This really is crazy! My mother had been having an affair with a man for 21/2 years. Not only did she cause me to have an unbelievable amount of stress, she caused it on the whole family. She lives 800 miles away and I found that he threatened my life while I was pregnant with my daughter in June. He didn't directly threaten me but left a message on my mother's cell phone. Well tonight, I found out that he now has threatened my 8 week old baby girl. Again by leaving a message on her phone. My mother broke up with him and he is beyond mad. To top this all off, he is a multi-millionaire that has many "connections". My husband talked to my mother and told her that it is either she can never see this man again, or she can never see her grand daughter. If you all are wondering, I'm 26 and my mom is 41. Yeah, I know she was young. I am so upset and that's putting it lightly! We can't use the voicemail that he left because he accessed her account and deleted it. Help!
2007-10-26 15:39:53 · 14 answers · asked by sparklelove8702 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
My mother has called the cops twice where she lives tonight. I live 800 miles away from them and unfortunately he got into her cell phone account and deleted the message.
2007-10-26 15:48:34 · update #1
1. Your mom needs to get a completely new cell phone account, preferably with a different company... or tell the current cell phone company to change all of the account data so he can't hack into her account.
2. She probably needs to have her PC inspected by a professional before she logs on again... chances are he has that thing monitoring her in one of more ways... a keystroke logger will tell him her passwords... you get the idea.
3. She should probably get one of those credit-monitoring services that tells you when someone is either snooping or making inquiries, or filling out forms with your name and other info on it. If this guy is that slick, she will need this kind of assistance.
4. Your mom also needs to contact the local women's shelter... I'm serious... they have a network that can help her to file restraining orders and get it all into public records so he will not dare mess with her.
The fact that this guy has money means that he probably thinks he is above the law.
She needs professional help NOW.
This guy is a classic abuser, trying to separate your mom from her support structures... family, friends, job, church, etc. ... by whatever means he can. This one uses threats of violence. They typically do this separation number while whittling away at the woman's self-esteem and making her doubt herself... when they have her reasonably isolated and dependent, they go to beating on her.
2007-10-26 16:15:37 · answer #1 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you are seriously concerned that this guy has a way of doing any harm to your family, call the cops! I hope your mother saved the messages or something! I wouldnt take this lightly just because you know how there are some CRAZY people in this world! Im sorry that you are going through this sort of thing with your mother of ALL people! I dont really know what to say about her being young because im young and i have a two year old, so i really dont think her age and your age make a difference with what she is putting you through! Im really sorry! Good luck!
2007-10-26 22:44:58 · answer #2 · answered by Me 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Wow! I can understand your anger. One thing your mother needs to do is change her account password on her phone. and when he does leave a message, someone needs to take the phone right to the police. If someone is threatening you and your daughter, that is something to take seriously. Go talk to the police and give them a heads up and they will tell you what to do and they can also get with the telephone company to track and record the phone calls and messages. I agree with your husband, if your mother continues her relationship with this maniac, then she needs to stay out of yours and the baby's life.
2007-10-26 22:50:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
you could phone the police and put him jail or take him to court or even move to a different country were he cant find you. I feel so sorry for you but people had the kind of the same problem like there waz this couple and there mother in-law tried to run the husband over. so i sujest you go to court or move to a different country.
2007-10-26 23:22:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm pretty sure he's doing this just to scare your mother and with him living 800 miles away I wouldn't be too worried. But these days you never know. If I were you, I would at least tell your mother to contact the police there.
2007-10-26 22:49:51 · answer #5 · answered by Sub Xero 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
call the police in your area, have everyone who heard that message and the threat before write and sign a paper notarized that it happend, try to get a restraining order, i know this sounds horrible, but you should have some sort of documentation in case he shows up.
2007-10-26 22:45:44 · answer #6 · answered by ♥ஐDanielleஐ♥ 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
call the cops again!! dont worry. theyll find some way to prove your right even theough he deleted the message. go to court. and get a lawyer. see, things fall into place!!
dont worry. w/ the cops, youl feel safe!
2007-10-26 22:51:41 · answer #7 · answered by rivery 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
wow is mom going back to sicko your husband was right you have to protect the baby even if mom thinks hes joking shes to old to be putting her family at risk tell her to sit down and be a grandmother
2007-10-26 22:56:28 · answer #8 · answered by ? 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think the best thing to do would be contact authorities, for your and your family's safety.
This is something way beyond your control.
2007-10-26 22:49:53 · answer #9 · answered by ocean_girl 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Justt Ignore ok??
2007-10-28 01:18:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋