ok i went 5 years without being touched. im about to face 5 more. i do ok except for at night when im trying to sleep. then i cry and remember when it wasnt like this. i dont like being alone, but im just so tired of the BS involved with dating, its not even worth the effort to me anymore...any suggestions on being able to accept that nobody wants me and that i dont ever get to be one of these happy couple people? its not easy, the first 5 years were hard but this is worse. oh, and please dont be mean guys. i always get really mean answers from people on here and it totally sux.
2007-10-26 13:35:55 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
its hard to accept another 5 years but its so much easier than living up to these womens expectiations, impressing them, keeping them interested, forcing myself not to get attached. ugh i hate it. go ahead and make fun of me and make me feel even worse for 2 points.
2007-10-26 13:37:51 · update #1
people always say to not look and just live your life and it will find you..thats what i did and i ended up alone for 5 years. im not asking how i can find somebody, im asking how i can learn to not get sad when i see other couples or a pretty girl and start thinkin about how theres no place for me.
2007-10-26 13:53:24 · update #2
I wish there was an easier way to deal with being alone but however there isn't much that anyone can do to tell you how to deal with the pain. I wish there was some spell or pill to make it easier but there isn't. All that can be done is to basically just take it day by day. Become stronger with time. In time things will come together the way they need to be. I wish that there was more that can be said on this one but there is not. Each of us must find our own answers within ourselves to the question of why we are alone. When you can learn to go out and just be then you will begin to be o.k. Just go out with friends, meet new people. You don't necessarily need to be dating to be happy.
2007-10-26 13:50:15 · answer #1 · answered by shyguy4no1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I gave up once, also. First, you have to learn to like yourself and be yourself. Second, learn to be happy. Don't worry about what other people think or do. Third, smile like you know something that no one else knows. If you can do these things, you will find that people will go out of their way to talk to you. Your attitude can attract or repel people. I have been there and I know.
2007-10-26 20:56:06 · answer #2 · answered by Jack S. Buy more ammo! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you probably hear this all the time, but give it a while, keep yourself busy all the time, and when you're not looking the right person will bump into you. It's interesting to know that when people are searching they never find anyone, but when their not looking is when they do!
2007-10-26 20:42:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can make it easier by not putting yourself down. Confidence woman!!!!! Men like that, and you will too after you find some.
2007-10-26 20:39:56 · answer #4 · answered by Mr. 3.14™ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go do whatever you want. live your life. if you dont feel like dating, then go party with ur friends. make yourself happy
2007-10-26 20:40:39 · answer #5 · answered by vicnbie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all be yourself, you have to give love time.
2007-10-26 20:43:24 · answer #6 · answered by sheila b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋