I am not a lesbian, but there isn't anyone I like at my high school. of course I think that certain guys are attractive, but they are just guys I see around campus, not people I could actually pursue. My friends think it's wierd that I don't have someone I'm crushing on, what's wrong with me?? I want a boyfriend, but no one seems to pursue me and I don't know how to go about it myself. I guess I am just waiting for the right guy, but at this point I just want to have fun. I hope that doesn't make me seem desperate, but I just want to know what it's like to feel loved.
advice? opinions? What the heck is wrong with me?
2007-10-26 13:45:38 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I have found from experience that love finds you when you are not trying to find it. Live your life and enjoy being young. Keep an open mind and you will find someone who makes you very happy.
2007-10-26 13:50:33 · answer #1 · answered by jenc178 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Nothing is wrong with you, You are just picky, I am the same way all through out high school none of the guys were what I was really looking for, but I found him a month after I graduated and have been with him ever since. So don't worry just keep a look out on that special guy that your attracted to.
2007-10-26 20:51:10 · answer #2 · answered by Victoria 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There isn't anything wrong with you. Just because you're in high school doesn't mean you have to have a bf. If there isn't anyone there who sparks anything in you, that's fine.
Think about it, if you forced a relationship with a boy there's all the rumors, because all relationships are up for grabs in high school, so you're saving yourself that hassle.
Don't fall for the "I have to have a bf lie". You are fine just the way you are. Just be yourself, and be true to yourself.
You'll find love when you are supposed, not when you are desperate and feel left out. Seriously, it's not a huge deal and when people ask just say I haven't met anyone that catches my eye yet, and just shrug your shoulders and move on.
If you wait for it, it'll come. I promise.
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2007-10-26 20:56:42 · answer #3 · answered by Shel 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You place too much emphasis on living up to everyone else's expectations. You have my permission to be your own person with your own mind and the ability to decide things for yourself. Don't waste your life living up to other people's shallow expectations. If you're not interested in someone, don't force it, there's no point in that. Your life is yours to live as you see fit.
One other thing. Don't couch this as "what is wrong with me?" because that's NOT what's going on here. What IS going on here is that you are just only beginning to establish yourself as an individual. You're at the starting line, waiting for the gun to go off, and you're wondering why the race isn't over. Small steps, young'n.
2007-10-26 20:54:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you have any thoughts, feelings, attractions to anyone outside of school? Like movie stars? Singers? Athletes?
If not, I'd question as to whether or not you are doing okay hormonally. If it's a big deal to you and it really bothers you, I'd like to suggest discussing this with your primary care doctor. IF there is problem, he/she would be the one to help you. Sometimes our glands don't function properly and they do affect our love life.....sex life.....(smile). Make sure that isn't one of your problems. As for your peers.... All you have to tell them is that you are not in some kind of race to hookup with someone. When it happens, it happens. When it does, you'll all have something to giggle and talk about.
2007-10-26 20:54:47 · answer #5 · answered by Brenda 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nothing's wrong with you, sweetie - so guys on campus aren't good enough for you. What's wrong with that? I wouldn't go looking for a boyfriend. The right guy will come to YOU. Studies show that people who are looking for a mate get their "right" mates LATER in life than people who just kick their feet up and wait. Don't worry, nothing's wrong with you. There's just something wrong with the guys you know! =)
2007-10-26 20:50:24 · answer #6 · answered by VegHead 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I love you!!! I love all things. You may want to stop going with the herd and wait. Statistically many people end up in divorce or bad relationships. So, put yourself out there and find the person that is worth your time. People find love at different times in their lives, and maybe, it just isn't the right time to find the person right for you. NEVER GIVE UP, AND NEVER SETTLE.
2007-10-26 20:53:00 · answer #7 · answered by Jeff M 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2007-10-26 20:50:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like u are saving yourself for Mr Right. Hey it may take 40 years to find him because he is out there waiting for you too. But in the meantime have fun, experiment, c the world. Don't be so judgmental on people. Nothing is wrong with u, your completely normal.Best of luck to you on life's journey to meet your soul mate
2007-10-26 20:54:20 · answer #9 · answered by alibi 61 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Nothing is wrong with you. You just haven't found the right person. it is better to be alone than to be with someone and be unhappy. When you love and are loved back it is an awesome feeling. Don't worry it will happen when the time is right. Be patient.
2007-10-26 20:48:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋