we've been together for almost 4 years now. i love her more then anything but she now says that she doesnt love me anymore. she said she still wants to talk on the phone and see each other at school. she said shes happy with me and has fun and that she really cares about me alot. she said she still wants to spend the rest of our lives with each other. i really believe her about this. she says she just doesnt feel the warmth around her heart anymore. she says its been about 4 months now. someone please help. whats going on? is this normal with women?
2007-10-26 14:50:58 · 22 answers · asked by cucumberman 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Dr. Phil? Are you on here??
2007-10-26 14:53:39 · answer #1 · answered by koolbreeze 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be honest, it seem slike shes playing with u. How can someone want to spend the rest of theyre loves with someone that doesnt make theyre heart warm anymore? Maybe she's not exactly ready to give up the relationship but isnt interested. Why should you have to wait around until she finds someone then actually leaves you? You should just end it. When its over its over. Especially if its been 4 months that she's been feeling this. If she wanted things to work out, she would have told you and tried to fix it when she started feeling it. Not months later.
2007-10-26 14:55:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She wants to spend the rest of her life with you even though she doesn't love you? Sounds fishy. She may have another guy in mind. Maybe you two need a break. That way you'll really know if you were made for each other. Trust me - if she doesn't love you then she's not the one for you. Easier said than done but you really shouldn't waste your time on someone who isn't the person for you.
2007-10-26 14:57:42 · answer #3 · answered by teeveejunky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry sweetie but she's feeling someone else. I know it feels like you can't eat, sleep or breath but you will get passed her. Don't let her lead you on, stay away from her so that you can heal and find someone deserving of you. Who does she think she is dragging you along like that? She wants to keep you around just in case it doesn't work out with the other guy and she realizes that she may have made a mistake. Time to move on. Plenty of fish in the sea baby. Good Luck!
2007-10-26 15:06:30 · answer #4 · answered by Heaven 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i went through the same thing wit my ex........if ur both in school it could be jus either u need mroe time or possibly a break....it could be also u r both growin up and u change......u didnt say how old u are when u started datin but if it was young then people grow up and they change......i learned the hard way goin to school.....i no longer felt the warmth and its not a women thing...i think u should do somethin to spark up that warmth again......do soemthin she loves to do or somethin she always wanted to do or jus do somethin nice for her that brings back the memories that will flood her heart wit warmth again
2007-10-26 14:55:46 · answer #5 · answered by Stephanie S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's possible that she just wants to spread her wings for a while... As someone who is older, I married my high school sweetheart when I was 19 and we ended up growing apart after 14 yrs of marriage and are now divorced. If I could go back, I would've taken some time for myself and not married so young.
2007-10-26 15:01:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fire is out, you take the romance for granted. You have to work to create romance, it is not a chumy chum chum thing. She is finding comfort in her chums and friends. You are in danger of losing her. You need to refresh the romance in a serious and dedicated way, try a love ceremony. Put a ring on her finger, give her a date to look forward to. If you don't ice the date, someone else will. Good luck.
2007-10-26 14:55:53 · answer #7 · answered by SilentSupporter 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
SOrry to say, but I think she is over you, just saying all those things to ease it on you instead of laying it on thick. How can she no longer love you, but want to spend the rest of her life with you? Bit strange. If possible, which I no will be hard, try to move on with your life, there are plenty more fish in the sea. Good luck!
2007-10-26 14:55:26 · answer #8 · answered by mizz0wl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmm that's a toughy. She could just be going through some things right now mentally, and dealing with a relationship is too hard for her. Or, she could just really cherish your relationship and not want to to ruin, and can see better times with you as a friend, which in some cases is better anyways
good luck
2007-10-26 14:54:27 · answer #9 · answered by krisindeed 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No its not natural for women..
Man I have been with my bf for 4 years now and we live together.
I have to ask..how old are you? and if your still in highschool....hmm i'm sorry but she doesnt liek u anymore..;but since u guys have been together so long...its hard for her to straight out tell u that u guys are separating
2007-10-26 14:54:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah it's normal.
Everything ends sometime.
That's a reason why divorce is practiced.
I'm really sorry about your situation.
Maybe you guys should just see how it goes for a little while and if it doesn't work out there are other people out there, right?
2007-10-26 14:54:31 · answer #11 · answered by Zombie. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋