Has anyone ever tried to go back to an ex after you were the one that let them go?

Question

Just looking for some stories of personal experience. Why did you let your lover go in the first place? What made you realize that you wanted them back? How did it turn out in the end?

( I was the one who was let go...)

Answer 1

Hi
Im sorry you were let go of, but there was obviously a reason. Be it a reason with you or a reason within the guy/girl you where dating.

My experience was with my first love. We where together for over 7 years. I broke up with him because he wasn't making me happy in certain areas. Dont get me wrong - he wasn't awful, he was fantastic in some ways but in others, just not how I wanted or expected him to be, so I broke it off.
I then called him up a couple of weeks later and asked him if we could get back together and he said yes.
When we got back together he asked me why I had broken up with him in the first place and I said because he wasn't doing this and that etc.
He said he would change.
In the end, we broke up for good, because I realised he wasn't really going to change the things which I wanted him to change because they where just in his natural personality. I realised, I couldn't try to change who he was because the whole point of being with somebody is to love them for who they truely are.
Also, I think alot of the reason I wanted him back was, that I missed him. I missed the security of a realtionship and what I had been used to, for so many years.

If your ex does call and wants to get back together - BE SURE that you talk about the REAL reasons it happened in first place. That way you can be sure that it's right to get back together or not.
AND BE SURE HE DOESN'T JUST MISS WHAT YOU BOTH HAD. You can miss things but know deep down in your heart, that its not actually right for you in the long run.

Hope this helps and GOOD LUCK

Answer 2

I broke up with my ex 8 weeks ago and I've considered going back. I still care for him and miss him sometimes but I don't think I could get back with him unless he changed or we're back on the same page. I don't want to get back with him just because I am alone now, which I think is a mistake many people make. I'm dating again but realizing that I don't really like them as much as I did my ex. If I do ever get back with him it probably won't be for a while. I think when things didn't work the best thing to do is move on.... If you were really meant to be, then things will work themselves out and you'll be together again. You can't force it though...

Answer 3

omg this just happend to me yesterday!
so odd

ok it was june and we broke up
i brought it up and we just kind of mutally ended it after 4 months (awsome months)
we both got bored ( it happens)

so we became friends i told him everything and so did he
and we weree great as friends just going our serperate ways.
at times i don't know what i would do if i didnt have him for a friend.

forward to yesterday
we was talking about our relationship and how we could of done better. i thought we were really over. then out of no where he asks if we should get back together. i was struck stone and shaking all over. i was totally speechless but he told m things would be different so i thought about it. i thought wait how? i can't just bring back those feelings i lost long ago and i dont want to! i wanna move on and see other people! i felt the freedom come to me when i told him today. but it wasnt over. we were talking on aim and he said that his friends told him we would last a year and a half. he also believes that we are still going to get back together. he has this plan see if he becomes this girls toy that he likes then takess the toy away they will want it then go out. see i aint falling for it and that i relish the challenge. so here we are and im ready to take what ever he throughs at me. who knows what will happen?

Answer 4

Yep I have the same experience...
I let my ex go because we were going out, and it was the summer so he had to move back home (he was only here for college)
and he never had time to "spend time" with me.
You know just having a conversation with him would be a miracle. So I figured I needed someone who "wants" to be here.
And now its 3 years later and I still think about him. I'm pretty sure he still thinks about me, but theres still the distance that stops me.
I want him back because he still makes my heart skip a beat when I think of him. I have a boyfriend, and I love him to death, but sometimes I think my ex and I would be happier.

Answer 5

I let my fiance go because he started to withdraw from me, put his family first, neglect me, be verbally abusive, and he disappeared on me when my neice nearly died. I called him up 4 months later, needing to know why he just decided to abandon me after 5 months and after talking serious with me about marriage and how much he loved me. He said he realized he didn't want to get married... despite everything, it just wasn't enough because he didn't feel right within himself. I think he also realized I deserved better than how he was treating me. I do not get into relationships unless it leads to marriage (personal and religious reasons), and I don't think he was being honest with me. When I realized the reasons why he withdrew, I asked to take him back in a few years when he was feeling better. But he told me that it was a bad idea, because it would not be healthy for me not to move on. It was really really hard because I loved him, still do, but I also know that I broke up with him for good reasons too. I also realized that I was an idiot for asking him back, even in ten years, I should never be with him again after the way he treated my heart when he didn't want to be with me. I have to keep remembering... you can't lose something you never had.

Answer 6

well i let go of my ex becuz he was being a freaken asshole and a jerk!
and so i juss dumped him
but then after a few days i realized i kinda miss the presence of him , i really dont know why tho
but then i tried talking to him and asking if he wants to get back and stuff but then he told me that he didnt wanan get hurt ne more and he didnt wanan be dunped again be meeh. obviously hes tryna avoid me, but then after a few weeks or so, i got over him and i juss moved on and went with the flow(:

Answer 7

No!!! Old advice from a friend. Never go backwards always go forward and your life will be good. I would never go backward I just keep forging ahead. Blue (the cat) says leave them behind and just remember the love you once had at the time. It is never good to try to go back home once you have moved out. Never turns out.

Answer 8

I kicked my husband out due to excessive drinking...all the time. He was gone about 3 or 4mo. I let him come back, but I was a little unsure. It lasted less than a year. He's gone now. He slipped back into his old ways. I dont believe we will ever get back together unless God restores our marriage.

Answer 9

Had an old girl-friend that cheated on me, so I kicked her out. I found myself "scared" of being alone, she said she was sorry, so I asked her to move back in. Big mistake! The trust was way gone and the relationship soon followed.

Answer 10

i didnt let my lover go but he let me go and asked for me back and i gave him another chance becuase i loved him a lot.......he let me go because we were fighting but once we got back together it was great........we both realized we wanted each other back because we loved each other so much and bein apart was killing us...we were apart for 4 months...........then we dated again for a year and a half then he broke it off again cuz of my schooling......after schoolin he begged for me bback but i didnt take him..........now i miss him lots and its been 7 months and im terribly upset and so is he........we jus love each other so much....wether or not we get back together i dunno.......but im glad i went back to him before......he showed me a lot.....he was my first and so far only real love (i actually asked a question about this if u check out my profile u can see the answers).......and not once an ex always an ex is not true.........we might get back together cuz i believe he is for me....tons of peopel got back to their exs and they live happily together forever.......an ex could jus be cuz of a mistake and u realize its a mistake and u fix it...........