I'm a 29 year old single mom of a 4year old. I have struggled with the concept of Christianity for a long time. I believe in God, and I believe in Jesus. My problem is that I have tried so hard to turn my life and my heart over to Him, but I guess I don't know how! I don't even really know how to explain it. I really want to raise my child to believe and have no doubts, but how can I when I don't feel it? I pray on a regular basis, but I have a real problem trusting that God will make sure things turn out the way they are supposed to. I don't know how to get to a point where I can believe with my whole heart, but I want it so bad! Can someone help? I don't want my child to do through this when she is older!
2007-10-26 13:20:22 · 13 answers · asked by rtcrbn 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
This is something I want, and I want my child to have a strong foundation in life then she can make that choice when she is older. I am NOT giving up, I know it will come eventually, and I absolutly WILL NOT turn my life to Satan!
2007-10-26 13:35:15 · update #1
Oh my, what a lovely young woman and caring mother, you are! You know, some of what you wrote, above says that you are simply having a hard time turning over your burdens and such to the Lord. I too, am guilty of this! I give them to HIM, in prayer, and before you know it, I am taking them back and stressing all over again! It is a vicious cycle....until, we truly learn how to leave these things, firmly in the Hands of God! It is not an easy thing to do but, that is why we strive to be surrendered to HIM and to HIS will, in our lives.
If you are not "feeling" that you have given over your "whole heart"...then seek HIM! I mean truly seek HIM through your prayer. Prayer is conversation with the LORD and HE desires you to speak from your heart! Seek HIM, through HIS scriptures! He tells us to SEEK and you will find! You have the power to open your heart, completely and totally for the sake of your eternal life and the truth for your child as well.
I understand what you said about your child...not going through this quandry...such as you are doing. That is a true heart of a mommy and it also displays the heart of Christ...for all to come to the Father! In as much, I will be praying for your spiritual walk, with the Lord and for the growth, in Him! I pray that your preciuos, little one, will always embrace her creator, as none can love her as HE does!
Praying and believing with and for you,
Gail
2007-10-26 15:45:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Oh man, I am in the EXACT same spot as you. It's something I have been struggling with for a long time. So feel your frustration. So all I can do is keep walking and keep believing even though it doesn't feel like anything has changed. I heard that some people have the instant miracle type but most Christians are the educational type which means we have to work at it. I want the miracle. Dangggggggggggggggg
I also know if I am the "educational" christian that when my miracle does happen it's going to be in the most unlikely place for timing. But no matter when it comes I'll stop and give my life to the lord.
The biggest help for me has been Joyce Meyer. She's been through pretty much everything I have. She is on TV everyday, but you can visit her website at joycemeyer.org and there are a lot of times they give away CD's for only a $1 and no postage. I really enjoy her because she is real. And you can watch her daily programs on line throug her website.
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2007-10-26 16:19:23 · answer #2 · answered by Shel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have no idea how much Jesus loves you. Celebrate the struggle. Love is a decision, not a feeling, and we have a choice. Jesus will never over step our free will. He loves us too much to do that. Never give up. Enjoy life knowing that you are a saved, chosen child of Jesus and a participant of what Jesus died to give us. Don't allow Satan or anyone else to tell you any differently. In order for your daughter to not go through this when she is older you need to teach her the truth about Jesus NOW!! You wouldn't allow her to make decisions at this age to determine if she should eat chocolate cake all day, run into oncoming traffic, or decide if she should start Kindergarten. Why would you want her to make the biggest decision of her life concerning her eternal salvation without guidance from her mom. That's your biggest challenge as a mother, to teach your child about Jesus so they don't grow up doubting. Your a good mother and you want what is best for your child. Jesus wants what is best for you also. Join a Christian community for support. Try the Catholic Church if you want the entire fullness of everything that Jesus died to give us. All Christians have the truth of the Resurrection of Jesus and how he died to save us from our sins. Only the Catholic Church has the unbroken link starting from St. Peter the first Pope to the present day Pope Benedict XVI.
2007-10-27 02:52:21 · answer #3 · answered by Handmaid of the Lord 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry you are getting some of the answers in here that you are. I am glad to hear that you love the Lord and will offer this 1 Corinthians 10:13 it has helped me so much. Remember that even Christians sin and have hard times your faith is not where you want is to be it is hard for some one to day trust in God and you just do it God always hears your prayers and he his helping you you just can't see it yet try turning one thing at a time over to him and go from there He will not fix all your problems but he will lead you to the right path. Find a good church in your area continue to pray and believe and don't get discouraged God is there. lots of love and God bless
2007-10-26 13:37:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You say "I really want to raise my child to believe and have no doubts, but how can I when I don't feel it?"
Believing doesn't mean never having any doubts.
Temptation to doubt is the way our faith is tested.
You say "I have a real problem trusting that God will make sure things turn out the way they are supposed to."
Perhaps you are trying to make things turn out your way.
Christianity is not a concept;-} it's a relationship.
Relationships are built on developing faith & trust.
The fact that you are a single mum, sounds like you have a
problem forming relationships & trusting; maybe with cause.
You need a supportive community; we call it church.
You mention believing & praying, but not going to church.
2007-10-26 13:43:35 · answer #5 · answered by Robert S 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I dont think you should try forcing your daughter into having "no doubts" you can teach her and tell her what you believe, but sooner or later she will go through the same thing you are, and maybe she wont make the same choice as you. And you should accept that. You should also accept that maybe deep down, your smarter than you think and you know deep down, that hey, maybe there isnt a God. I mean, would it really be that bad?
2007-10-26 13:27:48 · answer #6 · answered by Indiana Jonas 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Surrender - give Him those things in your life that are hindering His Holy Spirit from working in your life. Pray something like this - "Jesus, I believe that you are the Son of God. I believe you loved me so much that you gave your sinless life as a sacrifice for my sins. I believe that you were crucified, you were buried, and you rose from the dead on the third day. I accept this by faith, Jesus, and I'm asking you to be Lord of my life. Help me through your Holy Spirit to be what you would have me to be as a woman and as a mother. Please take away all the things in my life that are not pleasing to you. As I read the Bible, give me understanding of Your Word. Help me to place my trust in You and not in myself. Thank you Jesus. Amen"
2007-10-26 14:39:32 · answer #7 · answered by Virginia B (John 16:33) 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Read the power of Positive thinking Dr.Norman vincent Peale Change your thinking change your life.ts go to guideposts its a christian web site . I visit every day
2007-10-26 15:46:37 · answer #8 · answered by Grand pa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried sitting in on other religions? Maybe Christianity isn't the religion for you. There are more religions than Christianity, and you may find another more fitting to your beliefs/lifestyle.
2007-10-26 13:24:13 · answer #9 · answered by Nerds Rule! 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
This happens to many non-Muslims when God wants to guide them to the right religion Islam. Try reading on the following sites. It won't hurt you. You will find the the way of God and peace of mind.
http://www.islambasics.com/
http://www.islam101.com/
http://www.islamreligion.com/
2007-10-26 13:38:48 · answer #10 · answered by majeed3245 7 · 0⤊ 3⤋