My cancer was very rare, and I'm having a really hard time dealing. I'm always so depressed and cry for no reason what-so-ever....?
2007-10-26 15:57:15 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Diseases & Conditions ➔ Cancer
First of all ((((hugss)))) You needed that. We all need that when facing such a challenge. My husband has been fighting cancer for a year. We have both, as well as our family members and friends, shed a lot of tears. One of the first things that I did was ask our doctor for anti-anxiety medication to help us cope and then we added anti-depressants.
Next step was to seek help at a local cancer center where we both enrolled in a meditation class and he attended support group meetings. We also read Connie Payton's book as well as her husband's book concerning Walter's fight with cancer. There are many books available that help you realize that you are not alone, but more importantly, surround yourself with a good support group whether through a cancer center, hospital or through your medical support team. Do not allow negative people around you and cultivate as much positive thought as you can into your daily life. I like beliefnet.com.
Yoga, tai chi, medidation and water classes can help relieve stress. I teach aquatics and for weeks it was punching the water, swimming, hard aerobics, and water yoga / ai chi that kept me sane.
If you feel like crying - go for it, then wipe your eyes, take a walk, take a shower, or treat yourself and go onward. One day shortly after finding out about my husband's cancer I pulled over by a pond with duck and geese in it. I sat there watching them, sobbing my eyes out, then said to myself, "OK, enough, get over it and pull yourself up by the bootstraps!". It was just before Halloween and I knew my husband, his office staff and everyone surrounding us was depressed and sad. I stopped by the store - bought some Halloween ice cream treats and stormed his office yelling for EVERYONE to take a ice cream break. They were all shocked, but did as I instructed. Soon we were all laughing and allowing ourselves to have hope again. Sounds corny but it worked!!
My heart and thoughts are with you - seek some help and let yourself be sad, then pull yourself up and go forward into health. After three months of struggling in the hospital to stay alive after a very bad regression and almost dying a couple of times my husband is in a strong remission. The doctors say a lot has to do with the positive strength that I kept around him and he kept himself.
Cancer DOES NOT have to be a death sentence. You WILL be OK. It takes a strong belief in a higher being, great doctors, and your own positive thoughts and will to live. I know you will be fine if you have all three elements in your life.
2007-10-27 04:51:57 · answer #1 · answered by dddanse 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am stressed too. My cancer came back and it is a stage 4. I was crying a lot which I think is natural when you find something like this out. I did get on an antidepressant which has helped a lot and I got Xanax for acute anxiety which I would use when I am very stressed. They have helped a lot. I don't want to cry all the time. I have already cried a lot. I am tired of crying. Talk with your doctor about something like this. Surround yourself with lots of support and give yourself a break in terms of being on top of things. This sure isn't the time.
2007-10-27 05:42:17 · answer #2 · answered by Simmi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you realize that your body has it's own mind? It will produce tears because it knows it's imminent demise is sneaking up on it and there's nothing it can do. I have exactly the same problem and it's tough to deal with. Sometimes, even when I'm feeling just fine and happy--- tears will roll out. It's a sad state of being but you have to learn to say "Oh well' and move on. You didn't want to be this tough, did you? I could tell you some ways that I cope but you have to find your own. It will stretch your imagination to the limit.
2007-10-26 16:09:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is not easy but neither is life in general. I was diagnosed with a rare cancer when i was 13 & i still have it because it's in the vertabrae of my spine. so to quote a pretty good movie "You Can Get Busy Living Or Get Busy Dying" it's not much but i hope it helps you to cope with what is a f**ked up situation & know that you are not alone in it.
2007-10-26 16:10:26 · answer #4 · answered by rhpj30 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mom was one times a really nice gal she was strong and her mom too died and she felt she needs to make a big stand for cancer people.
2016-04-10 08:57:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I am on anti depressants as well as anxiety meds. THis is something you should consider
2007-10-26 16:36:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋