wouldn't you think this is mean & inappropriate?
especially when she says "you'll get more gifts" & "your aunts are too old to travel." my "old" aunts travel often & driving or being driven less than 1hr away is not asking too much.
2007-10-26 13:14:53 · 12 answers · asked by chit-chaat7 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
tell her that there is going to be one baby shower and she can come if she wants. play the demanding pregnant woman if you want lol. unless you want two. personally i think she is being difficult and unreasonable, but i don't know your family situation.
2007-10-26 13:23:17 · answer #1 · answered by bucketforacrown 3 · 5⤊ 2⤋
It's not only mean and inappropriate, it's just wrong. You have a right to say how your baby shower will be and also who is invited. This kind of a thing will only drive a wedge between your mother and the stepmother. You dont need to look for ways to cause family problems. Tell the stepmother politely that you prefer to combine her and your mother in the same shower. She sounds like a real peach.
2007-10-26 13:51:21 · answer #2 · answered by techtwosue 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I don't think she was trying to be mean..... I really don't know her or your mom, or what the relationship between them is, but I'd rather think that she was trying to NOT bother your mom by not attending the shower she's organizing and just thinking about giving a separate one. Her comments were stupid though........ about the gifts and your aunts. But I can understand that she feels like she won't feel comfortable with your mother's family and friends, especially if the relationship is not good. So I don't think she was trying to bother anyone, but it's up to you to accept or refuse if you really think you wouldn't like a shower thrown by her but without your mom's family there. Personally, I know that if I had a step mother, my mother would NEVER forgive me for inviting her (step mom)into the shower she (mom) was giving for me -- so step mom would be left out for sure and then that's probably why she would want to give me a separate one. So maybe in order not to bother anyone you can accept the 2 showers, but if this isn't the case do whatever makes you feel comfortable.
2007-10-26 13:43:00 · answer #3 · answered by Lprod 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is nothing new under the sun. A Stepmother does not want to be with your Mother's family. It is not good to compare what each family can do and give to you. That is un-called for. So you need to understand the situation your Stepmother is in. It would be great if all could get along, but un-fortunately that does not happen. IF I was your Stepmother, I would try to include your Mother, but to me it would be un-comfortable. I am sure your Father feels the same way. The Family is divided and it never will change. Each Mother should give their own showers for you. As you get older, the situation will be more understandable. Try to understand.
2007-10-26 13:24:48 · answer #4 · answered by Norskeyenta 6 · 2⤊ 2⤋
I think your stepmother is creating a 'divide' in the family and it is not necessary. She is putting you on the spot, not even thinking that you don't approve of her tactics. You are a very smart young lady - I'm proud of you for seeing through this. Don't let her draw you into this! Tell her you'd rather have your family (olders aunts) than gifts. Family is more important and you love them. Tell her you'll go get them - you don't mind! I fear she is 'throwing' you this 'big shower' for show!!! Her show - not your's . Sad.
2007-10-26 14:02:13 · answer #5 · answered by Mercedes 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can have more than one baby shower. This usually happens when people are spread out all over the place. If this is the case, tell her go for it.
If you have a lot of people in one place, it might be a HUGE baby shower... and can always be broken up into two. Just make sure they are not invited to both baby showers.
2007-10-26 15:51:34 · answer #6 · answered by Terri 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that was extremely rude on your step-mothers part. I would let her know that it hurt your feelings that she basically referred to your mothers family as poor. Does your father know she made this comment? I think you should let him know. I also think you should let your step-mother know that you would feel uncomfortable with a separate baby shower. I am a stepmother and I would never say anything derogatory regarding my stepchildrens mother or Aunts.
2007-10-26 13:29:34 · answer #7 · answered by cbsncmom 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
sounds like it's your stepmother who doesn't want to be bothered with your real mom and relatives... Some second wives like to pretend there wasn't someone else before them...She can't keep up that fantasy if your entire biological family is staring her in the face!
2007-10-26 13:19:14 · answer #8 · answered by maccrew6 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
if youre offended tell her you'd rather not but she's right it means more gifts and more playing with that register toy thingy at Babys-R-Us.
If youre uncomfortable with it or you think it will offend someone just say no.
2007-10-26 14:40:27 · answer #9 · answered by Rainey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two baby showers.
Wow........whats to analyze ?
Let her have the party for you.
2007-10-28 11:24:07 · answer #10 · answered by saltydawg02 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋