I'm 19 and I'm 38 weeks pregnant with my first child. Two months ago my boyfriend left me and hadn't kept up with checking on doctors appointments or anything to do with the baby. Yesterday he called me for the first time because he realized that I have a few weeks left until the baby is born and he wanted to know how much money I wanted under-the-table so he wouldn't be arrested if he missed a payment. I saw that as rude because he didn't even ask how the baby has developed or how my pregnancy had gone for the past two months. I had already decided that I was not going to give the baby his last name until he proved that he was going to be a good dad. He is very immature and I don't want anything to happen to the baby because he can't act like an adult. He then threatened me with a "I hope you get what's coming to you." Today I have been so paranoid that something was going to happen to me and I don't know if I'm having pregnancy paranoia or if I should really worry. Any suggestions?
2007-10-26 15:37:52 · 9 answers · asked by GunSlinginMama 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Thank you all for your help. I've started feeling a little better about the whole situation. I was just getting scared that maybe he was actually going to do something, but I don't know. He hasn't made any harrassing remarks to me yet and I hope it stays that way. I kind of hope that he just steps down and signs over his rights because I believe that I can raise the baby just fine by myself. I think that I would be doing him a favor. He has a lot of maturing to do before he can think of anyone but himself. I wouldn't want my baby being with a drunk 21 year old dad and his 16 year old girlfriend anyways. I just hope that I am making a good decision and the right not just for me, but for the baby as well.
2007-10-27 02:04:00 · update #1
First off, I am very sorry the father left you. The same thing happened to me, I am seventeen years old 26 weeks pregnant and the father left 2 months ago as well for a 15 year old [he is 18]. He has not called at all, and has decided to completely not be in our daughters life.
I know how it feels, and I am so sorry you are having to go through this.
But, I wouldnt worry too much. His threat, was just him being immature like you said he was before.
I think both you and the baby will be just fine, espessially with out the father around.
He does not deserve to have his last name be your childs. I decided the same thing, my daughter will have my last name, not his.
Good luck with everything.
If you are worried still though, call someone that you really trust to come and stay with you so if anything goes wrong at all, someone can help you through everything!
2007-10-26 15:58:19 · answer #1 · answered by abs 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unless you've had issues with your pregnancy before, or things have been bad lately, theres no reason something should go wrong.
If baby stops moving, or you start swelling go to the ER.
Unless you seem ill this is the point in your pregnancy where they pretty much send you home and wait for labor.
He should send you enough money for a check up- so you know how things are going.
2007-10-26 22:42:24 · answer #2 · answered by amosunknown 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would vote for pregnancy paranoia. Your hormones are all over the place right now and this is really the last thing you need. Try to find a way to focus on your baby and forget about the boyfriend at least until after the baby is born.
2007-10-26 22:42:34 · answer #3 · answered by Mom of Many 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
My son's father was much the same way. I just left him behind and we have started our own life together (my son & I). I have actually not asked for support because I don't want him to contest my sole custody that I was awarded. I suggest you just try to be strong for your little one and get that loser out of your life. If he plans to be a stable figure in your childs life it will be different, but a parent coming in and out of a childs life causing havoc can be very harmful.
2007-10-26 22:44:05 · answer #4 · answered by alikat 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is really cruel i feel. But pls dont get paranoid. I hope you have your friends or parents with you. I can understand how you feel but believe in God. You and your baby will be fine. Just dont let negative thoughts surround you. Be optimistic and everything will be fine. You have made it to the last few weeks..hang in there girl. You will be in my prayers..Wish you lots and lots of luck.......((((((Hugs)))))))
2007-10-26 22:48:48 · answer #5 · answered by Aquagal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have had a healthy pregnancy so far..don't worry. He sounds like a jerk. Just focus on you and the baby.
2007-10-27 00:07:58 · answer #6 · answered by busemomme 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget about him. Give the baby your last name and go to court to get child support.
2007-10-26 23:19:11 · answer #7 · answered by jessigirl00781 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just in case keep all records of what he said. when where and what time. Maybe you should talk to your mom friends or a lawyer. if you fear something could happen let it go, have him sign his rights over...money or not...its not worth a creep in your baby's life.
2007-10-26 22:44:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't worry about anything happening. It's been fine so far and if anything was wrong your doctor will surely know.
2007-10-26 22:42:28 · answer #9 · answered by Brittnie 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋