std or get a girl pregnant but thats not really the issue because i hope i will do a good enough job educating both my children about such things b4 it's to late for me it's about innocence i love both my children the same but my son will always be my son even when he becomes the responsable man i hope we can raise him 2b but my daughter will always be my little princess even when she becomes the responsable woman i hope we can raise her 2b. and i will always be more protective of her than him.
is my wife or me right or wrong??

Answer 1

It should be the same for both of them. You really wouldn't want your son to be a father at 14 or 15 anymore than you'd want your daughter to be a mother at that age would you?

Answer 2

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Answer 3

It's great that you have much protection over your daughter, my dad's are both the same way.

I think the point your wife is trying to make, is that you should be concerned about both of their sexual life equally. Boys have the same risks when i comes to sex as girls do, and therefore you SHOULDN'T be proud of your son if he gets pleasure before 18. Teach your son and daughter both, especially when it comes to their teenage years and their hormones are wild... that if they're really that desperate... masturbate!

We all hope as parents that we'd have taught our kids well enough as they were young what they should live by, and what their limits should be... but when they hit that crazy hormone stage, it's difficult. I know that my boyfriend is a crazy horny boy, and he KNOWS that sex should be saved for marriage... but hell if he had the opportunity he'd take it right off the bat.

Sorry but i'm going to have to side with your wife.

Answer 4

The only things a responsible parent can do is fully inform and arm their kids for the future. You can't be their best friend... only their best ally.

You have to keep the lines of communication open in a way that they will listen to you. Try to keep in mind this phrase: "what would have gotten through to me at this age?"

You have to be the parent, which means you must use every method at your disposal to instill the values in your children that will help them to be successful in life. They cannot navigate our society without morals, ethics, responsibility and respect. You have only so many years to get this information across to them.

The parents who leave the parenting to the school system and the kids' peers, will indeed reap what they sow. They will spend more time hauling the kids to rehab clinics, bailing them out of jail, and probably supporting the little rats (and their illegitimate progeny) into their 30s.

The minute you make broad generalizations about your kids, you will probably have lost them. Forbid your daughter to see a particular boy, and that is like shooting the pistol at the starting gate.

The ol' double-standard is a similar situation. If anything, you need to make sure the wife is in charge of your daughter's sexual education... making sure she knows the difference between a con and an engagement and all points in-between.

Your son needs to be aware that if he isn't "wrapping that rascal" and he gets a girl knocked-up, he can be held responsible for child support at his age... and YOU can be held responsible until he is making enough money to support any kids he fathers.

Truth is, they live under your roof. You can specify what you expect out of each kid... keeping up their studies, picking up after themselves, their chores, staying out of trouble.

Answer 5

Oh you gotta love the daddies. My dad didn't talk to me for 2 weeks when he found out I lost my virginity. Don't delude yourself. You wont be able to stop it from happening. Have the usual talks about love and waiting. Throw in the birth control and protection talk too though. She may be your princess but one day she will be someone else's princess. I promise she will never love a man more than you though. I love my dad very much and at 25 I still want my dad when something is wrong. Hold on tight to her but dont smother. I dont think you're wrong about how you feel you r just her daddy. It's your job! :)

Answer 6

You are putting a double standard. It should be no sex till you are an adult, period for both. You are also saying that it is okay for your son to sleep around and sleep with someone elses daughter, but a guy doing the same thing to your own daughter isn't okay. Get your priorities straight and get your head out of your butt.

Answer 7

I think all men think the same......you're not so protective of your son because society makes it seem that men can take care of themselves.........but with your girl you feel you have to protect from the men out there because you know how men are........u know that girls are more emotional and can be very naive and vulnerable at times.........your son will break a few hearts but your daughter may get her heart broken a couple a times..............so, I understand what you are saying...........just remember that one day you'll have to let her go

Answer 8

i have to say both of you are right in different ways.i mean you also need to be protective of your son because there is a lot of deadly diseases and its good to love your children the same way and want the best for them oh and when they turn 18 its time to make there own choices even if u don't approve.

Answer 9

i guess i can understand how you look at it differently, but think about it like this... while youre busy being "damn proud!!" at the exact moment your son becomes sexually active another father could very well be going nuts over his little princess losing her innocence.

Answer 10

even when she grows up to be 35 she will still be ur little girl..u wont want her to get married, have children..thats just the way it is!! but u have to let go someday..but i think u should be protective of both children not just ur daughter..cuz with her u are being overly protective and u will just draw her futher and further away so just treat them as equals..