I think my pastor does not like me. Everytime I come up to the alter to give my offering he runs off the pulpit and goes back up when I reach me seat. I have noticed this several time. I really love this church and it is hard for me because, I say this in the most humble way I can because I think they may not be used very attractive women in the penacostal church. I like to where some make and I used to be a runway model in paris. I am not a hoe and I do make eye contact with the pastor and other people in the church. Do I have a dark spirit or something as I why when he sees me he looks me in the eye and flees! I am scared as I would love to be involved there but I don't want to cause any man temptation or have a bad reputation.
What could be the problem as to why he does this? Is this my fault and what can I do to stop it.
Thank you for your understanding!
2007-10-26 13:07:25 · 13 answers · asked by Queen459789 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
It could just be a matter of timing when you go to the altar to give your offering. It depends on the variety of Pentecostal church that you attend, but some do not wear makeup at all. (my family was asked to leave more than one Pentecostal church years ago when I was a child because my mother wore makeup). However, many Pentecostals welcome women who wear makeup (as our family discovered). It is unlikely that the pastor feels you have a "dark spirit." It is possible that he may perceive your eye contact as a seductive. Perhaps it is himself, and not you, that he is afraid of because of your attractiveness, and wishes to avoid sinning, leading you into sin, or giving others opportunity to accuse or gossip. Perhaps his wife is insecure, and he only wants to keep peace at home. He may be a very good pastor and truly care, but isn't sure how to approach the situation. He may have been burned before by women who wished to harm his reputation or cause problems in the church. He doesn't want to take any chances. There have been notable spiritual leaders who have fallen, and his apparent desire to avoid that is commendable. That is a man who you can trust. I would encourage you to become involved with the women of the church. Many of them can teach you and provide opportunities for you to become involved in the church. Interacting one-on-one with your pastor is not required for you to benefit from the church's ministry. Give your pastor the benefit of the doubt. If his ministry is helping you to grow spiritually, stay. Also, praying about the situation may give you additional insight.
2007-10-26 13:28:44 · answer #1 · answered by reap100 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if your pastor is married, he may be trying to avoid temptation.
I don't know if the solution is to speak to him privately when he's obviously uncomfortable around you. Perhaps you might want to consult a senior female member of the congregation, or perhaps have another person present when you speak to him.
Now if you are dressing in form-fitting clothing at church, I think you might want to expect a pastor to avert his eyes rather than ogle you. But running away from the pulpit is just bringing attention to the situation, and that's excessive on his part. If you're not dressing in form-fitting clothes, then he's just being a prick. Please drop any idea of his behavior being your fault. He is the master of his own actions.
2007-10-26 13:32:12 · answer #2 · answered by nosleepthree 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im pentecostal also and i dont think he would be afraid of you or anything like that are you sure he runs off like that? Hmmmm some people may not be used to very attractive woen in the pentecostal church but most of the time everyone is friendly i wouldnt say he has a crush on you or anything about his thoughts because Go would lead him through it. You should pray about it and God will lead you through it
2007-10-26 13:17:37 · answer #3 · answered by Billy Bob 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he's got a crush on you and may not know how to approach you. He might be shy. Also, some men are intimidated by attractive women--they're afraid of rejection. Maybe you should take the first step and go out of your way to be a bit more friendly to him to show him that you're nothing to be afraid of.
2007-10-26 13:20:54 · answer #4 · answered by Bookworm 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Can you get involved without going to the Pastor? It seems He may be avoiding temptation by avoiding you. Maybe it is what your wearing...Something to think about.
2007-10-26 13:17:20 · answer #5 · answered by *DestinyPrince* 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
The only way you will know is to talk about it with your pastor.
2007-10-26 13:11:29 · answer #6 · answered by tellthetruthabc 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I doubt he sees a dark secret. You should ask him yourself. The best source is the primary source.
2007-10-26 13:11:31 · answer #7 · answered by . 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You aren't the problem. He is!!!!!! Don't you dare leave that church. He has a lust problem w/ you woman! Also, if you are now saved from alll that garbage. He is backing away because he feels God's conviction for his thoughts/feelings. I will pray for you!!!!! God Bless!
2007-10-26 13:16:52 · answer #8 · answered by paula r 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I would recommend speaking with him, you may just be imagining things or it really may be him avoiding temptation-- if you do infact tempt him that much I would recommend another church.
2007-10-26 13:11:59 · answer #9 · answered by Sweety_8513(Brooke H) 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
He could have a little bit of a crush on you. Maybe he's shy.
2007-10-26 13:10:52 · answer #10 · answered by Nerds Rule! 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋