Ive only been working for about 2 weeks at this job and I just got engaged. I started wearing my engagement ring and I noticed a lot of reactions at my job. A couple of people were curious if I was married and I said I am getting married so they said congrats. I noticed a few girls that seemed to react differently towards me than usual. They didnt ask me if I was married they were mostly quiet around me, but acknowledged that I was wearing a ring. One girl who I usualy talk to seemed to be very disrespectful to me since I started wearing the ring. Can someone tell me whats going on here? Why are these girls mad at me?
2007-10-26 14:38:49 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Ha! Glad to know I wasn't the only one who felt this way when I got engaged! Yes, they are mad, but not at you. It took me a long time to realize this and I had a 1 1/2 year engagement and have been married for 1 year. And it wasn't only my female coworkers but also MY FRIENDS! fact is, when you get engaged, you can expect reactions from everyone but they aren't always positive. One of my best friends started really bad mouthing marriage in general once I got engaged but I know she is upset deep down feeling like she is too old to not be married or have babies.
If they are females around your same age or older, my guess is that they are jealous. Either they are mad because they want their man to propose and he hasn't, they aren't married but want to be, are unhappily divorced, or are unhappily married. Also, girls get wicked when they realize that there are other females getting more attention than them (expect this around the time you get pregnant, if you do).
It should die down and then flare up again as you get closer to your wedding. Just blow them off. It sucks but its not you. If they are being outright rude and dissing you however, I would confront it if it goes on and interferes with your work. Good luck and congrats!
2007-10-26 15:54:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
People have all different reactions to an engagement. I've noticed that once you are engaged everyone feels it's fine to share their opinion for or against marriage/weddings (even when you don't ask for it!). Don't bring it up unless people ask and accept the happy comments but just ignore the negative ones....these people don't know you that well and have no idea what is best for you and your fiance. As stated before it is often a jealousy thing...it's immature and that's probably why they aren't engaged yet!
2007-10-27 06:26:53 · answer #2 · answered by Mrs.H 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Most girls want to get married. So when it starts happening for other girls first, its very hard to stomach. I wouldn't talk about your marriage (a definitely not the wedding) around them. Dont invite your coworkers until later because things can change for the worse and then your stuck seeing these people every day before the wedding. Most girls think "What is so special about her?" "Why would a guy marry her?" So, just be kind to them, humble about your engagement, and keep it on the down low.
Congratulations! A lot of people will try to bring you down and tell you whats bad about it. Keep you head up!
My advice: things do change once you're married (even if you live together now). Keep that in mind because this was a huge slap in the face for me. If you expect it, it lessens the blow.
2007-10-26 14:53:51 · answer #3 · answered by enriquelomasa 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I agree with Enriquel...
I went through this last year by losing a two long
time friends. I was astounded by their lack of support
in my decision to marry for happiness and love. Their concerns were all about petty, selfish and materialistic values. Some of the statements were ridiculous :
"Where's the ring?", "I don't know what's so
special about a wedding?" and "I wanted to get married,
too."
Plain and simple some females are just jealous,
because you are special to someone and they are not.
Gain confidence from this situation and realize those
females are false and not worth wasting you energy over.
Focus on your future soul mate.
2007-10-26 15:27:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's pretty hard to say what's going on since you've only been there a couple of weeks and haven't really had a chance to get to know anyone yet.
Stay friendly with everyone. In due course you'll get a better read on what's happening.
2007-10-26 14:57:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-02 21:35:45 · answer #6 · answered by niehoff 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Envious
Jealous
Interested in you
many reasons for their reaction
2007-10-26 16:09:49 · answer #7 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe they are jealous of your ring
2007-10-26 14:44:32 · answer #8 · answered by jagsbabygirl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's called that evil, green eyed monster, jealousy.
2007-10-26 14:41:54 · answer #9 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
maybe its just all in your head
2007-10-26 15:39:57 · answer #10 · answered by Cindy 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋